To think that people should keep their voice down to a reasonable volume in public

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And when it comes to coffee places, or quiet lounge type establishments the offenders are mostly women 😩
In every group there seems to be a lady that almost screams when laughing, or has an overly high pitched voice shouting over everyone - constantly. Or when two groups of younger women are bumping into each other there is this out of control scream - why, I only want to know why.
Yes, I am writing this while sitting in a cosy brunch place, outside, surrounded by nature, all tables occupied and of course there is that one table with a lady who laughs like crazy screaming to every single sentence the other person at her table is uttering and then she shouts her responses in a high pitch voice, still barely catching her breath screaming...
Many guests are glancing in her direction as she screams - she minds her own business (good for her I guess 😄).
But does this bother people, or just those of us with lack of sleep perhaps 😅
How come people enjoy being the loudest...

Yes it does make me cringe but I try to remember that It's mostly fake and put on, under all that facade there is probably a very insecure person hiding.

Yes. But won't happen.

I could have written this. Yesterday in a small coffee shop two girls chatting with a lot of effing too.

My child seems to have been blessed with the Brian Blessed volume control. Thankfully mainly it's at home as she is selectively mute outside of the house! Maybe these people are the same.

Doesn’t bother me at all but I did live in a very busy, loud household growing up, I probably learnt how to tune it out very early on lol.

There was a table like this in a restaurant last night. Three women in their 60s. DD and I just eyerolled to each other. They came across as loud and vulgar but clearly thought they were the Bees Knees.

Me too.

Yes, it's awful. Just screaming and dominating the whole place. For me it means I can't hear my own friends. I've started actually just leaving when people are carrying on like this. I have stopped letting them spoil my life if I can. There are other places, after all. We can self sort ourselves into calm pleasant spaces and screeching monkey places, probably - everybody's happy.

I think yabu. I am deaf and have been told over and again that I am too loud. I can't hear my volume and have become quite self conscious about it due to ride people commenting. I'd imagine the group of older ladies another poster mentioned may be dealing with the same, or perhaps have partially deaf people in their lives and as such adjust to a higher volume. Live and let live surely?

I was on a busy train with dh and a group of women got on. One lady was especially loud with a screeching laugh, everyone was eye rolling but she was oblivious. We learnt all about her wedding, how nauseous she had felt when she woke up that morning and gave away that one of her party had the shits!! I gave up trying to read my book because I just couldn’t concentrate. 🙄

It brings out the ex- teacher in me. I just want to say "Indoor voices please!"

I agree - this all sounds very annoying.

But I find that men do it too - often with big booming voices, overly loud laugh etc

I'd love to know why those people who make screaming noises for laughter do it. It's embarrassing to witness and makes the room unbearable for everyone else.

There was a woman on the bus in her mature years yelling down the phone to I presume her adult son because I heard some very personal details about his life. Really, love, keep it down.

Wow, someone's put their bitchy pants on today.
What a horrid post

We don’t know we do this! (I work in a supermarket and sometimes when it gets quiet I realise me and another girl are making all the noise!!!)

Statement of fact I thought.

Completely agree.

Some people in places like trains or coffee shops are just so loud...

I was sitting next to a woman in her 40s in a coffee shop while having lunch.

She was making one loud work call after another.

She also stayed for over an hour with just one drink while the place was full of people trying to find space to have lunch which I thought was really disrespectful to the staff.

Loud, self-centred and entitled...

Oh gosh, one of my friends is a bit like this. She has a very loud voice and is always gesticulating while talking and bangs her hands on the table to emphasise a point. She is truly lovely and we’re used to it now, but people do give us eye rolls when we’re out.

I felt guilty because I'd booked a table, but sat down in a restaurant last week, and the table of women at the other end of the restaurant were screaming and cackling so loudly that by the time the waiter came back to take our order we said we were leaving because of the noise.

Used to have coffee every Saturday in lovely little café/tea shop. The loudest people were the male (all male, no ladies) bike riders. It was impossible to have a conversation once they arrived, we quite often left when when we saw them come through the door

There was a woman with her mother in Sainsbury’s yesterday, in the TU section and she was roaring away the whole time, with every single thought that must have entered her tiny brain.

My young child was trying shoes on and we couldn’t hear each other over the performative shout-talking about a load of old shite!

I honestly can’t understand why people think you want to hear their incredibly boring conversations.

STFU!

(Bah humbug etc..)😅

They are woo girls.

I don't understand them either. I hate them too.

I can only rationalise it as they were bought up to not care about other people they share a space with. When I was a child if I got too loud I was told "shush, you'll disturb the neighbours" or "Keep your voice down, the whole shop doesn't want to hear you" Clearly these women have never been taught these things.

Yes it's interesting @ThinWomansBrain - restaurants don't care at ALL about noise. They never ask anyone to stop bellowing or screaming even when it's obvious it's spoiling a lot of customer's experience (as in, you can see all the looks and annoyance). They in fact often make it all worse with awful piped music driving everyone's volume up.

But who enjoys this? I don't know who wants nightclub noise in a restaurant. I haven't heard anyone, ever, saying the cafe was great - really noisy and great.

I really like hard techno. I like loud noises, in context. But at no point do I want to discuss someone's upcoming job interview or new kitchen while sick beats are blowing my mind. Businesses seem to have lost the idea of creating a welcoming, pleasant environment.

People think that they are so interesting and important that everyone else is desperate to hear what they are saying because they are such fun 🙄

In reality, these people are usually tedious, entitled and full of their own self importance and no-one gives a fuck about their boring stories or conversations but we are all still forced to listen to them.

Or maybe I'm just in a bad mood today 😂