To think that people should keep their voice down to a reasonable volume in public

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And when it comes to coffee places, or quiet lounge type establishments the offenders are mostly women 😩
In every group there seems to be a lady that almost screams when laughing, or has an overly high pitched voice shouting over everyone - constantly. Or when two groups of younger women are bumping into each other there is this out of control scream - why, I only want to know why.
Yes, I am writing this while sitting in a cosy brunch place, outside, surrounded by nature, all tables occupied and of course there is that one table with a lady who laughs like crazy screaming to every single sentence the other person at her table is uttering and then she shouts her responses in a high pitch voice, still barely catching her breath screaming...
Many guests are glancing in her direction as she screams - she minds her own business (good for her I guess 😄).
But does this bother people, or just those of us with lack of sleep perhaps 😅
How come people enjoy being the loudest...

At some point you just need to ask them to keep the volume down. Most people after being told nicely, get really embarrassed and make sure they are quieter. Some argue back but once you’ve told them every other person in the restaurant hasn’t come out to hear them screeching like a strangled cat they really do tend to shut up or just leave.

If I’m out by myself or on a train journey, etc I’ve found my Sony noise cancelling headphones are invaluable.

See also Americans, why are they so loud?

I feel and hear your pain.

It's been known for me to approach such people and ask them to lower their voices. It's unacceptable to impinge on other people's quiet enjoyment.

Re headphones. Yes they help.
( not for child shrieking though)
Why should we need to carry equipment round to preserve our enjoyment because of these rude and selfish adults?

I have found that too @Candystripes85

Yes I can’t stand loud talkers and shrieking in public places . Women are the main offenders. I am female and I wish people would modify their volume, plain rude! I’ve left a restaurant because of a table of screaming women next to me.

100%

I think that’s totally acceptable thing to do if people are going to be un-self aware and disrespecting everyone around thems right to quiet enjoyment

Except when you miss important announcement- why should we be forced to drown out other people’s selfish noise

Brilliant!

My mother perpetually told me off for 'being loud'. Apparently I was 'always shouting', although nobody else ever remarked on it, apart from some people who would mention that I always seemed to be talking.

I was diagnosed as ADHD when I turned 60. I'm also now partially deaf, so it's got me coming and going...

Hearing aids helped a friend of mine to modulate her volume.@Vroomfondleswaistcoat

Not as bad as performative parenting - shall we have an avocado timmy , can you point to the avocado , avocados are pear shaped , what colour are they , oh yes that’s a nice one etc etc etc - just get the fucking avocado and move on

Not quite bad enough hearing loss yet, unfortunately. So I'm caught in the middle ground - plus I think it's the ADHD causes me to struggle with background noise. Hearing aids are, however, in my near future!

This!

It's just the rise in selfishness and self-obsession that is the modern plague. Being loud is only one example, others include selfish parking, jumping queues, blocking pavements and supermarket aisles - the list is very long!

I remember being in a cafe and a group of Italians came in all talking very loudly and very quickly. It honestly felt like a woodpecker was hammering away at my head. I accept it was my problem rather than theirs though.

Growing up I was always taught that in cafes etc if the people on the next table can hear you you're too loud.

Depends on the circumstances, really. On a train, in a hotel lobby, in a waiting room, in shops - yeah, keep your voice down. In a pub or a bar or a restaurant where groups of people are gathering to chat and laugh and drink and enjoy themselves - not really a big deal. I’d certainly rather hear people laughing and being a bit raucous than, say, loud music, or whining/screaming children.

I actually dislike restaurants that have a hushed atmosphere. My favourite ever fine-dining restaurant is always full, and apart from the amazing food and service, one of our favourite things about it is that everyone there always seems to be laughing, having fun, celebrating etc. Sure, sometimes it’s loud, but it’s also great to be surrounded by people enjoying themselves.

I went out for a meal with three friends a couple of years ago and the restaurant owner brought us after-dinner cocktails for free because he said we’d made him laugh 🤷🏻‍♀️ We’d been in tears of laughter for much of the evening and he said he loves it when people have such a good time.

I there’s a) a time and a place for it and b) a difference between being a bit raucous having a laugh with a group of friends and being loud deliberately to seek attention or make others feel uncomfortable.

i actually dislike restaurants that have a hushed atmosphere

Yeah but some people just talk at full volume when normal volume would do, honestly some people have no vocal control and think they have to shout to be heard . It’s grating.

Tell me about it. There's a particular group of women who regularly frequent my favourite coffee shop who, when they appear,my heart sinks and I think please don't sit near me. Which they inevitably do. One of these 4 women has a particularly piercing voice,even if she's not talking loudly. The sort that goes right through your eardrums. Sd for her laugh..... After an hour of this,my ears are literally smarting. And don't get me started on people on buses who talk on their phone at top volume. Usually with the phone on speaker. No,we don't all want to know what you got up to at the weekend.

Yes I agree.

There was an article in Stylist magazine recently asking if we've become more sensitive to noise or whether it's actually become noisier - and the answer was: both!

If you travel on SWR there are so many pointless announcements you'll be only too glad to drown them out ;)

Yes ! My friend and I had a summer evening pub drink ruined by a totally inconsiderate group of people next to us including a child who was allowed to run riot.