To think that people should keep their voice down to a reasonable volume in public

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And when it comes to coffee places, or quiet lounge type establishments the offenders are mostly women 😩
In every group there seems to be a lady that almost screams when laughing, or has an overly high pitched voice shouting over everyone - constantly. Or when two groups of younger women are bumping into each other there is this out of control scream - why, I only want to know why.
Yes, I am writing this while sitting in a cosy brunch place, outside, surrounded by nature, all tables occupied and of course there is that one table with a lady who laughs like crazy screaming to every single sentence the other person at her table is uttering and then she shouts her responses in a high pitch voice, still barely catching her breath screaming...
Many guests are glancing in her direction as she screams - she minds her own business (good for her I guess 😄).
But does this bother people, or just those of us with lack of sleep perhaps 😅
How come people enjoy being the loudest...

I loathe loud people. A table near a bunch of braying women is my worst nightmare. Or the performance parent who sat beside me and my colleague in Pret last week. She spoke so loudly and incessantly to her toddler that we moved tables.

You are absolutely right, OP, but some people lack either any social awareness........ or a volume button!

What did these women’s age have to do with anything?

No. I like hearing everything from weird ass 70s von Daniken chariots of the gods level shit to the shrieking rants to that screaming Russian dude that's on every train.

Earlier today while I was sitting in the doctors reception, a woman was having an extremely loud conversation on her speakerphone - it lasted from the time I arrived until the time I was called into the back.
I didn’t want to eavesdrop - but she forced me to eavesdrop.
I hate it when that happens.
I can’t pinpoint the exact day people became so uncouth, but I believe it was it was the day iPhones were introduced into the world.

Some people can't help it, my BFF is really loud and I often tell her to be quieter. People I don't mind, people on phones or facetime or no headphones though is rude and obnoxious, it's a different, more annoying loud

I agree and not cackle. However some are a bit deaf and don't realise how loud they are.

I will just leave wherever I am if there are unnecessarily OTT loud people.

On trains though with loud speakers on it’s harder.
Had an airport worker in uniform do it while I was waiting for my flight, came and sat right next to me. I looked at them and said “I’m not listening to that” got up and moved. They didn’t even register that I had spoken, no idea, not a care, not a single fuck given.

It actually hurts my head and ears and causes me distress.
I just cannot understand why it is necessary.

Wow, no wonder brits are so incredibly depressed as a whole 😂

I'd expect people almost as old as me to know better!

Yes, I agree.

I just don't like loud people, so I am a bit biased, I admit. Sometimes it's alchohol-fuelled, especially in restaurants and pubs. Just recently I had ask my husband to stop even trying to have a conversation because of a table of shriekers nearby. Every laugh was a decibel-busting skrike - horrible. We ate in silence and left sooner than we'd planned. I feel very inhibited nowadays when invited out for a meal - in fact, I draw the line at spending an embarrassing evening trying to lip-read and shouting over the table at people, just because there are loud diners making a racket.

I know some people have hearing impairments and this means that not only do you have to speak loudly to them, but they often develop a habit of speaking loudly back. I think you can usually discern when this is the case, and this category of people (my parents and in-laws, for eg) were definitely not the antisocial type of loud-speakers.

I agree. Being surrounded by loud, inconsiderate horrors is depressing. They spoil everything for others, but hey - they're having a great time, so what's not to like?

In my experience men are the worst culprits. Those loud, booming guys who want the entire restaurant to know about their VILLA IN TUSCANY, or that totes hilare story about that time they were absolutely bladdered.

My adult daughter has ASD and habitually speaks more loudly than most people. She is aware and has asked us to gently remind her in public. But, like older people or anyone who suffers from hearing impairment, this is just not the same anti-social type of loudness as the drunken/totally uninhibited variety.

Just got off a busy train, variously:

”I’M ON THE TRAIN, ITS REALLY NOISY SO I CAN’T HEAR YOU”

[sniff, snort, hock]

”F’ING THIS AND THAT”

””I’M ON THE TRAIN”

”HELLO MATE, I’M RINGING YOU FIRST THEN I AM GOING TO RING TOM DICK AND HARRY ABOUT THIS WORK PROBLEM” [so all the train can hear it]

””I’M ON THE TRAIN”
”ITS DELAYED SO NOT SURE HOW LATE I WILL BE”

rinse and repeat.

We were in the Caribbean last month. Almost all hotel guests were American. Jesus, they were so LOUD. They’d be standing next to each other and shouting. Sitting on an adjacent table to them in a restaurant was horrible. It’s just obnoxious to be like that and so unaware.

People can help it

I just don't understand how people manage to keep going at such a loud volume for so long. If I raise my voice its very obvious to me that I'm not speaking in my "normal" speaking voice and it's not sustainable for more than a few sentences - how do people physically carry on whole conversations at max volume????

It's always people having really boring conversations that are the loudest as well - empty vessels make the most noise! I wouldn't mind so much if the conversations were at least juicy or entertaining!

It's also concerning how many people speak about their work at max volume in public places. My neighbour is a probation officer and the amount of private details I've heard from her having conversations in the garden are unbelievable.

I sympathise completely. I am so sick of all the NOISE everywhere.

People and their loud conversations everywhere, on public transport, in the supermarket, in the gym, the sauna, the swimming pool, the school playground, everywhere, and combined with the noise of people's phones playing music or stupid inane videos.
At home it's bloody American YouTube kids shouting the heads off and running around screaming. DH's phone, the TV, the kids arguing or playing or saying mummy mummy mummy, the kids next door on their trampolines, the dog across the road that never shuts up.
Sometimes in the evenings when everyone is asleep and the TV is off I can feel the silence wash over me like I just got into a lovely warm bubble bath and I just sit there for ages doing nothing, just enjoying the silence. It's beautiful.

I heard guests of my neighbours discussing anal the other day. Thanks for that 🙄

I have known two people with no volume control and, actually, they were both women.

Unfortunately one was an ex SIL so we had to go out for family meals fairly regularly with her. As well as being very loud she talked A LOT, almost constantly. It was embarrassing because you could often see other people in the restaurant looking over and frowning in our direction, but she was totally unaware.

The other woman I knew like this I only rarely saw socially but it was similar in a pub or restaurant. Mostly I knew her through work where she could be heard all over the building.

One other thing these women had in common was they were both quick tempered and confrontational so asking them to quieten down would not have gone well.

In fact I can remember the day that the work colleague found out that a senior manager had requested that he wasn't sat near her in our upcoming move to an open plan office because she was too loud. She went absolutely BALLISTIC, screaming and shouting so much she could probably have been heard in the car park.

What is it with Americans? They are SO LOUD! Every American I've ever met talks at max volume. I don't dislike them generally but I just find their volume so grating. They can't help it or seem to realise.
I really want to go to New York for my 40th but the loudness puts me off.

Oh no - you have my sympathy!

Some people make it impossible for others to enjoy spaces - even their own gardens. I wouldn't even play music outside never mind discuss my sex life.

Husband came home really pissed off yesterday. He's a seasoned commuter but he said the tube was SO noisy, mainly with loud women discussing the details of their recent dates...not dissimilar to your neighbours.

People like this need to take a long, hard look at themselves. Where did all this entitlement and 'F... you, I'll do what I like!' attitude come from?

For every shrieking woman there's a booming man I find.

Totally agree. I dont like going out as much anymore, as I like the relative peace and quiet at home. The outside is too noisy and crowded these days 😔