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Trans men are women according to Gender Critical Movement

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ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

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Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 16:04

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/02/2025 14:52

You've been quite rude yourself @Cornflakes123. Asking you what appearance a "trans man" has was a "stupid question" according to you.

Quite so Eresh.

user1471523931 · 22/02/2025 16:06

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 08:43

If someone is experiencing pain, mental agony due to them feeling they are physically the wrong gender - this must be incredibly traumatic. Can you imagine what it must feel like to feel you have the wrong gender, the wrong body? I can’t as I do not feel that way, but what business is it of anyone else to make judgement. All of us have male and female chromosomes, X & Y. Whats interesting is in nature, gender is not rigid - animals/ species change or flip btw genders, changing their gender from birth. Some species have both male and female characteristics and sexual organs. (As do some humans). Some species behave as if they were the opposite sex - the diversity is present in nature. It’s nothing groundbreaking, strange, nor unnatural. We humans have created a rigid concept of binary gender - which isn’t based on facts. I can appreciate this is challenging but look to nature to see the diversity. As a side note, following the fact that diversity is entirely natural, why can’t we allow others to live their lives in ways they want - it isn’t causing any harm. There seems to be some hysteria about men in changing rooms - I can’t recall prior to a few years ago anyone really getting up in arms about this. I struggle with why all of a sudden this issue has become to talked about. It’s strange and has a whiff of scapegoating and finding ways to create “otherness”’ rather than wanting to embrace diversity and live together peacefully, accepting others as they want to be accepted. This is a useful article about diversity in nature. www.snexplores.org/article/explainer-male-female-flexibility-animals

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Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 16:12

Gallstoned · 22/02/2025 15:55

This is not true.
What type of men attack women in toilets then?

I think you are referring to the pre-meditated serious rapist type, who may or may not go in anyway. It's certainly easier in mixed sex anyway.

What about opportunists, phone recording etc.

There was a story only last month about the new mixed sex toilets in the clubs in Manchester (I think) where a woman was pushed into the toilet by a drunk guy.

The story of the girls at school who have boys in groups outside the cubicles ridiculing girls for having periods and pushing in the door.

https://www.birminghammail.co.uk/news/midlands-news/school-responds-after-girl-left-26489704

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You are right Gallstoned.

Harm does not require attack either. Harm to female people from any male person entering a space they need to be single sex can be in many other forms. Including loss of privacy. And voyeurism, exhibitionism, inappropriate behaviour in any form. And don't forget some female people now self limit themselves to avoid those spaces.

It is not just about attack and it never was. Although, attack remains a strong discussion point because it does happen and is not easily dismissed. While female people's boundaries are very easily and regularly dismissed.

TheKeatingFive · 22/02/2025 16:14

Booboobagins · 22/02/2025 15:58

They can transition to another gender in law. Therefore whether you're saying gender is or isn't a real thing is a moot point.

If you have nothing constructive to say that helps people who want to change their gender, then perhaps best to say nothing.

Well no. Stupid laws have always existed and will continue to. People should call them out.

As no one can actually define gender, the concept of 'transitioning' from one to another makes zero sense.

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 16:14

Glitterknickerbockers · 22/02/2025 15:59

It's standard practice for this group of posters. I'd just give up and move on for your own sanity tbh.

yeh so if you don’t agree with this “group of posters” you are immediately shunned and made to feel like your opinion doesn’t count. I stand by what I said and I’m entitled to my opinion just like the “group”

spannasaurus · 22/02/2025 16:15

I have a question for any posters who believe transmen are men. If a transman is sent to prison should they be sent to a mens prison or women's prison?

WillIEverBeOk · 22/02/2025 16:16

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 15:53

I didn’t say I don’t care I just think it’s absolutely impossible to police. And in reality trans men wouldn’t be welcomed into the women’s toilet. Toilets are such anonymous places in general it’s impossible to discern someone’s sex from a glance in the toilet.

Strange how for decades and decades it was very possible to police. Until like, the last 10 years. Strange how now we've lost that ability we always had.

And women can usually accurately sex someone at even a quick sideways glance. Women know this.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 22/02/2025 16:18

Blurgh... total lost me there babes... what?

margegunderson · 22/02/2025 16:30

ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 03:08

It is having one's lived experience denied that is responsible for the psychological trauma. It is bring gaslighted about the most fundamental aspect of one's being. Everytime the wrong pronoun is used, everytime a gender designation appears on an identity document that conflicts with an individuals innate experience of themself, everytime the individual has to walk into a changing room, public toilet, or hospital ward that conflicts with their innate experience of themself, every time they are referred to by a given name that conflicts with their innate experience of their self, a transgender person is being gaslit and emotionally abused.

Gender identity refers to how an individual experiences their "I". Nobody else but the individual him/ herself has access to a person's "I'. This "I" which we all have is the most fundamental experience of who "I" am. Absolutely nobody else can tell us how we should experience our sense of "I' because it is a subject and falls outside the domain of objective inquiry.

The almost universal criteria used historically to identify the biological sex of an individual at birth is the presence or lack of a penis. Presence of penis = boy, lack of penis =girl. The designation of the sex of an individual on their birth certificate reflects the categorisation of the individual's sex according to this criteria.

If the biological sex of an individual cannot be changed then the results of using the same test to determine the sex of the individual at birth would remain unchanged no matter at what point the criteria was applied during an individual's life. If the same criteria is applied to a post op transgender woman her lack of a penis would mean that her biological sex would be determined to be female not male. Since the Gender Critical Movement's ideology declares that sex is binary - there is no spectrum- an individual without a penis and outer female genitals is by default designated female. A post op transgender woman is categorised as female therefore using the same criteria that categorised her as male at birth.

It is this simple basic logic that was responsible for the term transsexual being coined - so yes, an individual can change their biological sex and a post op transgender woman is therefore a biological woman.

Their lived experience? They've mostly lived as their chromosomal sex. They might not feel comfortable with it for all sorts of reasons (SA, puberty, ND?) but that doesn't mean they are the other sex.
Dress how you like, be what you like but sex is immutable and don't try to claim women's spaces or rights as your own. We need those because we are chromosomally women and therefore smaller/less strong/bear children.
This is the only thing on which o have ever agreed with Trump. I guess even a stopped clock is right once or twice a day.
Your post is a load of waffle. Wordy word soup waffle. And that's being kind to it.

niadainud · 22/02/2025 16:33

It's not really a matter of being "according to" anybody. Trans-women are men, period. (Or rather no period, because they're men. See above.)

ILikeDungs · 22/02/2025 16:34

Sorry to get involved in this when there has been so much back and forth already (I have been out), and I don't want Cornflakes to feel singled out at all but--

There is just no way of policing who goes into a toilet unfortunately.

So do we give up then? Because some people do things that are antisocial/ inappropriate/ unlawful and their actions are seemingly uncontrollable do we throw our hands up and say all right then, Go For It?

Most women do not want a man in her toilet. That is a boundary that should not be crossed even if you are not fussed. Women (transmen) nae bither.

Some may feel men in the toilets are fine. And by men I mean men or transwomen, who are also men. Some do feel that way but are not so keen to see them in women's changing rooms. As soon as you (general you) say, "ok, I'll give you the freedom of women's toilets but Grrrr! stay out of the changing rooms" the men will definitely be content and not bother women any more, right? Only remember when some women said "let's give them the word woman, who cares we still have 'female'." With Dr Upton and others, that didn't end well.

Meceme · 22/02/2025 16:43

ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

What a load of bollocks.
Trans people know their biological sex. I don't personally believe in the concept of gender but don't care if others do.
Trans people might not be happy about it and believe they should have been born the other sex but lots of people have dysphoric feelings. We don't necessarily go along with them.
In the case transpeople, I support them to wear whatever they like, use whatever name they please, love whichever consenting adult they are attracted to and basically live life without fear or persecution.
Where my support ends is the denial of reality which impinges on others rights to clear language, safety, dignity and privacy.

MuckSavage · 22/02/2025 16:47

ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

This is Mumsnet - not TRAnet.

Mightymoog · 22/02/2025 16:50

In the case transpeople, I support them to wear whatever they like, use whatever name they please, love whichever consenting adult they are attracted to and basically live life without fear or persecution.
Where my support ends is the denial of reality which impinges on others rights to clear language, safety, dignity and privacy

Yep, that's the crux of it for all sane people.
Wear what you want, I don't care
Shag whoever you want- I don't care as long as it's legal
Call yourself by whatever pronoun you want- I don't care but I won't also be butchering the English language so i won't return the pronoun
Pretend you are whatever you want- I don't care as long as I don't have any men in my changing rooms, toiletrs, prisons etc.

Oh, and I have just as much a right to an opinion as anyone else, and if i think you're nuts then that's my perogative and if that hurts your feelings, again, i don't care

IButtleSir · 22/02/2025 16:57

Meceme · 22/02/2025 16:01

I would imagine that in the very rare case of a transman passing so well that they were indistinguishable from biological men they would be sensitive enough to the worries of women (female lived experience before transition) not to use female single sex spaces. Perhaps gender neutral spaces would be more appropriate here.

Yes, I think gender neutral spaces (as much as I hate the word gender) are definitely useful for transmen.

SinnerBoy · 22/02/2025 16:59

Something was niggling me at the back of my mind and I've just realised what it was. In heraldry, a wyvern is a kind of snake. I wonder what sort of person would choose pink snake as a username?

It's a euphemism for something, alright.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/02/2025 17:02

yeh so if you don’t agree with this “group of posters” you are immediately shunned and made to feel like your opinion doesn’t count. I stand by what I said and I’m entitled to my opinion just like the “group”

And anyone is entitled to call out irrational and hypocritical posts you make too 🤷‍♀️ whether it's one person or many.

IButtleSir · 22/02/2025 17:03

BreatheAndFocus · 22/02/2025 15:55

Buck Angel, yes. Buck has that gnarled look and is older. But Jamie Raines still looks female to me despite their height. Everything about their face and mannerisms and way of talking screams female at me. I imagine it would be even more so in real life.

However, most transmen are clearly female. The facial hair would mean a second glance, but it would be pretty obvious once you properly looked.

That's interesting- I genuinely don't think I'd realise Jamie Raines is female if I didn't already know. Same for Aaron Kimberly.

I'd certainly feel uncomfortable if they walked into a changing room while I was naked, just as I would if a transwoman (most of whom don't pass at all) did.

dementedpixie · 22/02/2025 17:10

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:41

Oh for goodness sake, the doctors don't just choose a sex for a baby with a dsd! They do genetic testing to find out if they are male or female. And they will be male or female with a disorder of sexual development not a hybrid with bits and pieces of both sexes!

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 17:14

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/02/2025 17:02

yeh so if you don’t agree with this “group of posters” you are immediately shunned and made to feel like your opinion doesn’t count. I stand by what I said and I’m entitled to my opinion just like the “group”

And anyone is entitled to call out irrational and hypocritical posts you make too 🤷‍♀️ whether it's one person or many.

In your opinion it’s irrational that doesn’t make your opinion fact. I don’t agree that all trans men look like women. Or they are all 5ft nothing. Sorry.

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:20

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 14:47

In my opinion we are all going around in circles about it. There is just no way of policing who goes into a toilet unfortunately.

But there is. You , I , anyone can challenge a man entering a women's toilets.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 22/02/2025 17:25

SinnerBoy · 22/02/2025 16:59

Something was niggling me at the back of my mind and I've just realised what it was. In heraldry, a wyvern is a kind of snake. I wonder what sort of person would choose pink snake as a username?

It's a euphemism for something, alright.

Ooh good spot!!

BaMamma · 22/02/2025 17:28

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:20

But there is. You , I , anyone can challenge a man entering a women's toilets.

Not if the TRAs have anything to do with it!

OfNoOne · 22/02/2025 17:29

user1471523931 · 22/02/2025 16:06

This

... is scientifically incorrect.

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:30

BaMamma · 22/02/2025 17:28

Not if the TRAs have anything to do with it!

They can try and stop me. But I'm a middle aged woman with no fucks left to give and they'll have a fucking job 😃