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Tw*tish behaviour

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Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 08:00

Me and my sister have taken up indoor rock climbing. We went last night and it was quite. We are quite new to it but my sister i would say is naturally good at it. We picked a route to do and waited as other people were before us.
There was a group of men on the mat just looking at it and discussing it. I go up to do the route, Could only get half way. My sister goes after me and gets to the top bar 1 hold.
As soon as she's off this guy looks at us and struts up to do it. He is obviously taller than us so has some advantage. He completes the route. He jumps off, looks at us both and does a kind of quiet laugh and smirks and then goes back to his buddies and chats to them.
What was the need for it? Basically beating his man chest to say look i can do it and you can't. This kind of behaviour puts us off going.
I would say when we go it's mostly dominated by men in the centre, however there are so many nice men who offer help and encouragement and support. However I've begun to notice that there are a small amount that can't deal with a woman doing better than them. There's a slight undertone.
Aibu to be annoyed

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FionnulaTheCooler · 20/02/2025 08:03

Just ignore them and be glad you're not their wife/partner and don't have to put up with this pathetic behaviour on a regular basis. Maybe also contact the manager of the climbing venue and ask if they would consider running some female only sessions.

Fishfried · 20/02/2025 08:03

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SwanOfThoseThings · 20/02/2025 08:05

I'd have been tempted to respond with a really OTT pantomime of applause - whooping, clapping and shouting: 'Well done! Go you! Amazing achievement!" etc.😄

JohnSt1 · 20/02/2025 08:06

The best response to that he-man bullshit is to burst out laughing.

Ferrazzuoli · 20/02/2025 08:12

Just ignore OP. If you let it bother you then it will spoil your new hobby which would be a real shame.

jeaux90 · 20/02/2025 08:13

Some men are pricks, ignore or laugh is the best strategy

MyUmberSeal · 20/02/2025 08:13

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This

MagpiePi · 20/02/2025 08:14

I'd be tempted to copy Nancy Pelosi...

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 08:31

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Did you not read my post. He noticed us, looked at us, laughed then smirked.
No need for that behaviour

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Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 08:33

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In this example no she didn't but there have been other times where my sister has done a tough route and there's just a bad feeling from the men on the mat. It's hard to write in words but you feel it when you're there

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Ameliepoulainandthephotobooth · 20/02/2025 11:43

Just chuckle along with him. Haha you man, me woman.

I see it at the gym sometimes but don’t pay any attention. I’m doing the best that I can and I am happy.

Fishfried · 20/02/2025 11:44

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TitusMoan · 20/02/2025 11:46

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 08:33

In this example no she didn't but there have been other times where my sister has done a tough route and there's just a bad feeling from the men on the mat. It's hard to write in words but you feel it when you're there

It IS hard to write in words but most women will know exactly what you’re talking about. @Fishfried knows as well but just feels like disagreeing.

UpUpUpU · 20/02/2025 11:48

He’s obviously lacking in other areas of his life OP.

Just ignore him. That will be the most annoying thing to him I imagine

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 20/02/2025 11:53

In this instance I would just see it as a twat who just happens to be a man.

The fact that all his group weren't standing there laughing at you suggests that there's always one

RaveToTheGrave1 · 20/02/2025 12:00

Male posturing, they do it in my local gym and it's hilarious, they soon stop when they realise my leg press sets are harder than theirs 😂 you have to just ignore them, a lot of guys seem to need this constant one up on a woman.

SuzieBishop · 20/02/2025 12:02

Imagine being @Fishfried and having a reaction like that to a post 😂

MzHz · 20/02/2025 12:06

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 20/02/2025 11:53

In this instance I would just see it as a twat who just happens to be a man.

The fact that all his group weren't standing there laughing at you suggests that there's always one

funny how this kind of thing does seem to be done by those who 'just happen to be a man'

IamnotSethRogan · 20/02/2025 12:06

It's just an example of there being twats everywhere. No one else was there so no one can comment on his specific behaviour but just ignore him. Climbing gyms are on the whole full of pretty decent people so I wouldn't let this one bloke get to you.

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 12:08

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Why does it matter. I feel your posts are goady

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Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 12:11

IamnotSethRogan · 20/02/2025 12:06

It's just an example of there being twats everywhere. No one else was there so no one can comment on his specific behaviour but just ignore him. Climbing gyms are on the whole full of pretty decent people so I wouldn't let this one bloke get to you.

I agree most people there are nice. Its just a few that ruin it.
When I used to go to the gym I also had this with a few men trying to one up you on weights or give unsolicited advice and mansplain to you

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Fishfried · 20/02/2025 12:18

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Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 12:21

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No I've been going a few months

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Fishfried · 20/02/2025 12:22

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