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Tw*tish behaviour

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Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 08:00

Me and my sister have taken up indoor rock climbing. We went last night and it was quite. We are quite new to it but my sister i would say is naturally good at it. We picked a route to do and waited as other people were before us.
There was a group of men on the mat just looking at it and discussing it. I go up to do the route, Could only get half way. My sister goes after me and gets to the top bar 1 hold.
As soon as she's off this guy looks at us and struts up to do it. He is obviously taller than us so has some advantage. He completes the route. He jumps off, looks at us both and does a kind of quiet laugh and smirks and then goes back to his buddies and chats to them.
What was the need for it? Basically beating his man chest to say look i can do it and you can't. This kind of behaviour puts us off going.
I would say when we go it's mostly dominated by men in the centre, however there are so many nice men who offer help and encouragement and support. However I've begun to notice that there are a small amount that can't deal with a woman doing better than them. There's a slight undertone.
Aibu to be annoyed

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username299 · 20/02/2025 12:25

It's obviously very immature behaviour from a bit of a bully. He humiliated himself and I would forget about it.

wandawaves · 20/02/2025 12:30

Why did you stand around and watch him? Why give him an audience for his 'awesomeness'?

krustykittens · 20/02/2025 12:39

I gave up going to a local fitness group because of three men who were agressive bullies. Always had to be better than everyone else and were quite nasty if they felt a woman had bested them. 20 people in the group, 17 women and these dickheads and they ruined it for everyone.

Kittygolightlyy · 20/02/2025 12:41

JohnSt1 · 20/02/2025 08:06

The best response to that he-man bullshit is to burst out laughing.

Exactly. What a sorry sad insecure man. Be happy you’re not in his life.

YANBU - loads of men like that. Laugh at / ignore. x

CouchSpud · 20/02/2025 14:15

It is twatish behaviour, because if he was considerably better than you then he’d have chosen a different graded route on the wall. He repeated yours, which I’m guessing (sorry) was a lower V1-V3 grade?

Does your wall have a social? Mine has a women’s social and its fab and so welcoming

CouchSpud · 20/02/2025 14:16

wandawaves · 20/02/2025 12:30

Why did you stand around and watch him? Why give him an audience for his 'awesomeness'?

With bouldering in particular it can be useful and seen as normal to watch others to gain beta for the moves.

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 15:44

CouchSpud · 20/02/2025 14:15

It is twatish behaviour, because if he was considerably better than you then he’d have chosen a different graded route on the wall. He repeated yours, which I’m guessing (sorry) was a lower V1-V3 grade?

Does your wall have a social? Mine has a women’s social and its fab and so welcoming

Yes it was a v3. There is a womens social. It's only once a month though. Wish they did it more often

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Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 15:46

CouchSpud · 20/02/2025 14:16

With bouldering in particular it can be useful and seen as normal to watch others to gain beta for the moves.

Yes exactly. Someone might approach the climb differently and it helps to see how they do it. So me and sister stood wondering how he would do it as we both didn't finish it. Wasn't expecting his reaction at the end though.
It was in such contrast to when my sister did another tough climb and the guy at the bottom congratulated her and gave her a fist bump and we did the same for him when he did it

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CouchSpud · 20/02/2025 18:00

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 15:46

Yes exactly. Someone might approach the climb differently and it helps to see how they do it. So me and sister stood wondering how he would do it as we both didn't finish it. Wasn't expecting his reaction at the end though.
It was in such contrast to when my sister did another tough climb and the guy at the bottom congratulated her and gave her a fist bump and we did the same for him when he did it

I think the latter is more common in climbing walls. People are generally nice.

The other guy was a twat!

CheezePleeze · 20/02/2025 18:09

I couldn't muster up any more than an eye-roll really OP, so don't let him get to you.

There were two women at a pilates class I used to go to and they were proper smirkers who looked down on all the beginners.

Until one of them farted very loudly mid-class and looked like she was going to die of shame 😁

SquashedSquid · 20/02/2025 18:14

I find that singing the "Gaston" song but changing the lyrics to the specific situation works well.

Noooo oneeee CLIMBS like Gaston, no one FALLS like Gaston, no one has a weird thing for walls like Gaston...

CouchSpud · 20/02/2025 19:03

Please don’t let it put you off going. Climbing is fantastic for the body and mind

NewHeaven · 20/02/2025 19:07

SwanOfThoseThings · 20/02/2025 08:05

I'd have been tempted to respond with a really OTT pantomime of applause - whooping, clapping and shouting: 'Well done! Go you! Amazing achievement!" etc.😄

@SwanOfThoseThings
Yes! Eddie Murphy style from Beverly Hills Cop era! 😀

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 22:45

CheezePleeze · 20/02/2025 18:09

I couldn't muster up any more than an eye-roll really OP, so don't let him get to you.

There were two women at a pilates class I used to go to and they were proper smirkers who looked down on all the beginners.

Until one of them farted very loudly mid-class and looked like she was going to die of shame 😁

That's hilarious. Karma definitely got her

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