To dump him for wearing glasses?

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

Come on OP. You're only FWBs. As long as he takes them off when you're having sex, why does it matter?
FWBs are FWBs for a reason.

He's just a FWB!

Thank you for understanding!

I've given up wearing my contacts, so now we're both in our varifocals. I'd hoped not to succumb to old-folk sex just yet, but here we are.

It matters because I do see him out of bed, plus he sends me loads of selfies. I guess it doesn't matter that much, just thought I'd take the temp on this issue.

I got it: Selfish, spiteful, all the things. I'm duly shamed in the public square!

He's not with me for my brains and sparkling wit either, btw...

Also, since I don't wear my contacts anymore, I can't really see him that well when he takes them off. We can only see each other when we're both wearing our deeply sexy varifocals. Or bifocals, in his case.

My advice would be to tell help straight up how you feel about the glasses. At least he knows where he stands instead of ending it for no reason. Maybe he'll get new glasses for you.

He probably does, but I've been very open with him about who I am, including some mildly bad stuff I've done. He still wants a go in my sausage-casing regularly.

I know. I don't get it either.

I don't think op is being nasty and saying she's got the ick because this guy wears glasses it's just the style of this one particularly pair of glasses he happens to wear gives her the ick. He may very well look more attractive and not give op the ick if he wore a different pair of glasses that suited him better. should've gone to spec savers and all that. perhaps it should be called should've gone to ick savers 🤣. op i think you should go to ick savers with him for his next pair to make sure they're OK!

I've been reluctant to do that because bifocals are really expensive. Think I'd have to wait until next time he needs some.

As someone who's been to the optometrist twice today with a stuck lens, I can tell you you're being completely bloody unreasonable. Contacts are a total pain.

I'm having major laser eye surgery next week because I'm sick of hearing people comment about how much better looking I'd be without glasses.

i've already had a major eye operation and am only doing this because glasses are no longer compatible with my life. But for him he likes them, they work for him, leave him the f alone.

Ick savers! Yes!

He might well look a sexy delight in some better glasses. I've been too blinded by the John Majors to consider that.

I'm gonna think of spec savers as Ick savers from now on 🤣
John majors 🤣. Or Deidre Barlows 🤣

He's free to shag around with anyone he wants, as I've told him many times. I've also told him that I've been looking for other people to shag, and I found two prospects, but they also gave me the ick by coming on too strong, so I gave up looking for now. He knows all this.

I reiterate to him every so often, "I am never going to live with you or marry you." Just so that he remains clear where he stands.

On that, my last experience at Specsavers was absolutely delightful. Literally no waiting, they showed me digital photos of my eyes, which looked like boobs at first. They were able to show me the difference between my last prescription and my new one through looking into some sort of digital binocular type machine. I was very impressed.

I can't tell in my sleep deprived state if you are pulling our leg or not op, but incase you are serious here's my advice, tell him you don't like his glasses! he's seemingly a good friend aswell so just be honest.. tho from my experience once you get the ick there's no going back. if he likes you enough he will change them (not that he should have to ) and if not set him free to go and be an "amazing lay" for someone else.

This is probably accurate.

Oooh - maybe the glasses are a repellent! Perhaps he wears really nice ones normally...🤔

Trust me, it's not.

Him not help, sorry.

I'm sort-of pulling your leg in that it was meant to be light-hearted.

The glasses are too expensive to ask him to change them before needed. It's those two-purpose lenses. Cost hundreds.

And it's the glasses and polyester sportswear combo.

My whole life, I've prioritised personality and not looks. Well, now I'm divorced, and I want someone who looks great for a change!

He obviously needs them bc no one wear them otherwise. I think you might be trying to make him into what you want him to look like and I totally get that. I just might think he doesn’t have a choice. If his eye sight is so bad he might not be able to get normal looking glasses and contacts won’t work for him

He's a FWB what difference does it make?

I'd be happy to let any of my fellow women take a shot, but I can't really give out his phone number on here! 😂

She wants him to look like she wants him to look.

lol, you got me before editing. Your quick

And I’m glad you’re joking around. No one wants to wear horrible looking glasses.