To dump him for wearing glasses?

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

You say you are shallow you have inflated ego you behave like a petulant child

if he can put up with all of this you can put up with his glasses goodbye Hyacinth

Suspect OP is on a wind up. Flippant tone of posts.

She doesn't like his glasses, why are people so angry about it? It's very odd. They've not been married for 20 years, they're just mates who shag. She can decide not to shag him any more for any reason she likes.

I get it completely OP, some people look really unattractive in glasses. I know because I'm one of them.

Put up with all of what?

THANK YOU!

Yes, the anger is a bit 😱

Nope. I really do hate his bank manager glasses and his polyester sports gear.

I don't see anyone getting angry. I think posters are just meh that OP is using the thread to attempt to show us how funny she is when she's really not rather than actually wanting posters to give advice on her "dilemma". It's more tedious than rage-inducing.

He might need to obscure/blur your shrivelled vagina? The problem might not be his🤭

She can decide not to shag him any more for any reason she likes.

Yes. She’s been told this many times on this thread. Don’t fancy him in glasses? Stop fucking him. It’s not rocket science and didn’t need a mumsnet thread dedicated to it.

That's just insulting. Whereas the glasses thing isn't a personal insult, infact a compliment as she thinks he's so handsome she wants to see his face properly.

Yes, exactly. Why would you want to hide such a handsome face??

Oh look, another person as shallow as OP 😂

I guess the novelty can be enough to start with and we overlook some things that are off-putting. Then, the off-putting things start to grate: familiarity breeds contempt. Also sounds like he made more of an effort with his dress when you first started a sexual relationship but now doesn’t bother.

Sounds like you want to keep him as a FWB and would be sad if that ended. So, suggest an open and respectful chat about how the glasses turn you off. He’ll either say:

• Too bad, I like the glasses and have worn them all along.
• I don’t want a FWB relationship with someone who doesn’t fancy me as I am, so let’s call it a day.
• I want you to find me sexy and don’t want the FWB to end, so I’ll think about changing them.

Either way, it’s surely better than the alternative, which is that you’ll continue to be turned off and end it anyway.

What's with all the bitter replies. 😂

I think attraction is important and I've been put off by things like men who always wear chavvy tracksuit bottoms etc. I'm of the opinion that most people that 'can't get on with lenses' usually just haven't persevered enough.

But clearly a lot of posters in this thread are married to bank managers. 😂

Bitter? In what way?

I think handsome men who wear glasses have shot up in their hotness. I love that look.

I wore contact lenses for about twenty years then suddenly became intolerant to them. I tried different types (dailies, extra thin, etc) and couldn't get on with any of them anymore. I think I gave them a good shot.

Having a fwb is quite shallow in itself so I don’t think that really matters. If she was married to him and wanted a divorce because she didn’t like his glasses, that would be shallow. (Imo)

Hence the word 'most'.

In a bitter way. 😂

But wearing jobby catcher grey tracksuit bottoms or having a shit haircut is a choice. Having poor eyesight is not a choice.

I didn't have to learn to tolerate them though, I got used to them straightaway. So I wonder would someone be so quick to not use them if they were trouble free from the start? Once intolerance comes in it doesn’t seem to go away, in my own experience at least.

Oh.

Wearing glasses is usually a choice though. I didn't like them so I wear lenses.