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To dump him for wearing glasses?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 19/02/2025 23:41

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:29

TagSplashMaverick · 20/02/2025 10:27

Thank you. I’ve been wracking my brains as to who the hell Norman Major was.

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Yeah, my mistake. I remember his glasses better than his name.

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potatopaws · 20/02/2025 10:29

Can’t you pretend he’s Clark Kent?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:29

potatopaws · 20/02/2025 10:29

Can’t you pretend he’s Clark Kent?

That's a good idea!

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Horserider5678 · 20/02/2025 10:30

What a shallow person you are! Do him a favour and dump him, so he can get the woman he deserves!

zingally · 20/02/2025 10:30

Do what you want.

If he's as hot as you claim, another woman will very gladly snap him up!

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:31

Horserider5678 · 20/02/2025 10:30

What a shallow person you are! Do him a favour and dump him, so he can get the woman he deserves!

He's free to date; we both are. I'm not holding him back.

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BobbyBiscuits · 20/02/2025 10:32

Lol @ bank manager from the early 90s!? I think that look might be in again among the trendies of Dalston? 🤣

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:33

BobbyBiscuits · 20/02/2025 10:32

Lol @ bank manager from the early 90s!? I think that look might be in again among the trendies of Dalston? 🤣

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Oh blimey! Poor you, if that's where you live!

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Feelinghurt2 · 20/02/2025 10:35

TagSplashMaverick · 20/02/2025 10:27

Thank you. I’ve been wracking my brains as to who the hell Norman Major was.

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Me too! I thought does she mean Norman LaMont?! More famous for his eyebrows than his glasses?! 😂 I wonder what this hot FWB man's eyebrows are like....do they stick out over the tops of the bi-focals?!

mummytippy · 20/02/2025 10:35

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:25

Oh. My God. Don't!!!! That's what's next, isn't it?

Well, thanks for the nightmares! All downhill from here!

I think he did leave his socks on last time, actually. I seem to remember one of the toes dangling loose when we were done.

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😂

user1471538283 · 20/02/2025 10:35

Ooh I love a man in glasses.

I agree he can do better.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:35

Feelinghurt2 · 20/02/2025 10:35

Me too! I thought does she mean Norman LaMont?! More famous for his eyebrows than his glasses?! 😂 I wonder what this hot FWB man's eyebrows are like....do they stick out over the tops of the bi-focals?!

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Please stop!! My nightmares are going to become night terrors!!

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BMW6 · 20/02/2025 10:36

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:01

In the same thread, it's been said that I write like someone's granny and like a smutty lads' mag. Whiplash...

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Well yes, it's the smutty schoolboy language that reeks of Old Lady Trying Too Hard To Be Cool

I'm 67 and I'm getting second hand embarrassment from your phraseology 😖

Yeoldlondoncheese · 20/02/2025 10:36

SwingTheMonkey · 20/02/2025 10:25

You don’t seem to be getting the message, op. You’re coming across like you feel rather superior to him and he’s lucky to have you as a fwb. But actually, he’s putting in very little effort because you don’t matter to him. He's not bothered either way, clearly.

There isn’t a ‘message’ for OP to get!
He's not bothered either way - She DOES NOT CARE!
They’re just shagging, not in a relationship, will never be in a relationship. OP doesn’t want that. Geez get a grip people.

Grammarnut · 20/02/2025 10:37

He can do better than someone who thinks glasses are a turn-off. Some people cannot wear contact lenses (dry eyes) and so much wear glasses. He sounds as if he looks like Clark Kent - and you know who he really was!

SwingTheMonkey · 20/02/2025 10:38

Yeoldlondoncheese · 20/02/2025 10:36

There isn’t a ‘message’ for OP to get!
He's not bothered either way - She DOES NOT CARE!
They’re just shagging, not in a relationship, will never be in a relationship. OP doesn’t want that. Geez get a grip people.

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😂

So why start a thread on mumsnet about it if SHE DOES NOT CARE?! She very clearly does.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:38

Lots of people have said I'm shallow. I try to be deep but I am shallow. I've told him that. I think a lot of people could benefit from cutting their depth down to a more manageable level. I've tried to make vice-signalling a trend to counteract all the virtue-signalling these days, but it hasn't really caught on. I guess people don't like to admit their flaws.

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Wexone · 20/02/2025 10:39

Throckmorton · 19/02/2025 23:43

First reply nailed it

Agree - God help you when you get older aswell, everyone ends up wearing glasses at some stage of their lives. Grow up

WickedWenchOfTheNorth · 20/02/2025 10:41

Can I have him instead? Grin

RebelStarChild · 20/02/2025 10:41

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:02

No, he doesn't. He could get contacts and wear them on our dates, like I do. But he doesn't want to. Just wants to go around with Norman Major glasses glued to his face 18 hours a day for the rest of his life.

He dresses too casually for me, as well. The times when he's turned up wearing dark jeans and a nice shirt that's actually tucked in, and a belt, or dark-navy trousers, he's looked WOOF WOOF. But the silky football tops and flappy long shorts are just not it.

So frustrating when he's so good in bed and could look so sexy with nicer dressing and some contacts. I don't think that smart jeans and a tucked-in shirt are too much to ask for.

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If you're just FWB why is any of this actually your business?

Would you be OK with him telling you what he doesn't like about you and asking you to change the way you dress when you are with him?

He isn't your boyfriend, he's not your husband, if you don't like the way he is find another FWB. Simple.

SuperTrooper14 · 20/02/2025 10:42

You're really getting your money's worth out of your creative writing lessons, OP!

You also sound suspiciously like the OP with the stolen allotment. Same writing style, same inflections, same trying-to-hard-to-be-funny.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 10:43

SwingTheMonkey · 20/02/2025 10:38

😂

So why start a thread on mumsnet about it if SHE DOES NOT CARE?! She very clearly does.

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I do care because he's ruining my view of his golden gorgeousness with those stupid glasses and polyester! I swear, if my hair ever gets static and stands on end from the silky sports shirts, I am going to buy him that song with the lyrics "I'm Too Sexy for my Shirt." 😕

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SwingTheMonkey · 20/02/2025 10:43

SuperTrooper14 · 20/02/2025 10:42

You're really getting your money's worth out of your creative writing lessons, OP!

You also sound suspiciously like the OP with the stolen allotment. Same writing style, same inflections, same trying-to-hard-to-be-funny.

Yes, the style is reminiscent of lots of recent posts…

Bubblemonkey · 20/02/2025 10:43

I assume you’re perfect then? Nothing that could give him the “ick”? 🤔

BobbyBiscuits · 20/02/2025 10:43

@ThisFluentBiscuit Haha, thankfully I don't live in Dalston. But he'd probably look incredibly hot if he moved there!

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