To dump him for wearing glasses?

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

That changes everything.
It's a style statement.
He's going contrarian.
He's potentially testing you to see if you are with him for him or his looks.

Currently googling John Major!

Is he married?

Who cares? As long as he takes them off when he's ploughing you what does it matter?

Yep. I agree with this.

I haven't read the answers, just want to make a point: it's been years since bifocal lenses have a line across. I've worn bifocals for more than 10 years and never had glasses with that line.

😁

I would move on and let him know you're not attracted to him anymore, you want someone who is going to make an effort with their appearance like most women do. There are so many scruffy men out there and they wonder why you don't want to shag them yuck. I like glasses but if you've hinted that his are not a good look then he's clueless

First reply still nails it.

How horribly shallow you are.

@ThisFluentBiscuit Right having googled for a photo I do understand. But I think this is a bit of a ‘trend’. Particularly if the frame isn’t black (I’m guessing his are). So maybe it’s an attempt to follow a style or something? I’ve seen men 20-40 who are a bit alternative or edgy in their fashion with similar. From what you describe of his clothing style though, it doesn’t sound like he’s following this sort of trend. As you can see I’m way too invested and wishing you luck!

Meh - I haven't been in a FWB situation before, but it's primarily about physical attraction, right? We've all got our own tastes and if it doesn't do it for you when a certain style of glasses obscures his face, that's fair enough. Sure, it's shallow, but that's your taste and by definition physical relationships will come down to taste.

44 out of almost 1100 people think YANBU... So? Do you think this reinforces your point and makes you right? 😂95% of people think YABU!!!!!

You'll be telling us how many 'thanks' you have got on each post next, to further support the fact that you are 'right.'

Why did you post this @ThisFluentBiscuit ? You ask 'AIBU?' Most people say 'yes you ARE being unreasonable,' then you post 70+ responses saying 'no I'm not!'

Also, on another note... Have you actually had any sleep?

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No.

FWB is only about no strings sex. Nothing whatsoever to do with their "packaging".

If you are paying for an Escort service then you can dictate how they dress, because they are appearing in public with you and you want to impress others, but a FWB in the very opposite.

You are confusing the two.

I will never forget the day my former fwb told me to take my glasses off. It was so hurtful I could never look at him the same way again!

Actually, I wonder if he's secretly playing a blinder. He knows you hate the glasses but won't get rid because if he does you might want an actual relationship, except he's not into you bar the sex and is waiting for someone better and less shallow to come along.

I think you mean JOHN Major.
His wife was called Norma.

At least get your names right.

Well, Edwina Curry found him very sexy- she referred to him as 'Big Man'.

Jeez, how shallow are you?

Who is Norman Major?!

You can still get lined lenses – they're squillions cheaper than ones without so people still ask for them.

Scroll back a couple or so posts to what I posted.

She means the former PM- JOHN Major.

Are you in a different time Zone OP- as you've been posting all night in UK time.

Have you just told him about the clothes?

He can’t do anything about the glasses, but the clothes he can work on.

You should dump him immediately and let him find someone less shallow.

If this post is real then op you are deeply shallow which is far more unattractive than a pair of glasses. You are only his fuck buddy so I'm not sure you have enough influence over his life to be telling him what to wear. He needs to be able to see although he really must be very blind to not see you for how unpleasant you are.

I wear big, ugly glasses. I think they're cute and hate the tiny 90s style on me. What would you rather he wore OP?

Again, FWB don't have "dates". You're not in that kind of relationship. You are friends who have no strings sex.
When you go out with friends you don't get huffy about their glasses or clothes do you? I'd certainly hope not because that would be judgemental, shallow and plain old cunty.

Same here. OP is weirdly annoyed about his glasses as if they are much more than FWB. Or she'd like it to be.