To dump him for wearing glasses?

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

This post is rage bait. Best to ignore it.

Is he Clark Kent ?

Won't have had same glasses for 3 years? I've had the same ones for at least 6 years! Why would I change them if they don't need changing? (And yes, they are unsexy and untrendy.)

😂 I couldn't; they're too expensive!

But they’re four years old apparently?

It's not. He hides his gorgeous face behind these horrendous glasses and I hate it.

I can't remember exactly when he got them. But he'd have to spend hundreds on a new pair. bi/varifocals aren't cheap.

Actually, he does look like a blonde version of him!

Well, it's definitely a conundrum. The glasses likely wouldn't bother me, but the image of cheesy 70's track suits is giving me the ick. Does he wear a lot of cologne?

On the contrary, FWB is all about the packaging.

I was married for a long time and am never doing it again, especially with someone who has bad personal style.

Wow you sound like a real catch. Let him go - sounds like he'd find someone else in a heartbeat.

100% this. What a hideous, judgemental attitude you have @ThisFluentBiscuit

No, but I wish he would! I love cologne on men.

The glasses didn't bother me so much until lately. I'm tired of looking at such horrible glasses.

God you’re horrible, my husband is objectively very handsome and wears glasses.

This.

John Major ones?

No we’re not supposed to go weak for it, if it’s that bad or that much of a turn off you say “no thank you”. No one is forcing you to sleep with him you’re choosing to so even after all your shitty judgemental comments of his clothes and glasses he either doesn’t look that bad or you’re just very desperate

Ohh I forgot it was half term 😂 I guess that explains that.

As your relationship appears to be based solely on sex, you might as well call it a day.

💡 Do you think he's trying to rock them? 🤔

There's friendship in there; we hang out too. Sometimes we have dinner and don't go on to have sex.

That's a possibility!

My DD was told yesterday she needs glasses YABVU 🙄

Then tell him you just want to be friends… It’s not like he lives with you, and you’ve already said you don’t see him that often. Your relationship really isn’t worth him investing in glasses or contact lenses he hates, just to facilitate sex with you - being able to see well without discomfort is infinitely more important.

@ThisFluentBiscuit what an amazing post. Thanks for making my worrisome sleepless night more bearable. I’m pleased you have found some happiness after a long marriage. So this could be a stupid idea but what about a gift voucher for glasses on his next birthday, or stage a conversation whereby you both end up having to pick your next pair of glasses for each other. Sorry I’m not fully sure how you’re getting out of this one otherwise. But I would say, if he’s nice and pleasing you in all other areas try to push back the ick.