To be fucked off the neighbours use my drive constantly

[crappymeal]

My drive is big enough for about 3 cars if they squeeze on. We have a car which normally gets blocked in by the neighbours who use ours without asking.

It also means if we have visitors, they don't have anywhere to park and they have to find somewhere up the street although the roads are skinny and it's a bit of a nightmare (and I guess that's why they won't do it).

They usually get about 5 visitors a day and don't ask if they can use it first.

I wouldn't mind every now and then (which I have said before) but it's almost every day now and I think they're taking the piss.

I've tried speaking to them and they have said that the visitors don't stay for long so it doesn't matter?

Park where they park?

Sounds like OP would be better off writing a “don’t fucking park on my drive” sign than doing us a diagram. Funnily enough, I don’t think she’s going to do either and she’ll just carry on sitting and watching and not doing anything about the CFs.

I think it sounds like an awkward boundary. If so, even more of a reason to get it sorted out and appropriately fenced off.

Can you get a chain with a lock as a temporary solution?

Parking bollards are not expensive.

From what you say, you have been way too lenient in the past, and they are totally taking the piss now.

If it was me, before I bothered with gates, fences, plant pots etc...I would tell them in no uncertain terms NOT to use my drive in future, them or their family/friends....it is now not convenient for you.

I would also address the kids that use your wall to play football against, there is nothing worse than hearing a kids ball banging against your wall...it's like bloody Chinese torture.

Inconsiderate piss taking neighbours don't stop till they are challenged about their behaviour....so that's always the first step.

I've already said that I will get a fence put up to hopefully stop this from happening.

I asked if they were taking the piss. Which they obviously are.

I have spoken to them (granted not every single time) and told them they could sometimes if they ask (which they never do anymore) and have asked them to move cars when I've seen them parking up but they haven't.

Thanks for the helpful suggestions.

No, it’s rude of them to use your driveway like it’s an extension to their own.

Mixed messages don't work...especially with piss takers.

And I would answer, perhaps youve misunderstood, I said don't park your car on my drive ... please move it now. Thank you.

@NovemberMorn clearly.

Me telling them they have to ask before they do it was clearly too difficult for them to understand.

It seems odd they have ‘friend’ visiting for such a short time. I’m thinking they may be dealing drugs.

Get some drop down bollards fitted

Bit of olive oil on windscreen can also help.

OP have you actually said "Stop using my drive"? Also have you told the footballing kids not to do it?

Do report this suspicious activity to police. Say, the other day I told the visitor to move and their face was completely blank, they looked at me with a vacant look, as if past me, and proceeded to that house, and then left, and they were probably in the state in which it is dangerous to drive. Something along these lines.

I would go straight to getting them towed.
If they are blocking you in that's illegal.

I think you’re past talking to them

Oh they understand, they are just choosing to ignore you.

We have crappy neighbours, (new) they don't use our drive but they or their visitors have often blocked it. We will go out immediately and tell them to move, even if we are not expecting to drive in or out at that moment, and we stand there till they do...gradually the penny is dropping.

@crappymeal can you start parking in theirs every time they go out?

Or do you have a friend that wants to park their car in your drive whilst they go away for a week or two?

Have you a strong garden spray that ‘is in a timer’ and just happens to come on when they exit/return to their cars?

Can you train seagulls and put breadcrumbs in their car roofs?

Buy fox urine online and spray it around their wheel arches and doors…

Desperately thinking of more ridiculous ideas.

Parking cones.

If talking to them doesn't work and they're blocking you in, call the police.

I think we're going to need a diagram

You think getting a gate and establishing the actual boundary of your property is rude?

Nope - not rude at all.

What is rude is their assumption that they can and do have free use of your property and your driveway when they don't.

They block you in then take 20-30 minutes to unblock you? Absolute cheeky fuckers. Why are you worried about being rude to them with a gate OP? They’re the rude ones.

5 visitors a day??? That's an unusually high amount. Are they running some kind of business or something and are using your driveway as parking for their customers I wonder? If so, you could report them to the Council because if they do have a business whereby customers are arriving or dropping things off on a regular basis, they need to start paying business rates....

I've tried speaking to them and they have said that the visitors don't stay for long so it doesn't matter?

Absolutely taking the piss. They're wiping their shoes all over your face as if it were a doormat.

It's your property. It's not up to them to decide which part to part on and how often would be reasonable. They shouldn't be doing it at all.

I've said to them before that if they're going to have extra visitors and need the space then to come and ask me

Unfortunately, they have taken this request as some kind of option and a sign of weakness. They feel entitled to use your drive so haven't bothered to ask.

They just looked at me and went inside the neighbours

Again, this is just beyond disrespectful. Your neighbours view you are the class nerd who they can bully and be unreasonable with.

Don't ask them and don't communicate if you can avoid it. Put bollards in, or if it's a gate, it must be padlocked.