To be fucked off the neighbours use my drive constantly

[crappymeal]

My drive is big enough for about 3 cars if they squeeze on. We have a car which normally gets blocked in by the neighbours who use ours without asking.

It also means if we have visitors, they don't have anywhere to park and they have to find somewhere up the street although the roads are skinny and it's a bit of a nightmare (and I guess that's why they won't do it).

They usually get about 5 visitors a day and don't ask if they can use it first.

I wouldn't mind every now and then (which I have said before) but it's almost every day now and I think they're taking the piss.

I've tried speaking to them and they have said that the visitors don't stay for long so it doesn't matter?

Ok so go back and say previously I'd said this was OK, as it was nice to be nice but now you take the piss so it ends today. You are no longer welcome to use our drive.

Standing there with a shotgun ought to do the trick.

Say no, OP. Come on, grow a backbone. Not every now and again, not "this is the last time". The word is no.

Bollards ~ if your drive is very wide you may need two.

No it's not. They're the rude ones

Jesus. Please tell them to get off your property. Stop giving permission for them to use your driveway. And most importantly, block the driveway! Plants, gate, whatever, just block it.

Ah no, your mistake was being too kind in the first place. They think it’s fine now because they’re used to doing it. They are CF though and taking the piss big time. Maybe try the pots first, but I think a gate might be your only option at this point. I don’t think telling them alone will have any impact now.

5 quick visitors a day? Hmm. Are they running some kind of business? Is it legal?

You could try and work out if there is anything going on. Not that you would report them unless the parking continues to be inconsiderate......

Big rock painted white is common round here. Or a couple of big planters

I wouldn’t hesitate. Don’t worry about upsetting them. Cheeky fuckers.

We had this. 6ft fence and a gate solved it. Although they then just used to leave their car in the turning circle (we were at the top of the cul de sac)and block everyone in.

CF neighbours also used to tinker with cars on their drive and use my security light to see by. I learned to switch that off from the master switch as soon as they lifted the bonnet.

Really though, ultimately I moved house. Not regretted it for a minute.

I think it is mostly just their parents/ family that visit but I wouldn't know for definite. I've never been 'close' with them apart from having small chat with them every now and then.

@crappymeal three words: GET IT TOWED!

If you use a glue stick (so it doesn’t blow away) it makes a right mess on the windscreen without actually damaging it.

How has this thread gone for so long without a diagram???

Our immediate neighbour told his neighbour that her friends could park on our drive - without asking us - which they did a few times.

I said no in part because I was worried it would be a give an inch situation, and my neighbour but one hasn’t spoken to me since, while our immediate neighbour has been frosty ever since.

Worth it though, and it made me realise what they are both like.

I can't possibly imagine how to advise you on this without a diagram.

If where they park blocks you in just park in that space because then surely they can't get round you?

You wouldn't be rude but they are incredibly rude.

You seem to be worried about upsetting your neighbours, but they have no such concerns about upsetting you.

Park on their driveway when you can't get into your own. That'll sort it pretty quick.

I'm intrigued at how they blatantly park on your drive. I also would love a diagram 🤣🤣

"Going forward, it won't be possible for you and your visitors to park on our drive, so you'll have to find an alternative". Don't start by saying 'sorry but ...' Don't give an explanation - they don't need to know why. Keep it brief and to the point but please, PLEASE JUST TELL THEM. Don't think the easy way will be to use flowerpots, or fix a gate, or build a wall, or any myriad of possibilities - the people who really don't care if they offend you will still find a way and you'll end up tearing your hair out in frustration. Be upfront, be firm but pleasant, be clear - 'no more'.

I will diagram it when I have a pen and paper.

I'm really bad at explaining. My drive goes down the side of my house (where I normally park) and then across the front of my house (where they normally park). I could park my car in one of the spaces where they would block me in but there would still be enough room for one of them to park next to me so it wouldn't solve the problem completely. I doubt that makes much sense so give me a bit of time and I will upload.

I can’t see the diagram!!!

Penguin bollards, gate, or a chain that just goes across fence posts at bottom of driveway?

I've had the same with our next door neighbors. We had a building company in to do both adjoining roofs 12 months ago and now the builders are back at their property to do some additional work. They were constantly parking bang in the middle of my driveway and then going to work next door. I've had to message them to say stop it several times (i'm sure they think i am being over the top) But if you give them an inch they will take a yard. Just do it via message and repeat as necessary.