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Not farting in front of DH

414 replies

Dancingatthepinkponyclub · 16/02/2025 20:24

Not really an AIBU but I love hearing what others think!

Have been with my DH for 18 years and have never intentionally farted in front of him. I mean I know it’s impossible to hold every fart in but he’s never actually heard one! If I need to I would go in another room or be discreet. My mum and sister are the same and a couple of friends. Also my DH is the same and won’t in front of me unless he does by mistake!

I know it’s natural and everyone does it but I’d never want to endure someone’s else’s fart nor make them endure mine! It hardly makes you attractive does it! That being said I wouldn’t fart in front of anyone… I mean maybe the dog!

what do you think?!

OP posts:
BreezyScroller · 16/02/2025 20:45

OKNerd · 16/02/2025 20:39

Did he have sex with his clients?

surely you give MORE consideration to the person you have sex with, than with a random stranger?

Vettrianofan · 16/02/2025 20:45

Yes, been farting in front of each other for over twenty years. Let rip, I say!

CheekyHobson · 16/02/2025 20:46

OKNerd · 16/02/2025 20:39

Did he have sex with his clients?

What’s that got to do with it? Sex is an activity both participants enjoy, whereas my ex knew perfectly well neither I or our kids enjoyed being subjected to his farts.

Ohhelpicantthinkofaname · 16/02/2025 20:46

Whoever you are and wherever you may be, always let your wind blow free, church or chapel let it rattle, because holding it in was the death of me.

we live by these words in our house. No one holds a fart. I can’t understand why anyone would. It’s only natural after all.

MedusaAndHerFavourites · 16/02/2025 20:46

We still find each other attractive because we don't burp, fart, or go to the loo in front of each other.

Neurotoxic · 16/02/2025 20:48

'Intentionally' makes it sound like people are saving them up to delight their spouse of an evening lol

Bubbles332 · 16/02/2025 20:48

I didn't fart in front of mine for 13 years. Then tore into my bum having our son, pooed myself in front of him multiple times in the following days and was unable to hold a fart for about 8 months. So I've more than made up for it! Thankfully I have had bum physio and can hold it now, so I'm back to being coy and going in the other room.

Dramatic · 16/02/2025 20:48

I have IBS, if I'm having a flare then I'd genuinely have to be up and down every 4 or 5 minutes, can't be doing with that.

DiscoBeat · 16/02/2025 20:49

PinkPonyClub25 · 16/02/2025 20:37

So many prim & proper ladies on here! Wondering if I should be reconsidering things 😂

It really is just the most basic of manners!

JohnofWessex · 16/02/2025 20:49

I had an ex who never let rip, at least in company.

On two occasions I woke up in the morning with her in agony due to her not letting it out

PepsiPepsiPepsi · 16/02/2025 20:50

Same here I don't fart in front of anyone it's gross to just sit there farting

JenniferBooth · 16/02/2025 20:50

Dramatic · 16/02/2025 20:48

I have IBS, if I'm having a flare then I'd genuinely have to be up and down every 4 or 5 minutes, can't be doing with that.

IBS is exacerbated by stress. If ppl dont want to hear the consequences of stressing me out, dont stress me out in the first place

anon168231245630 · 16/02/2025 20:50

Autther · 16/02/2025 20:27

We fart with freedom in this house

We are the same in my household Grin

Dramatic · 16/02/2025 20:51

JenniferBooth · 16/02/2025 20:50

IBS is exacerbated by stress. If ppl dont want to hear the consequences of stressing me out, dont stress me out in the first place

This is so true 😂

OKNerd · 16/02/2025 20:52

BreezyScroller · 16/02/2025 20:45

surely you give MORE consideration to the person you have sex with, than with a random stranger?

Well no because his measure of how to treat a partner is how you’d treat a client. But they aren’t the same relationships and if a man said this to me I’d probably laugh in his face

Ohhelpicantthinkofaname · 16/02/2025 20:52

DiscoBeat · 16/02/2025 20:49

It really is just the most basic of manners!

It’s just a fart. It’s part of life. But then I guess I have a job where I regularly have to assess peoples ability to toilet themselves. So all the bodily functions are just that to me. It’s natural and not something to be coy about.

if I stay at my sisters we like to see which of us can fart the other awake. It’s hilarious 🤣.

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 16/02/2025 20:52

Being in an intimate relationship means taking the good and the bad parts of being human, surely! I can’t imagine not feeling comfortable enough with the person whose children I’ve birthed to not fart in front of them (worse happened in pregnancy and labour, let’s put it that way!). There’s a time and place for all things, but at home with only immediate family members, who cares?! I’m sure one day we’ll be changing each other’s incontinence pads. It’s part of the deal. You just can’t be bashful about these things.

OKNerd · 16/02/2025 20:53

CheekyHobson · 16/02/2025 20:46

What’s that got to do with it? Sex is an activity both participants enjoy, whereas my ex knew perfectly well neither I or our kids enjoyed being subjected to his farts.

Edited

If he expects you to treat each other like he treats a client, then why isn’t he having sex with his clients?

Hoenstly how do some of you lot cope in life when I little fart is triggering

Craftycorvid · 16/02/2025 20:53

Reminds me of the old joke…’how dare you fart before my wife!’ ‘Very sorry, I wasn’t aware it was her turn.’

Bumble2016 · 16/02/2025 20:54

If we have dodgy tums and know the fart is likely to be lethal, we avoid each other. Otherwise, loud, airy farts are fair game but they're certainly not constant!

ParsnipPuree · 16/02/2025 20:54

ArtTheClown · 16/02/2025 20:27

I let rip, but so does he. I'm puerile and find it hilarious.
On Valentine's morning I wanted coffee in bed so I farted loudly to wake him. up. When he only stirred, I farted again and that got him properly awake, and I got my coffee.

Love that.

Middlepiepush · 16/02/2025 20:56

PepsiPepsiPepsi · 16/02/2025 20:50

Same here I don't fart in front of anyone it's gross to just sit there farting

Me neither. It is gross.

Rattai · 16/02/2025 20:57

I have never farted in front of any boyfriend... My ex husband and I never farted in each others company and it's the same in my relationship now. I sometimes hear him from a distance... But he'd never intentionally do it in my presence.
I really like that

TheLaughOfRustyLee · 16/02/2025 20:58

bum physio

What on earth? 😆

Andoutcomethewolves · 16/02/2025 20:58

My mum recently told me that she first farted in front of my dad when my older brother was about 6 - at that point they'd been together 14 years, through three pregnancies and births and spent a large amount of that time all living in campers/caravans or single rooms in shared houses, so without even a proper separate private space! By the time I came along a year later she'd fully embraced 'free farting' 😅 so I can't imagine her being so shy/demure/ladylike!

I've farted in front of DH since the start pretty much, and same for him. Can't imagine not!

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