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JHound · 16/02/2025 12:14

You have told him you dislike it. For him
to keep doing it is absolutely unreasonable.

Toulousetoolose · 16/02/2025 12:35

My "playful" DH is similar, he does daft things that are annoying in the moment - humping me or slapping my arse whenever I bend over the dishwasher etc etc. I think in 27 years I've inadvertently encouraged it because although I often snap "gerrofff ya knobhead", I am usually laughing despite myself

I sometimes forget these people walk among us

ForZanyAquaViewer · 16/02/2025 12:46

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 12:03

I honestly despair.

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My exact reaction to that comment. Where to even start?

Normallynumb · 16/02/2025 12:53

I posted earlier but I note you still think it's funny.. it's really not It's a power move on his part.
What else does he do which you've told him you don't like?

MagdaLenor · 16/02/2025 12:53

ForZanyAquaViewer · 16/02/2025 12:46

My exact reaction to that comment. Where to even start?

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It's so depressing.

RanchRat · 16/02/2025 13:21

This thread is distressing to read. This man is an utter cunt.

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 16/02/2025 13:58

TheWombatleague · 16/02/2025 09:00

Could you drag your feet around and build up a static charge?

Perfect!

Chillibeds · 16/02/2025 14:01

RanchRat · 16/02/2025 13:21

This thread is distressing to read. This man is an utter cunt.

No he's not.
He's a great man, husband and father🙄.

Only on MN.

BellesAndGraces · 16/02/2025 15:11

PoisonRain · 16/02/2025 08:22

My "playful" DH is similar, he does daft things that are annoying in the moment - humping me or slapping my arse whenever I bend over the dishwasher etc etc. I think in 27 years I've inadvertently encouraged it because although I often snap "gerrofff ya knobhead", I am usually laughing despite myself. And the bum smacking came from that scene in Only Fools and Horses when Rodney thinks women like an assertive man ("Fancy a curry?") and gets a slap in the face for his troubles.

Obviously I take my opportunities to do it back to him whenever he's bent over or indisposed and he gets annoyed, but has to laugh it off. If you give it out you have to be able to take it.

Recently he's taken to calling me "Boss Woman" to poke fun at me setting boundaries, asking for something or asserting myself and not being a pushover. At first I was irritable and kept telling him not to call me that, which only made it worse. But they're like toddlers aren't they, looking for a reaction - so now I completely ignore it. He's going through an extinction burst at the moment, saying it more and more to get a reaction, but eventually it'll fade out, like stopping a dog from barking by not giving it attention. 😊

After that bloody film Face-Off he did the hand down the face thing to me a couple of times, but he hated having it done to him so that phase didn't last.

If it were me OP, I'd start randomly sticking my finger in his mouth or wiping a wet hand across his lips while he's absently scrolling through his phone or whatever. Then when he says "WTAF??" just say, Annoying isn't it? STOP TOUCHING MY FACE WHEN I'VE ASKED YOU NOT TO.

But to agree with a PP, try also giving him a bit more real affection when you're alone together - after a long time together we sometimes forget that they need intimacy with us too. My DH's behaviour improves immeasurably when I make an effort to be loving and affectionate. I'm menopausal so I mostly want to throw things but I can do it!

This is such a miserable existence.

MagdaLenor · 16/02/2025 15:52

The bar is so low for some men, isn't it?

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 16/02/2025 20:55

MagdaLenor · 16/02/2025 15:52

The bar is so low for some men, isn't it?

And for many women it would seem

DoNoTakeNo · 16/02/2025 21:10

OP I'm so sorry that your DH does that to you. It isn't clever or big, it's really shitty bullying behaviour and he is selfish & arrogant for doing it.
(Please excuse me, I've not RTFT, just the first 20 or so posts)
My ex did things like this, 30+ years ago - tickling, teasing and so on. He would sometimes continue until I begged him to stop, in tears. He thought it was funny.
Only years after we divorced could I start to process the gaslighting, undermining & disrespect that he showed. I'm near to tears just remembering it - the many apparently small things that in isolation wouldn't have looked problematic, but combined together to destroy my confidence.
Very sadly he passed away a few years ago; I'm still so bloody conditioned that I feel guilty just remembering the bad things that he did, but can't forget that he did them.

LynnThese4reSEXPEOPLE · 16/02/2025 21:34

The thing about men doing things to annoy you is that they feel safe because they think you won't reinforce your boundaries. My stepfather used to try and steal food from my plate (I am a "save my favourite bit until last" eater). He stopped doing that 30 years ago when he was stabbed in the back of the hand with a fork by 11 year old me who had reached the end of her tether. Admittedly I chose violence, but in my defence, it was after extensive polite verbal expressions that I did not want him messing with my food.

Toulousetoolose · 16/02/2025 21:56

after a long time together we sometimes forget that they need intimacy with us too. My DH's behaviour improves immeasurably when I make an effort to be loving and affectionate

translated as, when I fuck him he’s nice to me for a bit.

FloofyKat · 16/02/2025 23:49

Thankgodforwine · 16/02/2025 00:22

I did tonight so hopefully that's the end

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How did he respond? What did he say?

Jumpingthruhoops · 16/02/2025 23:58

Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:26

My husband randomly runs his hand down the front of my entire face.....he knows it annoys the fuck out of me ...but he keeps doing it. When I voice my annoyance/rage, he makes it out as if it's "me"problem.
He is a great guy and dad....amazing husband and provider but ...WTF, is it me or is this normal. For context and to avoid drip feeding, I'm not a fan of human contact...like hugging etc ...some may say I'm awkward...but a hand to the full face ...surely nobody likes this, also his hands are sweaty as fuck, no joke ...these hands are damp. Am I being unreasonable, please say I am not 🤣

I HATE my face being touched; if my DH did this after me repeatedly telling him not to, the next time he did it, I am not even joking, I would bend his finger back do hard, the pain would be etched on his brain any time he even thought of doing it again! Your 'D'H is deliberately irritating you - then gaslighting you when you complain. What a 🔔🔚

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/02/2025 10:35

I feel your pain @Thankgodforwine and that of some other women on here. My DH (doesn't do it now) but he USED to do some of the shit mentioned here. Cupping my face in both his hands, because he thought it was loving and romantic (he had clearly seen people in films doing this!) It used to make me cringe, and then burst out laughing. I told him to stop as it was so naff!

THEN (as some other posters of said,) he started this slapping my arse when I was facing away from him or bending down. So much so that when I turned away from him I put my hands on my butt (palms facing out,) to stop him doing it. He'd be like 'oooooooh, trying to stop me spanking you are you?' And I'd say yes because it's fucking annoying.' He'd be like awwwwwww.. 😢

Then he would laugh and try to grab my hands away. AND he used to do the thing some posters have mentioned here, of coming up behind me and grabbing my breasts and squeezing them when I was washing up. Making me jump, splash hot water on myself, and drop things. I would be furious, and say 'will you fucking pack it in!' He thought it was a turn on. But it REALLY pissed me off. he couldn't see why, and thought it was 'sexy!' 😖

I got into the habit of closing the kitchen door to shut him out so he couldn't do it, and then he started sulking about being shut out. I said 'I am sick of you sneaking up on me and groping me when I'm busy doing stuff.' And he went like 'not fair.... awwww, can I not even touch my own WIFE now?' I said 'no you can't grope and grab my tits when I'm washing up, and slap my fucking arse every time I pass you and am facing away from you. I'm not a lump of fucking meat.' I would have done it back to him, but he would have enjoyed it, and it would have encouraged him and made him think I wanted sex!

Anyway, this was over 4 or 5 years many years ago, he stopped it about 25 years ago, thankfully!

Sometimesright · 17/02/2025 17:43

Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:44

Thank God I thought i was going crazy lol

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Pinch his arm skin! The soft bit under his arm. Pinch it hard every time he does it!!!!

JJMama · 17/02/2025 18:02

Not unreasonable at all…! Would also hate this and I also dislike being touched so this would be extra gross, as it’s not even in a nice way.

My ex husband (and father of my children) did stupid shit like this, and generally wasn’t respectful of my personal space. We’re both ND but in diff ways so him being hyper and in my space was against me wanting space and to be alone!

Not the reason we split but just bloody annoying! The lack of giving a shit about what another person wants and doesn’t want, and not caring, is infuriating, rude and plain uncaring. Knee him in the balls next time he does it, and then make it a him problem,

SuzieQ300 · 17/02/2025 18:04

I just did this to my husband and he was not impressed. He said its a ridiculous thing to do to anyone and he reckons he's doing it to show he can do what he likes to you.

JayJayj · 17/02/2025 18:10

Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:50

I told him today if he done it again he was getting a punch to the balls ....he done it again a couple of hours later ...it's so weird. Obvs didn't punch him in the balls because I'm not evil lol

You should have punched him in the balls.

ERthree · 17/02/2025 18:12

Kick him in the balls and tell him he has a "me" problem

LoveLifeBeHappy · 17/02/2025 18:27

Waiting for the MN poster to say, "What a bastard, get rid." Or have I missed it?

treesandsun · 17/02/2025 18:31

He is not a great guy - because he continues to do something you hate and have told him you hate. It doesn't matter if the rest of the population would love it (they wouldn't) it is not a you problem it is him being a twat problem. Next time he does it I would yank his hair hard and if he complains tell him every time he does something you have told him you hate - you will do that in return.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 17/02/2025 18:34

Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:56

He's honestly not intimidating he's just so annoying...I'm wondering if he's "premanopausal" 😂

No, he’s just a twat who doesn’t respect you, or care about your feelings. The next time he does it slap his hand away, fix him with a stare and tell him straight that you hate him doing it, you know he knows you hate it because you’ve told him, and the next time he does it you will be reconsidering the relationship. You need to recognise that this is abuse, and you’re enabling it by not stopping it.