My husband keeps touching my full face...WTF

[Thankgodforwine]

My husband randomly runs his hand down the front of my entire face.....he knows it annoys the fuck out of me ...but he keeps doing it. When I voice my annoyance/rage, he makes it out as if it's "me"problem.
He is a great guy and dad....amazing husband and provider but ...WTF, is it me or is this normal. For context and to avoid drip feeding, I'm not a fan of human contact...like hugging etc ...some may say I'm awkward...but a hand to the full face ...surely nobody likes this, also his hands are sweaty as fuck, no joke ...these hands are damp. Am I being unreasonable, please say I am not 🤣

The fact he continues to do it when you’ve asked him to stop tells me all I need to know.

Something like that can pass as a joke once. It’s no longer funny when they continue to do it, knowing full well you don’t like it. Once that happens the meaning behind it changes completely. He’s controlling, putting you in your place, marking his territory and dominance like a dog pissing on a lamppost to mark its territory. It’s not loving or funny and he’s not acting like toddler either. He knows exactly what he’s doing.

The question is op, are you going o continue to put up with it?

Denial

If he does it again then you need to immediately say i have told you countless times that I HATE this. Why don't you care how I feel?

Then wait for an answer and keep asking the question when he tries to dodge it

No, genuinely. I need to know why it doesn't matter to you that I hate it when you do this.

Etc

You mean this??

eeurgh

The thing is, it annoys you, it doesn't matter what the reason is. He then makes it all about you being unreasonable.
So you either put up with it because he is a 'great' husband or you stop him doing it by being firm and not laughing about it.
There have been loads of suggestions from people, none of which you appear you want to do, so perhaps you will have to keep putting up with something you hate.

He's a bullying arsehole. If he does it again, walk out.

Face/Off must be about 30yrs old!

Why he be referencing that now?

He's just your common or garden disrespectful tosser I would have thought.

Stamp on his foot when he does it.

Tell him it was a knee jerk reaction if he complains about it and maybe he won't be so stupid again.

My husband will tenderly caress the side of my face/cheek which I love but he knows (no pun intended) that I hate my nose being touched so would never deliberately touch my nose.

He loves and respects me. Perhaps your husband doesn't feel the same way about you?

Why are you laughing?

And what's great about him?

Then you're being gaslit.

In a nutshell. It's a power move.

Squeeze his nuts painfully each time he does it.

Then when he complains tell him that it's his problem and he's being a prude!

Bloody horrible.
I'm ND and this would be a reason to split.
Full stop.

Urgh. The only man who did this to me was a raging control freak. He did it because it would set off my (usually fairly mild) claustrophobia.

So I bit him.

@Thankgodforwine when you've asked him to stop have you delivered that in a slightly sing-song "Oh stop it 😂" way or have you looked him in the eye and delivered it in it a serious, no nonsense way with no smiling or laughing? It's common for women to use a "tinkly laugh" as a way of diffusing a situation, or if they feel awkward, and it can take a focused effort not to do that if it's habit (which it may be going by how you post?)

He doesn't respect you. He's literally telling you that.

That wouldn't be going from 1 to 100. That would be seeing the light and realising you don't want to spend the rest of your short life with someone who doesn't respect you.

Why are you minimising with all the lols and 😂? Tell him to fuck off.

It's strange, isn't it. She wants advice, but she wants to minimise it.

You've told us you hate it when he does that.

Stop with the lols and the laughy face emojis here.

Every time you add one, you're minimising and placating and being faux girly.

Not with us; with yourself.

It's winding people up.

Next time he does it, do a big blob of spit and smear it over his hand.

That was my first thought too. Weirdly my ex dh did it to me once after seeing that film and I hated it. He didn't do it again but maybe that was because he'd found himself another woman to do it to. 😑

Whether most people would hate it or not - you dont like it. You have told him that. He keeps doing it. That is what is important here, and it is unacceptable behaviour by him.

It’s creepy and abusive, you are being gaslit. Wonder what he’s got lined up next to try on you .

An ex of mine when I was a teen did this to me after watching Face Off.

I told him it was weird and I didn't like it so he didn't do it again.

Totally bizarre. Do the same back to him, see how he likes it. He’s being a right dick!

I honestly despair.