Going all out for your kids on valentines day

[Supergirl1958]

Seriously when did that become a thing! Tonight I’ve been told it’s ’on me’ that I feel guilty because it’s splashed all over my social media feeds about the efforts parents have gone to, balloons, presents, cakes, breakfasts for their children on Valentine’s Day?

Like AIU to think it shouldn’t be another thing to pressure parents into feeling guilty? Like the elf and so on!!

Have a walk around next year.

Even before social media became a thing, imo Valentines Day, can be a depressing day for many people. When I was in my 20s, I'd never have gone to the cinema on 14th Feb or booked a restaurant as they were full of couples.

If a funny, light hearted card can help in the smallest way, what's the harm.....?

She'll pick it up when she hears all the mums say "ffs" when they see her at pick up time

Thanks. I’ve learned something. It’s slightly disturbing that I assumed this Valentine dude was female.

I just looked him up; for the first time in my life. Apparently his desiccated skull may be viewed in a church in Rome. If that’s not a reminder of the ephemeral nature of love, I don’t know what is! 💀😄

Oh, and that’s our European city break sorted for 15 Feb next year. Who says I’m not romantic? 😄

My Dd came home from school in a panic saying she must get her best friend a gift because she's getting her a gift.
After some reassuring that of course she didn't have to buy her friend a gift as there's no special occasion.
Apparently there is. Galentines day which is a day before valentines and is a celebration of friendship.

I went all out for my daughter today, cards, decorations, lots of presents and cake etc but it is her 14th birthday so that was why!!

we don’t really acknowledge that it’s Valentine’s Day, it’s getting way over the top here now. Every year it’s getting closer to the hype it is in America.

Balls.

I have reached the end of my analysis.

It’s all just consumerism and has lost its meaning. We just give each other some hugs and kisses. My kids put a sweet note under my pillow to say how much they love me and that they have prepared a special show for me later

Valentine's day isn't for kids. It's for someone you are involved with romantically.

splashed all over my social media feeds about the efforts parents have gone to, balloons, presents, cakes, breakfasts for their children on Valentine’s Day?

Totally ridiculous

We are raising a generation of materialistic little narcissists. I'm judging because I'm going to have to live alongside these people when they're adults.

Talked to my 19 year old at uni and she said you wouldn't know it was Valentine's Day. I mean it's nice if you are in a romantic relationship but otherwise it's a non event.

Ooh fab I could get into that!

I totally agree with you...but don't feel bad..just get off socials

This!

Nothing. It’s kind of just the point of social media.

I do wonder if the same could be said of you though, that you’ve constantly come on this thread to have a dig at me and make me feel bad about something several mums netters
agree I have a point about though 🤷‍♀️

Just come off social media, I hadn't heard anything of this until someone mentioned it on MN. I don't know why you'd feel guilty - it's clearly ridiculous.

Don’t let it get to you. If some people want to make a big show then they can, if others don’t it’s also fine.

my teenage dd and her boyfriend brought each other stuff with their own money from their part time jobs. I wouldn’t be getting involved in any of that. DH and I brought ourselves a box of chocolates to share and stuffed them down our faces in bed. Who says romance is dead eh? We don’t go in for a big show on one specific day.

for what it’s worth. Only one person on my social media feed appeared to go beyond the standard flowers and chocolates. They’re very much trying to become an influencer and live their Instagram life, so I didn’t give it any thought.

If anyone had tried to make me feel guilty about not roping my children into Valentine’s Day, I’d have told them that I think it’s totally inappropriate for an adult to send Valentine gifts to children, and sends a very mixed message about adult/child relationships.

I’ve not been ‘had’ because I haven’t done it! And I don’t intend to ‘keep up with the joneses’

I would actually pity this woman!!

I think it’s just symptomatic of the overly child centric society we live in, that children must not be excluded from anything that is fun for adults.

Oh yuk! What spectacularly downmarket behaviour.

I’ll say what many may be thinking: is this a class thing? Or American? 🙄

Like getting pissed and having casual sex? I find that quite fun, as do many women I know (OK, knew 😀).

Applying anything to do with Valentines’ day to children is deeply inappropriate. The whole idea, which I’d never heard of before this thread, gives me the creeps.

Blimey, I’ve not seen a single post on my social media about parents doing valentines stuff for their kids!

DH is away and I got the kids a £4 Teddy and a pack of love hearts, a spontaneous thing from near the checkout at Tesco. They often get little teddies and/or sweets so that was just a fairly normal little treat.

This is very normal to me. I use social media very sparingly, to update family and friends as I moved away. I can only ever get 13 likes as I have a private profile and 13 followers. Some of these people will be busy and not see or engage with my posts, so some probably have fewer than 13 likes. It has never occurred to me to even check!

Though I am also over 40.