Going all out for your kids on valentines day

[Supergirl1958]

Seriously when did that become a thing! Tonight I’ve been told it’s ’on me’ that I feel guilty because it’s splashed all over my social media feeds about the efforts parents have gone to, balloons, presents, cakes, breakfasts for their children on Valentine’s Day?

Like AIU to think it shouldn’t be another thing to pressure parents into feeling guilty? Like the elf and so on!!

There are easter trees in the Range.

Then stop looking.

Mind blown.

People are celebrating any auld shite now.

Yay, it's Wednesday/second week in June/the guinea pig's birthday/new mug day/mid menstrual cycle day/the postman's aunt's dog's remembrance day/founding of Clacton on Sea day 😂😂😂

The ongoing functioning of your vital organs is not dependent on what you post on Instagram.

You're the one that said it made you feel guilty.

Is it?
Why don't we get behind that?
I love that.
In fact, even if someone wanted to give me a valentines gift, I'd prefer a book.

But you are being ridiculous and it is affecting you. Just look at your replies. So what if it is for likes? You can have a mind of your own and not care what random Joe is doing. I don't do elf, valentines, and all these silly little things and it doesn't even cross my mind to feel bad about it just because someone else does it. You are way too invested in SM.
I'm sure you do many things as a parent, that other people don't as well.

Is it a thing to do this? Ridiculous, just like gender reveal and baby showers. I feel sorry for the gullible part of the younger generation who think they should do it, and I mean part because not all succumb.

Totally unrealistic SM driven crap IMO. X

@Supergirl1958
But you say it makes you feel guilty. So it is affecting you.
Is there a reason you can't stop looking at Instagram? Find healthier ways to live your life.

If you've been looking at your "feed" all day then it is on you, yes. You are addicted to social media and it's harming you. That is the issue, not whether other families celebrate valentine's day. You know it's just about likes so why do you attach so much importance to it?

But you like telling people how they should and shouldn’t feel, because it clearly bothers you that it’s a thing that I am bothered by it!

All day? How did you come to that conclusion?

I’m sorry that you feel like this, it must be tough. Have you thought of having a break from social media?

I didn’t know this was a thing. I bought DD16 some lovehearts, which it turns out she doesn’t like! DH has bought her flowers in the past but I don’t think Valentines is about your kids.

I understand, but we also need to stop the judgement in the other direction! I do something small with DS because I WANT to - it's a nice way to shake up February a bit. It's not on social media (shocking to some of you clearly) and I'd never blame or think anything less of another parent for not doing it. It's my 'problem' but in general I like celebrating as much as possible and planning things like this is my idea of fun!

However this year I've been pressured by several other parents to 'admit' what I'm doing only for them to tell me how awful it is and how much of a waste of time it is - sure it is, but it's my waste of time! I don't get why we can't just respect parents wishes to do what they want with their kids ~ it's insane this perceived judgement/pressure/guilt even reaches parents for things as small as Valentine's Day! 😅 Let's all just raise our kids as we want and with the acknowledgment that some people celebrate things on different days 💁‍♀️

‘Can’t stop’ whatever gave you that impression?

I think you are unreasonable for feeling guilty and thinking that it's done to put pressure on you. I think other people do it because they enjoy it and they think it makes their children happy. I don't think they are thinking about you, or how you will feel about it. If you don't like it and don't want to celebrate, then don't.

So what if I am? Doesn’t mean I’m affected by it!

Ha, this!

Tbh we had one child vomiting this morning and another with EBSA, so it was a good couple of hours before we even exchanged 'Happy Valentine's day' wishes...

I haven’t once said that it’s done to our pressure on me personally!

I do what makes my child happy as much as I can and don’t need to prove that on the one day of the year marketing promotes it!

I think that is what it means though. You’ve been affected by it as you feel guilty.

Have some confidence in yourself and your decisions of what you want to do, and try not to judge others for their choices too.

I don't believe this is real, if it is real, I don't believe the op is a teacher. If it is real and the op is a teacher, I despair.

Are you for real? If it's having an affect on your emotional state i.e 'making' you feel guilty, then it's affecting you.

I'm beginning to think l this isn't a serious post.

It can't be serious.

I was just thinking the same thing about not being a teacher too - typed it out but deleted it in my last post 😂

This is surely just a wind up.

I gave our DD who's almost 2 a Minnie Mouse card and a big pink rubber duck for the bath with "I love you" on it. She was really excited by both. I spent £4.

My DH and I just give each other a card and get a takeaway.

I just think it's a day about "love" whether that's romantic or family or friends.

But I don't think you should feel guilty about it!