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to think some people think WFH should be a constant nose to the grindstone?

360 replies

Yodeloo · 12/02/2025 15:45

I think some jobs are like that definitely. Heavy workload, helplines etc

Some people think all WFH should be like this and get horrified because someone hung some washing out or helped out a family member for a short time. Plenty of jobs have flexibility and it is about getting the job done not just being present in front of the computer non stop.

I get all my life admin done throughout the day around work. I do an exercise class most mornings and then start work later on the days I WFH. I will meet up with friends, work on my side business. Nobody cares at my work. All targets are met consistently.

Is it jealousy that people get so upset?

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Judystilldreamsofhorses · 12/02/2025 23:10

I do one WFH day a week, and have one non-working day (a Wednesday). I’m a lecturer and on my WFH day I teach two remote classes, and get my lesson prep/marking done for the rest of the week. Do I stick a wash on first thing/sort it/hang it? Yes of course. Generally after my second remote class I’m kind of done, because I work far more efficiently at home and batter through all my work in the morning with no distractions. I am often pottering around the house, but available to attend to my laptop if it beeps with emails or messages.

Today on my non-working (unpaid, I am on a .8 contract) day I have replied to numerous emails/Teams messages, and also arranged a referral for a student who needs support for personal issues. I figure it all balances out, and am grateful to have a manager who feels the same.

Pp mentioned the Teams status going to “away”. I changed mine to offline about two years ago when a student said I would get into trouble if management saw. I was standing right next to her, in a teaching space, on campus, with my laptop at the other side of the room. Not all work is done at a desk!

Princessfluffy · 12/02/2025 23:46

I think the main worry about WFH is that a lot of jobs that provably can be done remotely are now being moved to wherever in the world labour is cheapest.

SueblueNZ · 12/02/2025 23:46

Ladysodor · 12/02/2025 17:59

Everyone should be back in the office by now. WFH allows you the casual lazy breaks that a day in the office wouldn’t allow. About time the Gov clamped down on this loophole.

What a load of tosh.
Some employers - mine included - have closed their brick and mortar workplaces to save money. Why pay office leases and provide furniture and heating when they can make their employees work from home and provide only laptops and cellphones?

1SillySossij · 13/02/2025 01:19

ThePartingOfTheWays · 12/02/2025 22:57

There can't be many employers who are in a line of work where offshoring would be feasible, but have somehow not realised this in at least half a decade of remote working. Realistically that's got to be quite a niche group.

It's not a question of whether the employee realises this though is it?

OonaStubbs · 13/02/2025 01:25

If people at work have time to hang out washing or go to exercise classes, they are not being managed properly and are not as productive as they should be. I think WFH should be cracked down on as too many are clearly swinging the lead.

ThePartingOfTheWays · 13/02/2025 06:53

1SillySossij · 13/02/2025 01:19

It's not a question of whether the employee realises this though is it?

Sorry, not sure what you mean here?

ShapedLikeAPastry · 13/02/2025 07:18

1SillySossij · 13/02/2025 01:19

It's not a question of whether the employee realises this though is it?

You've misunderstood. The previous poster was talking about whether or not the employer has realised, not the employee.

And again, this kind of 'gotcha' - oh, your work is going to be offshored hahahaha, back to the office with you, slacker! - is another example of lack of imagination. Not everyone who WFH is doing calls or sales. My job doesn't really exist outside of the UK and certainly couldn't be done via a call centre in Bangalore or wherever. And if a job can genuinely be done better by AI, than the office / WFH argument is irrelevant anyway.

But you know, carry on gloating at the chance that some people could possibly lose jobs because they work in a way that you don't understand; that's a great look for you.

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 07:24

OonaStubbs · 13/02/2025 01:25

If people at work have time to hang out washing or go to exercise classes, they are not being managed properly and are not as productive as they should be. I think WFH should be cracked down on as too many are clearly swinging the lead.

So deal with their managers. They were clearly failing when their staff were in the office full time, hiding behind a culture of presenteeism.

Or realise that it’s not the end of the world if someone does an exercise class and makes up the time later. Not everything has to slot into a 9-5 pattern and might actually be better with flexibility.

Yodeloo · 13/02/2025 07:26

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/02/2025 22:56

So your employer is paying you for only one hour's work?

Yes. Some days are mad busy and others are very quiet. Work ebbs and flows.

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Yodeloo · 13/02/2025 07:28

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 12/02/2025 22:47

I definitely do think people should be able to wfh and I do agree flexibility is important. I used to put out the washing, too, when I did. And I stacked the dishwasher at lunchtime. Why not?

But honestly, I do also think there are also a ton of skivers who wfh. Not everyone plays fair. There was a thread recently where plenty of people admitted it. It ruins it for others.

I think there should be clear standards or targets/expectations/milestones, and people should expect to meet them.

I have targets to meet and meet them all consistently.

I can meet the targets and do the laundry, go out for walks, go for exercise classes and meet up with friends during working hours.

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Yodeloo · 13/02/2025 07:31

OonaStubbs · 13/02/2025 01:25

If people at work have time to hang out washing or go to exercise classes, they are not being managed properly and are not as productive as they should be. I think WFH should be cracked down on as too many are clearly swinging the lead.

You clearly fall into the nose to the grindstone group then.

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Cookiesandcandies · 13/02/2025 07:34

I think people don’t understand different jobs. When I was in the office full time (and on most office days now), I’ll end up taking a long 2 hour lunch to meet friends. I might go and grab a social coffee with a colleague in the afternoon. None of that is frowned upon if work is done to deadline. The same sort of attitude extended to WFH. I always have my phone on my in case I’m needed urgently, but otherwise I can be pretty relaxed about where I am at any specific time.

Bournetilly · 13/02/2025 07:36

I think it’s jealousy. I would love to be able to do this, I’d get so much done and it would make life easier. Unfortunately WFH would never be possible with my job.

ThePartingOfTheWays · 13/02/2025 07:36

I think people don’t understand different jobs.

Sums up a great deal of the discourse on remote working!

sunshineandshowers40 · 13/02/2025 07:45

It is jealousy.

I have worked at home for a few years; when I first started I did not stop, I seriously thought I should be working at 💯. My manager told me to slow down as I was going to burnout. I get everything done and more but I also clean the house, get life admin sorted and exercise a few times a week.

I am so productive at home and rarely go into the office.

Fizbosshoes · 13/02/2025 07:46

I think jobs vary and obviously some you're required to be available for certain hours, although I imagine most wfh jobs have a degree of flexibility to them.
I understand when pp say they work 37 hours a week but it doesn't matter when those hours happen. I'm slightly more surprised at the amount of people on MN saying they can get all their work done in eg 2-3 hours/day. I get that in any job there might be dead time, breaks for the loo, chatting etc but is there really only 25% of the day active working? (I chat at the same time as working!) Why would companies pay people ft money for a 10 hr a week job, surely that's pt? But I'm always shouted down for that argument and everyone is being paid for their knowledge, experience and expertise rather than their time

movinghouse12 · 13/02/2025 07:46

There are people who wfh and regularly take the piss, though. And they seem to like gloating about it.

Yes I do washing in the middle of the day. And I might tidy up the kitchen for 10 mins. But I work in a senior role where I do above my contracted hours each week, often work through lunch, and tend to work late one evening a week when email traffic is quiet to keep up. It's accepted that we can do things like go for an appt for an hour or so if our diary is quiet and we make the time up as needed. Often we probably don't need to due to the extra we do, it's very much a culture of trust and being available to meet business needs. But I would be taking the piss to do a gym class in the working day. They will be fine with me going to do the school pick up and logging on after bedtime though, because they're supportive of family life.

ForPlumReader · 13/02/2025 07:49

Yes and no. I WFH but think there's a big difference between taking an exercise class (presumably that's at least an hour out) within working hours and sticking a washing on (5 minutes, so same as a chat over the kettle in the office).

We have core hours. It's hard enough getting hold of people some days, never mind having to take their exercise routine into account. Those sort of things should be done outside core hours if it is going to impact the rest of the team.

MegTheForgetfulCat · 13/02/2025 07:51

MrsSunshine2b · 12/02/2025 16:33

The vast majority of office jobs have never taken 40 hours a week.

There's a few people who are always loudly busy in every office, talking a lot about how they have so many emails and acting flustered all the time.

Then there's 80% of the staff getting their jobs done and then quietly finding ways to fill time and appear busy until they are allowed to leave.

WFH has drawn attention to the fact that most people are perfectly able to get their jobs done in a fraction of the time they are actually paid for, but acknowledging this would cause a massive shift in the way we approach work and the economy, so the people who want things to stay as they are hate it.

Tell me you don't work for a law firm without telling me you don't work for a law firm! Grin

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 07:57

ForPlumReader · 13/02/2025 07:49

Yes and no. I WFH but think there's a big difference between taking an exercise class (presumably that's at least an hour out) within working hours and sticking a washing on (5 minutes, so same as a chat over the kettle in the office).

We have core hours. It's hard enough getting hold of people some days, never mind having to take their exercise routine into account. Those sort of things should be done outside core hours if it is going to impact the rest of the team.

Depends on the job. Although I am part of a team I work in my own projects and often in complete isolation from anyone else. I rarely get an email that needs to be responded to immediately - that’s just not my role.

So I can easily go to the shops or do an exercise class and not get any emails at all in that time, let alone any that need an immediate response. I never have any meetings, either in person (I do 2 days in the office) or online. I don’t use Teams at all. My phone rarely rang.

Not everyone’s role is the same.

spikefaithbuffy · 13/02/2025 07:57

Cookiesandcandies · 13/02/2025 07:34

I think people don’t understand different jobs. When I was in the office full time (and on most office days now), I’ll end up taking a long 2 hour lunch to meet friends. I might go and grab a social coffee with a colleague in the afternoon. None of that is frowned upon if work is done to deadline. The same sort of attitude extended to WFH. I always have my phone on my in case I’m needed urgently, but otherwise I can be pretty relaxed about where I am at any specific time.

Exactly

Whereas I work from home with timed breaks and lunches and no flexibility in hours
My shift is my shift and I need to be at my desk

BountifulPantry · 13/02/2025 08:00

I think lots of it is failure to understand different types of jobs.

Lots of my job is decision making, thinking about things, weighing things up, deciding which direction to go.

It’s not really about speed typing or constant zoom calls.

scotstars · 13/02/2025 08:01

Agree a lot is jealousy.... when I worked from home I could do my job in half the time as I wasn't constantly interrupted for things that were nothing to do with my role. If you are getting the job done theres no issue

MegTheForgetfulCat · 13/02/2025 08:03

IHadaMarvelousTimeRuiningEverything · 12/02/2025 15:59

Yes it is jealousy.

People don't like it because they're jealous they can't do those home admin jobs because they either can't wfh because of the nature of their job or they've been hauled back into the office.

I know someone that works in a school and she's incredibly scornful of the fact I can get bits done when I'm working at home. She likes to make out I must be shirking and that my job isn't a 'proper one' like hers.

A "proper" job - so one that ends by 5pm and comes with 13 weeks' holiday, then? Obviously I'm being facetious, but people who work in schools still get time to get home asking done, just not during their working day.

I am able to get stuff done like the washing etc whilst WFH, but my "core" hours of 9-5 have only ever been the minimum expectation in my field of work, so getting those jobs done does not take anything away from my employer. Hanging the washing is a healthy break for my eyes and a chance to stretch my legs for 10 minutes!

A lot of the comments stem from jealousy - and a total lack of understanding of what other people job's entail. My comment above about schools is in jest but there are a lot of people who genuinely believe teachers clock off at 3.30 every day.

WhereAreWeNow · 13/02/2025 08:06

I think it depends. Yes, I put the washing on and I go to the gym in my lunch break when I'm WFH but I still work my hours and I'm contactable at all times apart from the lunch break. I've managed people who definitely took the piss and were generally unproductive and uncontactable at home.