To not give her a lift?

[DreamingOfHotPotatoes]

My child does an activity, once a week, that's roughly a 30 minute drive from my house, so an hour long round trip.

However, one of the parents, who I have never spoken to, has asked other parents where I live, and on discovering that I drive past her house, has decided that I will be taking her child to and from the activity from now on. She has not asked me this! Last week she just left the child at the activity and told the child I would be giving them a ride home. I gave the child a ride home, but not willingly! This child shoved my child out of the way and demanded the front seat, then kicked the back of my seat the whole way home. My child has autism and really needs a quiet car on the way home to decompress, this was quite an ordeal for her.

I'm taking my daughter to her activity later and I'm having anxiety over it happening again. Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to give this child a ride home?!

Although your child would miss out for one week I agree it would be good to miss a week (not the end of the world). But it shows CF they need other arrangements. Also exit the WhatsApp.

Make sure you send a concerned email to the group leader and ask them to clarify what their rules are on collecting children.

Fucking hell OP. Do not change your position. If the other parents care enough, they can drop the kid off.

This is so upsetting for both you and your child, I’m so sorry. Has there been any fall out from CF parent since you not giving the other child a lift?

I can’t believe anyone would be so cheeky. The fact she just told other people you’d be taking her and hadn’t even asked you. These other people can go out of their way and help if they say it takes a village. Unbelievably cheeky.

Sorry I left the thread for a bit. I have been doing a LOT of digging! And my goodness do I have an update!

The leader's irritated reaction as if I was personally responsible for causing an inconvenience, the hostility from a few of the other mums, it just didn't sit right with me, something felt off. These were not normal reactions! I messaged a few other parents privately and got a very curt response from one - apparently after all I'd done, giving a lift home was the least I could do! This completely baffled me, so I rang another mum who has always seemed reasonable. I felt bad for her, as she obviously felt like I'd put her on the spot, but after some dithering she confessed that she had heard the CF's husband had left because of an affaire and it had been implied that I was the Other Woman!!!!! I was absolutely appalled as this is NOT the case! And I made very sure she knew that! I then did more digging and talking to people, and well, it's all come out now!!

Do you want to know the REAL story? CF's husband left because SHE was the one having the affaire! With, wait for it.....the activity leader!!!!!! They had hatched a plan where she would nip round to his and wait there for him, while muggins here took her child home!! I'm absolutely gobsmacked at the audacity of the two of them!! And RAGING at the gossip they were happy to have people believe about me! Apparently I was never named, just heavily hinted towards.

Wow OP that’s unbelievable.

How were you able to so easily find out she was having an affair with the activity leaders if the others didn’t know?

The update seems quite unbelievable.

How did you manage to find out all this out if you're not friends with this lot?

Though gossip wise, I'm here for it! 🤣

Hmm, that is quite the update.. Just wondering how you found all this out?

Seems odd that the other parents would insist you take the child home if they thought you were the OW?! If you had cheated with my husband I would not want you anywhere near my children, never mind giving them lifts...c

Wowsers!!!! 🤯😵‍💫🤯😵‍💫🧐

Good lord!! CF the pair of them!!

I haven't had time to update due to all the back and forthing with the other parents! CF mum has told so many lies and half truths and spun such a web, this affaire seems to be the tip of the ice berg! Now that all the parents are talking to each other it seems there has been massive CFery goin on. I can't give you all the details, I don't even know the full extent of it! But safe to say, I am DONE with this group. It will take a lot of effort, but I will work with DD into getting her into a different activity.

Ok, so again, why was she using you to give child a life while she is having an affair with the group leader? You do realise that makes no sense..

If she's waiting for him to be clear of children, then how does that even work?

@Emptyflames When OP dropped child off the first time, only the lodger was at home

So is everyone hating her for her nonsense or are they all still on her side? Presumably the latter if you’re ditching

I feel annonymised screenshots would be your friend here @DreamingOfHotPotatoes

Unbelievable!

But the timings still don't work.

Why on earth use that time for an affair? It doesn't make any sense, is CF waiting in the cloakroom for a quick bunk up?

So whose waiting for the child at home? This seems really far fetched unless people really do live life's like a bad Eastenders plot.