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Should I feel upset about colleagues behaviour after following them on insta?

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ThatLilacHedgehog · 07/02/2025 00:48

I followed my male colleague on instagram because I have been following a lot of my colleagues recently however he never followed me back, yet he posted stories. As well as this he was off with me in work today.

should I block him, unfollow him or what? I need advice

am i being unreasonable for being upset about this?

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SpringBunnyHopHop · 07/02/2025 00:49

You’re overthinking.

Shatandfattered · 07/02/2025 00:49

Shockingly creepy

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ThatLilacHedgehog · 07/02/2025 00:50

What’s creepy?

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mallorytowers8282 · 07/02/2025 00:50

Don't block him or unfollow him, you'll look like a nutter.

You're overthinking it. Just get on with your life and leave him be.

Original poster
ThatLilacHedgehog · 07/02/2025 00:50

Shatandfattered · 07/02/2025 00:49

Shockingly creepy

What’s creepy?

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Original poster
ThatLilacHedgehog · 07/02/2025 00:51

mallorytowers8282 · 07/02/2025 00:50

Don't block him or unfollow him, you'll look like a nutter.

You're overthinking it. Just get on with your life and leave him be.

Have I embarrassed myself?

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BottomWibblyWob · 07/02/2025 00:51

It’s a waste of life to even notice these things OP.

mallorytowers8282 · 07/02/2025 01:00

I don't know if you've embarrassed yourself by adding him on insta. Are you friends?

But yes, you would probably embarrass yourself by unfollowing / blocking him.

Just leave it alone. Stop watching his stories.

Meadowfinch · 07/02/2025 01:02

Why does it matter? He's some random chap at work. Why are you following his every word?

To him you are a casual acquaintance who he doesn't think twice about in a day. You on the other hand seem to think you have a connection. You don't, Insta isn't real. Just forget about it. Find something more interesting to do.

BottomWibblyWob · 07/02/2025 01:03

How do you know he’s added to his stories OP?

incandescentglow · 07/02/2025 01:57

BottomWibblyWob · 07/02/2025 01:03

How do you know he’s added to his stories OP?

cause she followed him... he's probably not on private

ImDoneOnceAndForAll · 07/02/2025 01:59

How close are you at work ?

BobbyDazzler11 · 07/02/2025 02:03

your unreasonable to be upset yes, he just doesn't want to follow you back and doesn't have to I'm afraid

JazzHandsYeah · 07/02/2025 02:12

Honestly, you’re over thinking it. Probably better not to have colleagues on social media.

ZaraSkyTraveler · 07/02/2025 02:25

Utterly bizarre to follow colleagues on SM. Even more odd to get upset by them not following you back. Just leave it. Don’t block him or unfollow you’ll just look mad and overly invested.

cam I ask if you’re very young?

CallMeFlo · 07/02/2025 02:31

Ffs what are you 12??

So he didn't follow you back. Big deal. Its stranger the fact you actually noticed this.

To block him would be absolutely ridiculous behaviour.

MrsJHernandez · 07/02/2025 03:01

Do nothing. He doesn't have to follow you back.

What made you perceive that he was "off" with you today?

InWalksBarberalla · 07/02/2025 03:05

Is this real? Like really a thing that people old enough to have a job think about? It's mind blowing.

Belshels · 07/02/2025 03:23

Mute his post and stories, then you won't notice him, also he won't see you listed viewing his stories ( if he bothers to look at viewers).

vodkaredbullgirl · 07/02/2025 03:25

Ah insta load of crap 😆

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 07/02/2025 03:36

Why are you upset? Are you interested in him?

RawBloomers · 07/02/2025 04:11

Presumably the issue with him posting stories (on his own insta account!) is simply that it means he still uses it, so your issue is that you followed him and he isn't interested in following you?

If this really is the crux of the issue - get off social media until you've matured.

If you want to watch his stream, follow him. If you don't then stop following him. Do not follow someone because you expect some kind of tit-for-tat community building. If you want people to follow you then post stuff they're interested in. Don't expect people to clutter their streams just because you want more followers.

Following someone does not oblige them to follow you. You're not important. You're not special. You're just a person he works with and he isn't obliged to do the things you want him to. He can use Insta the way he wants to.

If your immaturity over this is echoed in your interactions with him in other ways, that will easily explain why he was off with you. Otherwise perhaps he was having an off day, or he doesn't follow people he isn't friends with and he thinks you're a bit of a creepy stalker.

LittleBigHead · 07/02/2025 04:14

Sorry, but are you 13, OP?

TheyAreNotAngelsTheyDontCareAtAll · 07/02/2025 05:05

ThatLilacHedgehog · 07/02/2025 00:50

What’s creepy?

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Following work colleagues is weird. They are colleagues, so why on earth, apart from sheer nosiness, would you be interested in their Ig life?
As for the colleague who never followed you back.. I suspect he is a fully functioning adult who really doesn't want/need your likes in order to get on with his grown up professional life. However, if this is sooooo important to you, report him to HR for not following you on SM and then for giving you a 'being off with you'. While a meaningless phrase and unassessable, I am sure they can force him to follow you back and like at least three of your posts per dium, or face dismissal.

What a pathetic state of affairs

TheyAreNotAngelsTheyDontCareAtAll · 07/02/2025 05:18

President Zelensky: Why did you invade my country?
Presiden Putin: Because you didn't follow me back on Insta

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