Should I feel upset about colleagues behaviour after following them on insta?

[ThatLilacHedgehog]

I followed my male colleague on instagram because I have been following a lot of my colleagues recently however he never followed me back, yet he posted stories. As well as this he was off with me in work today.

should I block him, unfollow him or what? I need advice

am i being unreasonable for being upset about this?

I’m missing something. You’re upset because he didn’t follow you back? Is that it?

By making this thread yes.

Very strange reaction from you.

He is entitled to not allow working colleagues follow him.

Maybe don't follow working colleagues unless you have a friendship with them.

I'd never follow a colleague.

What age are you? Just asking because you have yet to grow out of being a bully on the internet.

I hope you realized your mistake. You've shown vulnerability on Mumsnet, and (gasp) may even have committed an error in judgment. You will now be put in your place by a bunch of mature adults who, unaccountably, feel a pathological need to bully random strangers on the internet.

Get a life, everyone, or failing that, at least get a grip.

It's not one upmanship it's just something most people don't do anymore. Maybe in the early days but certainly not now. I have been at my current job for six years and I'm friends with several members of staff but still wouldn't add them on social media as it's crossing a line.

The best advice here is to mute so you don't see the stories and put it out of your mind OP. Come to think of it there are people who don't follow me back.

By 'work' did you mean 'school' because these aren't the ponderings of an adult. Just stop thinking about it and get on with your life.

Many people don't want to have their work colleagues on their socials as you're just colleagues, not friends (even if you're friendly at work). He probably doesn't want you nosing at his personal stuff, but more fool him for not having his settings private.

With all kindness..please get a life and stop wasting it on this

I am BOGGLED that this could be an issue for anyone over the age of 13.

Block him! How dare he not follow you even though he doesn't know you. Some men.

The op did not mention anxiety. That's PPs projecting or assuming.

Maybe he has a girlfriend who doesn’t like him following other females. Or maybe he’s just missed the notification.
Sometimes I notice family members or old friends I presumed I was following back and it isn’t until I click on their profile I realise I must have forgot to follow them back.

General rule / I would only add colleagues on social media if I can call them friends. Criteria being - we mee up outside work, go on holiday together etc.

Otherwise it does feel a bit weird. I’ve done it and it feels intrusive somehow.

He has no obligation to follow you OP. You need to forget it and stop watching his stories as he can see that you are. It’s weird.

Maybe take a break from social.

Why are you following colleagues on Instagram?

This. Just forget it . It's no big deal

Put it behind you, there is always a lesson learnt in these situations.

No real harm done, forget it. 💐

The lesson here is don't follow work colleagues randomly, many people feel it invades their privacy.

Jesus Christ, OP.
Grow the fuck up.

Oh @ThatLilacHedgehog you’re getting a hard time. Sometimes it’s hard to realise colleagues aren’t really friends out of work. I’d just unfollow and treat it as a life lesson.

i assume you’re younger than a lot of people on here and things are a bit different but its important to know the difference between colleagues and social media friends. I wouldn’t want a colleague seeing details of my life, even if I really liked them.

Unfollow. My boss followed me on insta but wouldn’t allow me to follow her. Weird.

This ^^ on the rare occasion a colleague mentions they have sent me a request i just say "I don't follow anyone I work with due to a previous incident". This has the added bonus of giving colleagues something mysterious to gossip about 🤣

No one owes anyone anything. The sooner you realise this, your life will be better.

Your colleague doesn't have to follow you because you follow them. Just quietly unfollow him and go about your life.

GROW UP.