To think children shouldn't be swearing in primary school

[Dishwashersaurous]

I'm genuinely interested in opinions and how this would be tackled in other schools.

There is a boy at my son's school who every single lunchtime will come and swear aggressively at my son. I understand he also does it to other children.

I've told my son to report to a teacher every single time, which he does.

However, it appears that there is no consequence or punishment for this child for the swearing. Then the next day the same thing happens again.

I intend to talk to the school about it because my son is now dreading breaktime and being sworn at.

However, Aibu to expect children not to swear at a primary school and that there should be action by the school to stop a child who does?

It might be every day language but other dc and adults don’t have to put up with it. Education is wider than just taking exams. It’s being aware of others too.

I don't swear and I don't work with anyone who swears. I think the worst I have heard is an occasional damn.

Any child swearing would be challenged by staff and other students. That is not to say some do not swear at home.

We have some children who do not swear in school but revert to effing and blinding when their parent collects them.

At DT’s school you got a demerit house point for swearing or inappropriate language.

Children are a reflection of their home life.

I swear quite a bit at home. My15 year old doesn't. Even her friends tease her about it. Our rule has always been never use them in front of adults outside the house, other than that I'm fine with it.

@BoredZelda ditto. Never heard my daughter swear even though I do like a trooper. I wouldn’t be that bothered if she did and she knows not swear at inappropriate times like you’ve said.

There are some posters on this thread desperate to assert that swearing is a ‘lower class thicko’ thing to do. It’s not.

The vast majority of swearing by children in school will take place out of earshot of teachers. To believe that means it doesn't happen, or that schools being strict about swearing when it is heard by teachers stops children from swearing in school, is hilariously naïve. As is the belief that children from 'naice' families don't swear. Total and utter nonsense!

My dc did not hear us swear. It’s not something they would hsve expected at school and most dc there would not have liked it and a teacher would have been informed. Dc all swearing together, I guess they don’t care but actually pleasant dc do.

How do you know most kids at your dc's school wouldn't like it? Many parents would be astonished at what their own dc do and say at school, never mind what their classmates do and say!

@AllProperTeaIsTheft don’t worry @TizerorFizz likes to make sweeping personal judgements dressed up as a fact. I’m ignoring it now

Too f*&ing right it is🤣

@AllProperTeaIsTheft Because I knew the parents of the dc. It’s just who they were. You are perfectly free to ignore me but I think many parents were paying too ££ to avoid dc who are saying things like this. The parents in the state school were not as well off, overall, but DDs friends just didn’t have swearing parents. I guess we have to agree to differ?

I've worked in everything from an inner-city comp to a top girls' private girls' school in a leafy market town and also in primary schools. Posh kids from lovely, wealthy backgrounds swear too, albeit in plummier tones. If people think they are paying to avoid 'kids who are saying things like this', they are kidding themselves! Well brought-up children know not to swear in front of adults.

Well brought-up children know not to swear in front of adults.

As this is the case, are you not arguing the same point? Children in private schools may have heard the words but they have also picked up very quickly when it is and is not appropriate to use them. For any child who has picked up on the context of when they should not swear (not just those in private schools), it continues into adulthood so swear words are often not their daily vocabulary

It's quite a scary state of affairs to see posters saying they don't care about primary aged children swearing. This isn't a toddler mimicking a parent who accidentally says "shit" after stubbing their toe. It's ingrained rude and aggressive language imbedded in small children as part of their day to day lexicon. How is that ever ok?

Because their parents speak to them like it so it's where they learn to talk like that

It's ingrained rude and aggressive language imbedded in small children as part of their day to day lexicon

@Notmycircusnotmyotter I know you’re trying to sound learned, but imbedded is not a word.

if you’d have however said ‘fucking imbedded’ it would have sounded cooler, although still wrong

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