Sil stalking my Sm

[Foreveronthattrampoline]

Whenever I post something on Sm…pretty rare these days. Sil has obviously seen it, but doesn’t like it or comment etc, but will then text Dh saying for example: ‘Are you going skiing?’ if I’ve posted something about future plans.

I just find this a bit annoying and odd, would you?

Why would she do this?

Is your instagram account set to public or private?

Private of course

She doesn’t need to type a comment on social media if she can have a conversation about it face to face with your or your partner! This is the problem for people for whom social media directly replaces all other kinds of communication. You are waiting for her to press ‘like’. She’s interested enough to actually ask her own brother.

You're bonkers. You put your life on social media for people to see and then get pissed off that people you allow to follow you see it?! 🙈🙈

For looking at your posts? You've ended friendships with people because they looked at your posts and didn't comment? Really?

You're putting all your business on social media then whining when someone sees or mentions it........odd.

No, that's not what I said 🤔🙄

I have unfriended social media, I’ve never been happier.

So many people being deliberately annoying…or thick 🤷🏻‍♀️

My thoughts exactly, but nevermind you'll catch on eventually 🙂

I just think it’s one of those things OP. If you don’t normally get on it’s probably a bit wearing. Unfortunately social media amplifies these things. I left it 3 years ago and I’ve never looked back. If you both commit to communicating with kindness things may get better. Everybody thinks they’ve got forever to make things right, we don’t. Life is short and fragile, and precious…I hope she decides to make an effort because after all, your both adults…

Well why not try and explain it to all the people who clearly don't understand why you find it annoying, that someone you allow to follow your private Instagram account, is reading the things you post on there, presumably for the people who follow you, to see.

Ahh forget it (bangs head against a wall)

Have a good evening 👋

Nothing weird at all.
It is more usual that your relatives do actually speak to you via phone or when they see you. Close friends and family have a more intimate communication with you. Of course they are going to talk about what you are posting and sharing with you and your husband.

People who are just facebook friends - old aquaintences, friends you hardly see etc. will sometimes tick or sometimes just read your posts.
It is not at all odd that some people never tick or comment.

What a sad world we live in when a woman wanting to talk directly to her brother and not through the medium of social media is considered wierd and suspicious. Remember conversations? They used to be fun didn’t they

So, OP wonders why her sister in law likes to talk to her brother directly on the phone, and then accuses posters trying to explain it to her of being obtuse?

I know who doesn't get it & is rude & obtuse, and it's not the OP's SiL.

Unless your SIL is Rebekah Vardy then yes YABVU

I think this pretty much sums it up. Our priorities and expectations around communication have become completely skewed.