Sil stalking my Sm

[Foreveronthattrampoline]

Whenever I post something on Sm…pretty rare these days. Sil has obviously seen it, but doesn’t like it or comment etc, but will then text Dh saying for example: ‘Are you going skiing?’ if I’ve posted something about future plans.

I just find this a bit annoying and odd, would you?

Why would she do this?

I suppose the million dollar question is why do you not want her to text her brother about things you post on SM? What does your husband think?

I’m literally a ghost on social media, I don’t like/post/share anything at all. But I do scroll, and would comment in person or via text if I felt the need to.

If my sister went skiing/on holiday I would 100% message her and ask her about it? Lots of distant friends/relatives see your post, why does his sister annoy you so much? Why don’t you block her?

But the op isn't interacting with her sister in law directly is she? or her husband, which is fine as they may all have no time for each other. But op if you and husband wouldn't tell her in real life why have her as a (and the clue is in the title) "friend".

Well there you are then. Job done. Easy, isn't it? Really not worth all the angst. I think the story thing probably makes it worse actually. At least with a normal status update you don't know who has seen it but chosen not to comment. With a story you know, so then you just have even more reason to stew on it and over-think why they aren't commenting.

I hate it when I accidentally click on a story. Sometimes when I've looked at one, the next person's comes up automatically before I have a chance to stop it. I prefer not to see them unless I choose to, precisely because of the expectation that I must then say something trite, gushing and pointless about it, in case that person thinks I am rude not to.

Why did you post on the grid (whatever that is) when you knew this is exactly what would happen? Nobody, and I mean absolutely not a soul, could care less if you didn't post it on that particular bit of your FB.
I don't think that many people use it anymore, certainly not like they did.

If it bothers you that SIL doesn't interact with you or ask you about something you've posted, but has gone straight to DH. Have a word with DH, what does he think? Ask him to tell her to stop. Or as people suggest... post these things as stories.
Or not at all.

It wasn’t on Fb

So she is more comfortable interrogating asking her brother about what you have been up to. Given how prickly you are on here, I am not really surprised she doesn't ask you about it.

I think if you re read my post, I did exactly that 🤔

Which social media is it?

What’s your problem ?

1. She asks your h about your IG and you want her to ask you?

2. You’d prefer if she asked any questions publicly under your post?

3. Your h is annoyed that she calls him?

4. You’d prefer her pretending that she doesn’t read your IG?

Not sure why you call it stalking. Does she call your h straight after you post?

Instagram

Yes exactly. I am really struggling to understand what it is the OP wants. She says she's not bothered that her SIL doesn't comment on the posts, so what is the problem?

Stop using SM.
Years ago I realised it's just an ego boost or vanity platform for most people.
You'll be much happier I promise you.

Ignore the usual lot flying in to try and make you feel like shit for asking a question and having feelings op.

Another poster who doesn't quite seem to grasp how posting on a discussion platform works. Especially choosing to ask the question 'Am I Being Unreasonable?'

Nobody is "trying to make the OP feel like shit". Every poster has answered if (and in some cases 'Why') they think the OP IBU. Which is what she chose to ask the internet.

If you don’t want her seeing things block her or don’t post.

Or having an excuse to have a chat with her own brother. You're priceless.

I don’t understand what is wrong with her seeing your posts?

She could ask all sorts of things

??????

????

But why don’t you want her to see your posts?!

So, you post on social media to all the ransoms in the world that you’re doing X and you get upset when your SiL comments about you doing X?

They are brother and sister? Just having a chat?

I’m not sure it’s reasonable to put things in SM and then be annoyed that people look at it! Unless you block her? Which is an option.