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I do not believe in gender identity.

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SernieBanders · 04/02/2025 09:05

There are two sexes: male and female. Occasionally, that matters.

There is no such thing as an innate gender identity—no internal essence that makes someone more inclined to wear dresses and sip wine, or football boots and down pints. Those are cultural stereotypes, not proof of some mystical gendered soul.

The idea of gender identity is sexist, misogynistic, and regressive. It reinforces outdated norms instead of challenging them. Women do not need an inner feeling of womanhood to be women. Men do not need a gender identity to be men. Sex is real. Stereotypes are not.

I hope with the flurry of cultural changes, legal challenges, scientific findings and executive orders in the last ~12 months, more people feel able to stand up and be counted, and say - No More.

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SerendipityJane · 05/02/2025 10:22

This link is terrible - it took 3 paragraphs to encounter a scientifically inaccurate statement presented as fact

Paste it into ChatGPT - let it* sift through it for you.

That said, one day someone will do that and ChatGPT will go "Hey ! I wrote that !"

Speaking of which, what gender is ChatGPT ? Could someone here advise me so I don't misgender he/she/it/them.

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:23

SerendipityJane · 04/02/2025 12:04

Really, the fact this is a "modern" thing should have alerted those of us who were awake years ago that were are dealing with something cultural and invented, rather than something innate and emergent.

Gender is like money. An invented concept overlaid onto physical reality. Cultures overlay gender over sex in the same way they overlay money over resources. It didn't exist when we were hunter gatherers. And it's emergence and development has always been within a social setting.

We need to remember - or learn - that throughout history, different cultures have had some very different ideas about the human condition. And if they can't all be right, they could all - including our own - be wrong.

> It didn't exist when we were hunter gatherers.
https://www.insp.com/blog/old-west-native-american-women-warriors
Wrong again

Old West Native American Women Warriors

https://www.insp.com/blog/old-west-native-american-women-warriors

SerendipityJane · 05/02/2025 10:23

Chersfrozenface · 05/02/2025 10:20

Anyway, disorders / differences of sexual development are nothing to do with gender identity.

They have been introduced by GI ideologues in an attempt to persuade people that "sex is a spectrum' and therefore a person who is biologically male can be female and vice versa.

Which is anti-scientific nonsense.

Don't forget the fish !

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:24

SerendipityJane · 04/02/2025 12:18

That’s only the result of our culture limiting doctors to 2 boxes to choose from for sex, which is limited by politics and religion

I think science came before politics and religion.

Did you know the sun is made of cream cheese ?

> I think science came before politics and religion.
Are you trolling or ignorant?

Atangledweb · 05/02/2025 10:25

SerendipityJane · 05/02/2025 10:23

Don't forget the fish !

Oh yes that trans argument of fish. Batshit

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:26

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at the poster's request.

> Are all male or female
So what do you call people with both male and female genitalia or reproductive systems?

SeethingHarpie · 05/02/2025 10:27

Oh my - please stop embarrassing yourself with the “research” you are posting! You are posting unscientific ramblings, blogs, extremely biased and factually incorrect nonsense. If you read them before quoting them as evidence you would realise that they are not supporting anything you say. Seriously, none of those links would be accepted in scholarly writings, and it is ridiculous to keep posting pieces that actually counter whatever waffle you are claiming.

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:28

SernieBanders · 04/02/2025 12:30

No it is not. Sex literally means produces large gametes or small gametes

It does not mean who has XX or XY or XXY, or XXX chromosomes

It does not mean who has a penis, or ovaries

Sex is very, very Binary, and very clearly so xxxx

And what of the (very small number of) people with both functioning ovaries and testes?
Or don't they exist in your world?

Chersfrozenface · 05/02/2025 10:29

So what do you call people with both male and female genitalia or reproductive systems?

It really isn't any good referring over and over again to "people both male and female genitalia or reproductive systems".

They don't exist, and no amount of repeating the words like a magic spell will bring them into existence.

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:29

ThisFluentBiscuit · 04/02/2025 12:36

I agree with a PP who said they don't know where the multiple genders have come from. I don't believe in those. There have always been trans people, but they were one sex and wanted to be, or felt like they were, the other one. They were still operating within a binary of male and female.

But the PP said their son had been taught that there were 50 genders. Whaaaat? And JK Rowling, in one of her essays, said that there were innumerable genders. There really, really aren't. There are two, and there are trans people who want to be the other one from their bio gender.

I read about someone who identified as a "pan-demi-enby." 😂 Apparently this means pan-sexual, non-binary demi-girl. What on earth?? It's just complete gobbledegook.

Just because it's beyond your comprehension doesn't mean it's gobbledegook to everyone
A bit like string theory

Helleofabore · 05/02/2025 10:29

ThatFluentTiger · 05/02/2025 08:30

I think the amount of vitriol they’d face means that isn’t likely to happen. Just look at the post above yours.
The purpose of this whole thread seems to have been just to create an echo chamber.

I did think that Embear's post was vitriolic. Do you think coming into a thread and saying:

'God, the constant MN transphobia posts is actually getting boring now. When I think about the amount of times trans women or trans men have made me feel uncomfortable, it’s literally zero. The amount of times cis men have made me feel uncomfortable - off the fucking scale. And that goes for transphobic bigots too.'

Was meant to encourage discussion?

SernieBanders · 05/02/2025 10:37

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:23

> It didn't exist when we were hunter gatherers.
https://www.insp.com/blog/old-west-native-american-women-warriors
Wrong again

They were still male or female.

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SernieBanders · 05/02/2025 10:38

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:29

Just because it's beyond your comprehension doesn't mean it's gobbledegook to everyone
A bit like string theory

You have not given us a cogent argument about why gender identity exists.

Please do, we are listening.

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RobinEllacotStrike · 05/02/2025 10:38

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:06

> We ALL have an immutable sex.
Not all, no
What's an XXY or XYY whose male genitalia is internal and descends at puberty? or who exhibits female genitalia but whose ovaries are vestigial and are reabsorbed during their late teens?
They were biologically what? Male? Female? And are now?

I'm not even going to reply to this ridiculous point as others have repeately replied to you on this thread addressing your DSD misinformation, and you repeatedly ignore them.

You are being wilfully ignorant.

Helleofabore · 05/02/2025 10:38

@snowmichael

Will you please actually address the questions relating to people with Differences of Sex development, instead of plonking down the same links that don't really support what you seem to be trying to say on this thread.

Because you don't seem to be able to engage with anything other than saying 'there are people with differences of sex development' which the many people replying to your post fully understand and have tried to explain.

You don't seem to understand what the articles you are posting are discussing.

The sex category of a human is based on more than one indicator. Chromosomes are just one of those indicators.

Human sex categories are defined through modern testing and a decision on whether a person is male or female can be determined by considering whether that person has a body that has been formed around the production of either large or small gametes, regardless of whether those gametes have ever, are being or will ever be produced.

This requires working ovaries or testes. No human has both working ovaries and testes. You seem to be attempting to leverage people's medical conditions to destabilise the established facts around human sex, without understanding how sex is determined.

Helleofabore · 05/02/2025 10:41

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:06

> We ALL have an immutable sex.
Not all, no
What's an XXY or XYY whose male genitalia is internal and descends at puberty? or who exhibits female genitalia but whose ovaries are vestigial and are reabsorbed during their late teens?
They were biologically what? Male? Female? And are now?

"whose ovaries are vestigial and are reabsorbed"

Can you please explain how ovaries are 'reabsorbed' back into a human body?

SerendipityJane · 05/02/2025 10:44

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:24

> I think science came before politics and religion.
Are you trolling or ignorant?

I thought we were just swapping total bollocks.

Your turn.

2JFDIYOLO · 05/02/2025 10:44

So many children and teens who say they are trans have so much else going on beneath. It's tip of the iceberg.

Autism is a major element - for a young person feeling they don't belong, especially if they have no interest in what their sex is 'supposed' to like, do, wear etc, have difficulty navigating relationships and others' behaviour, are aghast at the changes in their own adolescent bodies and the way people behave towards them, the promise that 'all you have to do is ...' must be very seductive.

A growing same sex attraction can be misread and isolating. I remember an interview with girls at a local school saying lesbians are looked at with suspicion - but transboys are cool. Being the target of homophobia must make that alternate very attractive.

Early trauma might be a factor. Eddie Izzard has said he knew from the age of five - but this was his age when his mother died, so surely that must have been a traumatised little boy's reaction to loss.

The activist Scott Nugent says

"Drives me NUTS when people in the news say medical transition is reversible, safe & life saving.

Here are just my complications.

  1. Chronic bladder infections
  2. At least 20 rounds of antibiotics a year
  3. Handicapped Arm
  4. Blood Thinners For Life
  5. Lymphedema
  6. Anti Bloating meds for life
  7. Pulmonary Embolism
  8. Stress induced heart attack
  9. Urinary medication for life
  1. Carpel tunnel
  2. Heart Issues

Stopped T Experienced:

  1. Loss of 5 teeth due to bone deterioration, need them all pulled and dentures at 52
  2. One hair line fracture in my arm"

To me, expert and compassionate psychiatric care, including understanding of autism and trauma, must be the first and preferred option, especially for young people, over drugs that delay physical and neurological development, surgery that sterilises and neuters, and the experimental nature of so much of it, with lifelong complications.

NotBadConsidering · 05/02/2025 10:45

RobinEllacotStrike · 05/02/2025 10:38

I'm not even going to reply to this ridiculous point as others have repeately replied to you on this thread addressing your DSD misinformation, and you repeatedly ignore them.

You are being wilfully ignorant.

On the plus side, the more science denying posters come out with such nonsense, the more the opportunity for lurkers to read the fantastic corrections pointing out reality. This is why it’s good for threads like this to be in AIBU, it allows the dispelling of myths and lies about “intersex”, DSDs, faux-scientific claims about “gender identity” and other such falsities.

Helleofabore · 05/02/2025 10:47

snowmichael · 05/02/2025 10:28

And what of the (very small number of) people with both functioning ovaries and testes?
Or don't they exist in your world?

To my knowledge there are no humans producing sperm and eggs.

There are some very rare people who have tissue of both ovarian tissue and testes tissue but these are not viable ovaries or testes.

Also, those people then do not have the endocrine system that supports both the production of both gametes.

As has been said repeatedly by posters in answer to your unengaged posts, with current medical testing, a human being can be reliably categorised into either having a body that has been formed around producing either large or small gametes, regardless of whether they have, are or will ever produce those gametes.

It is not just chromosomes. It is not just 'genitalia'. There are several indicators that are carefully tested and considered.

SernieBanders · 05/02/2025 10:49

NotBadConsidering · 05/02/2025 10:45

On the plus side, the more science denying posters come out with such nonsense, the more the opportunity for lurkers to read the fantastic corrections pointing out reality. This is why it’s good for threads like this to be in AIBU, it allows the dispelling of myths and lies about “intersex”, DSDs, faux-scientific claims about “gender identity” and other such falsities.

the wikipedia page on DSDs is disgustingly activist written https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex

Intersex - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex

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maddening · 05/02/2025 10:50

Helleofabore · 05/02/2025 10:38

@snowmichael

Will you please actually address the questions relating to people with Differences of Sex development, instead of plonking down the same links that don't really support what you seem to be trying to say on this thread.

Because you don't seem to be able to engage with anything other than saying 'there are people with differences of sex development' which the many people replying to your post fully understand and have tried to explain.

You don't seem to understand what the articles you are posting are discussing.

The sex category of a human is based on more than one indicator. Chromosomes are just one of those indicators.

Human sex categories are defined through modern testing and a decision on whether a person is male or female can be determined by considering whether that person has a body that has been formed around the production of either large or small gametes, regardless of whether those gametes have ever, are being or will ever be produced.

This requires working ovaries or testes. No human has both working ovaries and testes. You seem to be attempting to leverage people's medical conditions to destabilise the established facts around human sex, without understanding how sex is determined.

The human chromosomes are the instructions on how the body organises itself around the production of the small or large gamete - even if the body does not create the gamete eg due to infertility- however the organisation is still there - and even in the case of DSD the person will still ve either male or female - infact the impact of a DSD to the individual may depend on their sex eg whether their function was arranged around production of the large or small gamete. DSDs also range from limited impact - eg enlarged clitoris to greater impact eg presents female with internal testis.

However - it is a disgrace that the TRA have co-opted people with DSD (less than 1% of the populatio) to try and demonstrate the non existent sex spectrum as well as stealing the language ol- eg assigned at birth.

maddening · 05/02/2025 10:52

Ps @Helleofabore I am just agreeing with you

SerendipityJane · 05/02/2025 10:52

If I took a wheel off my Renault 5, it didn't become a Reliant Robin. It was a Renault 5 missing a wheel.

Duckinahat · 05/02/2025 10:53

Not sure what DSD is to do with trans / gender identity. Are we saying that e.g. the Dr in the NHS Fife case is anything other than a born man? Because he seems to be biologically male to me!

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