Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

[Springsunshine123]

Whats the worst thing your in-laws have ever said/done to you? Long list of mine include:
MIL telling me on our wedding day “Did not expect this to be this nice from you”
MIL asking me how much my jacket was and when replying £50 she said (god are you sure, wouldn’t expect you to fork out that much!)
trying to feed my 9mo lucozade
wanting someone to blow smoke into my 7yo’s ear to cure his earache
telling me it was my fault her husband was coughing…. The list of gems is endless…GO!

Not in-laws but my mum.
Said to DH "Course, we're lucky living here, we didn't get all the blacks and asians like where you live".
DH is mixed race. She knows this and has met his family.

Parents - maybe, emotionally abusive bastards, but that's for another thread. Brought me up well for myself, though.

In laws nothing - wouldn't dare. Simple.

My MIL is awful to all the DIL (DH has 5 brothers so there’s plenty). It’s a common theme that she doesn’t like them. The family has divorce rate well above the average and I joke how bad they are at marriage, MIL thinks marriage is totally sacred and yet doesn’t seem to have made the link between making more of an effort with her DIL, latest DIL to leave the family (by divorce) didn’t see MIL for 3 years because announcing their divorce…

She criticises all our parenting, is totally misogynistic, believes women should take the bulk of the parenting and look after the children whilst the man works but also have a glowing corporate career and not let that slide. I’ve often said to DH I’d love to sit her down and get her to untangle what she says and ask how exactly she thinks we should live our lives.

MyMIL dies in 2005 and I do miss her in many ways - she was hard going though - I remember when we were moving from 6 miles from them to 100 miles away and in front of me hissed at my DH 'I expect this was all her idea' - my H took her outside and explained it was actually his choice .

Don’t be ridiculous. You are looking for something to take personally there.

If she’s a size 10 and MIL is giving her a size 20 then how is it OP having a dig at plus size women?

I’m a size 22. We all know the clothes are big.

i suspect my ex MIL did that too! 🙄🤣

@ Nannyfannybanny

“I didn't even get to sit at the top table with DH. His brother sat one side, kid the other who refused to move.”

And neither your new DH nor your mother moved the kid? I jolly well would have done had it been my daughter ousted from the top table at her own wedding! Outrageous behaviour. (TBH, your DH doesn’t come out of this very well, unless he moved and sat with you.)

My mil made a whole photo album of my tiny baby daughter (her only grandchild) and her daughter and my husband, heavily edited to imply they (brother and sister) were the parents. She had to actively chop me out of pictures to make the weird incest baby book. This was about 4 weeks post birth

Granny-in-law told me in a room full of in-laws that my pregnancy must be my idea because my husband had always said he never wanted children.

When I went on Mat leave, MiL told DH to stop bringing me a cup of tea in bed because I wasn't working now so should get my own.

My Mum came to stay when my baby was a week old and my husband went back to work. It was winter and I didn't have a tumble drier so I asked my in-laws if they would dry some towels for me. FiL came over to collect them and announced that it was bad job when two women couldn't look after one baby! In-laws also told me to stop spoiling the baby by picking her up when she cried.

My DM is rude and without emotional intelligence. I'm sure her DiL finds her difficult but it isn't about her role as MiL it is just how she is and how her background was which impact now.

I am a MiL. ( 7 sons across our blended family) The easiest relationship of all is the relationship with my son’s husband. So relaxed, open, doesn't play anyone off, no perceived competition between our families and a real fairness in time and effort.

My mil was staying with us and I was faffing around somewhere and realised she wasn't around. Went upstairs to find her in my bedroom having pulled out the drawer where I keep my underwear (which was untidy but the drawer had been closed) and was rearranging it!! and then had a go at me because it was untidy and asked why I wasn't embarrassed!! How I kept my cool I still don't know to this day.
Granny in law told me to my face that neither I nor my parents were good enough for her grandson and how we should be grateful they agreed to our marrying......

There's so many I don't know where to start. On telling her we were adopting after dh had finished chemo which had left him infertile, MIL "and what does (dh) think about the fact that you (me) can't give him a baby of his own?" Dh was absolutely disgusted and soon put them right. Then when we adopted our young child, dh, who was a teacher, was at home during the summer holidays and whilst I worked he looked after her. On learning dh was looking after OUR child, FIL commented "it wasn't fair that dh was having to spend his summer holidays looking after THAT
child ". However, I think the most upsetting was when my darling dad died and MIL and FIL visited me at mum's, as I stayed with her the week after he passed away. FIL proceeded to giggle his way through telling a "joke"about a widow who'd just lost her husband and the only thing she was interested in was selling his Merc. My beloved dad's Merc was visible through the window whilst he told it. He then told another" joke" involving a corpse of a man and the funeral director struggling to get his toupee wig on it. Me and my mum sat there in utter disbelief, whilst MIL giggled along with him, explaining he'd been told the "jokes" by his cronies at church!

WTAF 😱

The day I got married my SIL and BIL (spouses of my DH’s siblings) told me that they had an “anti-MIL” club to chat and commiserate with each other when she was horrible to them and would I like to join!

A few years later she told me she wanted me to drive my DD the 5 hours to stay with her, but immediately leave myself as she didn’t want me there so I’ve not driven there since!

when my DD was 6 weeks old my exMiL said I was a useless mother because all I did was looks after 'that baby'

wth?

You're telling a woman who lost her husband, father of her children, to "have a heart" because she's sad that her children lost their father and their grandparents?

Are you for real?

Fuck me, that's one of the crueller and least empathetic things I've seen written down in black and white.

My MIL offered to come and stay to "hold the baby so you can clean the house"

My in-laws never once verbally acknowledged to me that my father had died (I was only 25) or expressed their condolences. Not even a simple 'Sorry for your loss.'

They also totally ignored that I miscarried our first baby (their first grandchild).

And they went on to be determinedly oblivious to the fact that my mother had died. Exactly the same when my brother died the following year.

Not. A. Single. Word. Spoken.

When they both died I didn't feel a scrap of sadness. I felt absolutely nothing.

It was what god wanted. After a miscarriage.

youre just not compatible.

your only breastfeeding to stop anyone else from being able to look after the baby.

The more i think about these comments the more i want to give you all a big hug. In-laws are vile. Interesting about the comment where the easiest relationship is with her sons husband. My brother is married to my wonderful Brother in law and i love him, no fuss no drama no competition, comoared to my horrid horrid sil who thinks the sun shines out of her own arse.

Bloody hell 😳

MIL:
Said to me week or so after my mother's funeral "You can come to us for mother's day because you'll have nothing better to do".
Pretended to be my late mum when I gave birth to DD in order to gain info from the hospital while I was in labour (somewhat successfully)
Decided that "as we were up anyway" when DD was newborn that she could ring us throughout the night (we muted our phones eventually) one particular night she rang hourly from midnight to 6am.
Wrote to our neighbours to tell them how terrible we were.
Visited the local Vicar to tell them how terrible we were.
Phoned friends parents to tell them how terrible we were.
Contacted Social Services to tell them how terrible we were.
Stalked us.
Made abusive phone calls to us.
Then complained to her CPN that we didn't have a close relationship with her and got them to write us a letter telling us to do better. Got pissy when we didn't reply to that letter during her regular phone call to DH.

No, she is not mentally well. She is much better these days but will still occasionally threaten to speak to my Dad about our behaviour (i.e. not pandering to her). I'm over 50, dobbing me in to an 'Adult' holds no water (and my Dad would back me any day of the week anyway).

I have a disabled DD, when telling my MIL i’m pregnant again she says ‘oh so you might have 2 autistic children then’ and ‘how do you feel about possibly having another c section?’ She’s so insensitive and invites to herself to everything I mention doing.

Just remembered another, on the morning of our wedding FIL called to collect buttonholes that had been dropped off by the Florist at my parents (where I still lived). I was sat in the kitchen with my rollers in, listening as he told my dad that dh (to be) was extremely nervous and he didn't think he was going to turn up at the church. My dad went into a panic, planning what to do with all the guests if the wedding didn't go ahead, but I knew what FIL was like and I also knew dh, who'd really had enough of his parents by this stage, was desperate to marry me. My poor dad spent the wedding morning worrying what was going to happen, when we should have been enjoying our last morning at home together, looking forward to the day ahead.

Poor you! Another one of my MIL’s gems was telling my future husband exactly what my wedding dress looked like (I had stupidly taken her shopping with me). They were also about an hour late to the wedding rehersal the day before and turned up laughing and joking, vicar was obviously annoyed, and my bridesmaid and best friend turned to me and said “your mother is probably turning in her grave” Shes probably made quite a few turns in her grave by now if she knew the pantomine ive had with these people!