Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

[Springsunshine123]

Whats the worst thing your in-laws have ever said/done to you? Long list of mine include:
MIL telling me on our wedding day “Did not expect this to be this nice from you”
MIL asking me how much my jacket was and when replying £50 she said (god are you sure, wouldn’t expect you to fork out that much!)
trying to feed my 9mo lucozade
wanting someone to blow smoke into my 7yo’s ear to cure his earache
telling me it was my fault her husband was coughing…. The list of gems is endless…GO!

MIL told me I had it easy because my 3 children have been born by CS, all been breech and premature. After every birth she’s said well let’s hope the next one is a natural birth it’s such a shame for you to miss out and have it so easy. Didn’t matter that her grandchildren were in SCBU for weeks, just that they hadn’t been born naturally. They’re adults now but it still really gets to me.

She said she wishes me and my very young children become homeless

My Ex-SIL told me that she wished ante-natal scans could show you the hair colour of the baby because if she had a ginger baby she would abort it. I have red hair.

They had/have their moments, but mainly with their other DIL as they really didn't/don't like her (FIL has passed, MIL is still with us, just).
A couple of years ago, MIL said to other DIL 'I never wanted you to marry [name of her other DS]' in front of me and 3 of her grandchildren. Funnily enough both of her DSs weren't in the room at the time.
Luckily they never commented on the state of our house or anything like that and were always great with the DCs when young. FIL used to clean our toilets when they babysat (that was just 'him', I didn't take it as a sleight on our housekeeping skills).

Ex mil and ex told me they was going to take me to court and have my baby taken off me.
The baby is 22 years old im may still waiting for court day to arrive.
I moved to thailand when he was 5.
Never came back.

We don't have kids. Noone knows if that's through choice (it is) or circumstance.

When my sister in law was pregnant, my MIL said to me, all dreamy eyed: "When I was pregnant, my uncle said to me...now you're having a baby, you're complete".

I was so shocked, I just played with the dog in silence until we could leave.

Accused me of poisoning her 'poor precious granddaughter' because I was formula feeding her.

I was 8 days post partum after horrendous pregnancy and failed induction resulting in EMCS. I literally couldn't breast feed.

That she didn't/ couldn't bond with me because I had a mum. Other DIL didn't.

That she didn't want a granddaughter when I was pregnant with our daughter.

She's been absolutely awful over the years but those 2 stick out. She's never happy for us. Hates it when we have been away or bought our new home ect. Just generally not a nice person.

FIL, amongst many other options:

Called me boring on my wedding day when I wouldn't let him out the music back on (DIY venue, party went on til midnight, everyone staying in the building including little kids, everyone welcome to drink in the bar still).

We took them on holiday when I was pregnant and sick with HG. Moaned and bitched that I wouldn't come and collect them from their night out (hour round trip from our accommodation Vs a taxi), because I was exhausted and dehydrated.

Came in and immediately said I'd had an "easy birth" when I was 2d pp. I told him to piss off, and MIL agreed and reinforced to him. Later he said with a sour face that he still thought I'd had an easy time of it.

It was very satisfying to reveal my son's full name. We gave him my dad's name as one middle name, and we chose a surname from DH's side as the other middle name.

The little disappointed, "oh right" when he heard had extreme schadenfreude for me. But you don't get to treat me like crap for years, then get your name on my child. No way.

20 yrs later - honestly nothing. My MIL doesn't have a bitter bone in her body and if she had opinions she is pretty good at keeping them to herself.

Makes me sad because I really want to be like her but I do have some passive aggressive tendencies myself and I'm scared my kids' future partners will pick up on it.

My ex MIL (Catholic) said that her grandchildren were illegitimate because my ex and I had been married in a registry office. She didn't bother with them much.

My MIL told me my husband was hers he belonged to her , she could make him do whatever she wanted , she could turn up at our home whenever she wanted and threatened to punch me . She's no longer in my life .

Apparently I'm responsible for polluting MIL's family gene pool as between them DC have short sight, autism and wheezing.

The short sight is from my side, but the wheezing is just one of those things and 5 minutes in the company of FIL would tell you that the neurodivergence is probably not entirely my 'fault'...

FIL was an angry, opinionated man, but could be ok. DH comes from a family of boys, three in his, two in his only cousins, sil and bil had two boys, when I had my twins (boys of course) he just went “oh more boys”. Ironically when sil and I both had girls 7 years later he didn’t make a fuss.

The first time we invited pils to dinner, I cooked for them, we had a lovely meal, and we were all sitting around in the sitting room afterwards chatting. Dh got up to go to the loo and silence fell. I tried to keep the conversation going, but when they didn’t I couldn’t think of what else to say and the longer the silence stretched the worse I panicked. Eventually dh came back and everyone started talking again.

At the time I felt completely socially inept but in the intervening twenty years I have never seen them stuck for something to say to anyone. Getting a word in edgeways is the issue. In my 40s now, there are often shy, awkward teenagers coming through our house, and I’ve realised that my feelings of inadequacy and social anxiety blinded me to their contempt and unkindness that evening.

There’s a long history of much less subtle things too but that’s the one that I really despise them for.

My dh has blue eyes and I have brown. Ds was born with blue eyes that got darker and are now dark brown like mine. Mil said to me that it was "really a shame" his eyes didn't stay blue, I found it really rude. So that's the comment that has sprung to mind!

both in laws were also quite intense and opinionated about how we looked after our baby in general, but all of that has stopped now ds is older and my relationship with them is absolutely fine. Just certain comments will always stick in your head.

My ex-MIL was mostly OK - had a tendency to be a bit bossy, but genuinely loved the DGC and was lovely to them after we divorced. There was one occasion, though, when we had a disagreement about education (a very sore point with her because of FIL, who went to a very good public school) and we were watching something on telly, and she said, “I expect you’d send your children to Eton if you could afford it”, and I said, “I absolutely would, pity we don’t have the money” and it all turned into a bit of an argument until I said, “Well, as they’re my children, I’ll educate them as I see fit” to which she retorted, “They’re actually yours and DH’s children, or at least I presume they are: I suppose he has no way of actually being able to tell.” I had never been anything other than a faithful wife, and I did think casting aspersions on your own DGC’s parentage was a bit of a low blow!

MIL pretended that she couldn't understand a word I said and had to get DH to interpret for her.
I have a mild Lancashire accent, she's home counties.
There was also the time she told me that she hid the family silver before I arrived as she was worried I'd nick it. The time she told me that she was surprised DH was with me as he usually went for girls that were very similar to his sister 🤢. (MIL claimed he'd said his sister was his idea of the perfect woman 🙄).
The time I was out shopping and eyed up a new briefcase type work bag and MIL exclaimed, "why do you need an expensive work bag, it's not like you do anything important". I was hugely out earning her son!!
The time we were going to a panto and she told me I looked like one of the ugly sisters.
Yeah there's a few things!

My MIL is convinced I'm having an affair with my personal trainer.
It's hilarious.

I do absolutely nothing to disavow her of this notion and very much enjoy the passive aggressive comments to me, and hearing about the advice she gives to DH about getting his ducks in a row.

I love it.

Ex's grandmother telling me I couldn't mourn my stillborn son because I hadn't nursed him.

The rest of his family ignoring me, not once asking how I was in the aftermath, dismissing everything I said and telling me my opinions were too much then saying it was all in my head and that I'd got paranoid personality disorder when I got upset. His parents used to turn up unannounced and just sit on the sofa ignore me, gaslighting at it's finest.

The knew I had no one in my corner, my ex sided with them before dumping me on the first night of our holiday in Spain with our one year old.

I think, we have a winner! 😁

Promised DH a life changing amount of money - then said they'd decided not to give it after all. Wish they had never said anything tbh.

This is an awful thread but an old favourite to slag off the MiL. Yet the same females who are mothers are also mother in laws….

Very bizarre.

Not speaking to me on my wedding day for no known reason and having a face like slapped arse on all the photos. That was after telling us she wouldn’t come to the wedding at all if we didn’t invite 30+ cousins who I’d never met nor knew my name.
Telling me social services would probably investigate me after DD fell down the stairs at 3 years old.
Telling said 3 year old that I wanted to abort her before she was born. That was obviously the worse, and the reason we no longer speak.

Mine never actually ever said anything nice. But the worst thing she did was ruin our wedding. She hadn't brought my DH up, she walked out on her 3 small kids, went off with another man and had a baby! DH didn't see her for 20 years. We were going to Gretna Green, just us and the 4 DKs, he told her, she went mad,"don't you dare get married without me". Wedding and reception changed 3 times, she had invited distant relatives it got bigger and bigger. She was horrible about the beautiful old village pub where we actually had the reception. I said on the invitations I was very sorry we had no room for dks,tiny rural register office. I actually arranged a bouncy castle and childminder at our house 15 minutes drive away. 4 days before the wedding, she rang, went on and on about the children coming to the wedding. I went into DH crying my eyes out, said if she said one more word about it,it was off! I meant it. We had our Honeymoon before the wedding, and the kids did ruin the wedding. I didn't even get to sit at the top table with DH. His brother sat one side,kid the other who refused to move. I ended up on the last table. To add yes, NC for many years!