Found out at 12 week scan we lost our baby

[Verytiredmumofone]

I'm looking for some support and advice from any other mums (or dads) that have been through something similar.

We had our 12 week scan Friday and were utterly shocked and devastated to find out that our baby had stopped growing at just 6-7 weeks. My body continued to grow the placenta and still thought it was pregnant, hence the strong pregnancy symptoms (nausea, no bleeding, sore boobs little bump etc.) Now I have to go back to hospital Tuesday for surgery to remove it all under general anesthetic. It's the second miscarriage we have had after having our daughter 2 years ago.

How on earth do you get over something like this and when will I stop feeling so upset and hopeless?
I always assumed that if something was wrong, I would have bled.

Has anyone experienced this?

Xx

I’ve had five miscarriages and then one missed miscarriage (MMC) and the MMC was the hardest by far. I had a scan at 7 weeks and heartbeat was seen and growing well and then at the twelve week scan to be told that the baby had stopped growing at around 7+1 was awful. You have my sympathies. Give yourself time to grieve and really look after yourself xx

I had one in may 2020. I'd even started getting a bump. Then my rainbow was born may 2021, almost a year to the day after I was told. I often wonder about the one I lost but then I wouldn't have dd2.

I’m so sorry to read this. My third pregnancy was almost exactly the same. As others have said, it is surprisingly common as around a quarter of pregnancies end in miscarriage, although most women lose the baby naturally. I had to have the foetus removed under general anaesthetic and it was a horrible time, especially as the baby’s due date was two days before my birthday. However, a few months later, I conceived again and this time the pregnancy resulted in our much-loved daughter. I hope that this will happen to you, too. My missed miscarriage was thirty years ago this year. You never forget, but time really is a great healer and our daughter more than made up for it. I really hope that this time next year you will have a lovely son or daughter. 🌺