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CleoMantra · 2025-02-02T12:39:23+00:00

So my ex left me for another woman a few months ago and he has just asked me to send a picture of the children’s passports as he is taking them on holiday with her and the grandparents. The children are 4 and 7 and I have never ever met this woman. I want them to go and have a good time and he questioned who I was punishing here.

BobbyBiscuits · 02/02/2025 19:45

@CleoMantra Then please do not see him.
Only have contact because of the kids and arrange for a friend to do switchover.
But if you think they'll bring your child back then you should try and accept the fact the holiday is happening. I hope things improve for you x

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CleoMantra · 02/02/2025 19:47

BobbyBiscuits · 02/02/2025 19:45

@CleoMantra Then please do not see him.
Only have contact because of the kids and arrange for a friend to do switchover.
But if you think they'll bring your child back then you should try and accept the fact the holiday is happening. I hope things improve for you x

How can I guarantee they will bring them back?

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CleoMantra · 03/02/2025 10:31

BobbyBiscuits · 02/02/2025 19:45

@CleoMantra Then please do not see him.
Only have contact because of the kids and arrange for a friend to do switchover.
But if you think they'll bring your child back then you should try and accept the fact the holiday is happening. I hope things improve for you x

Thank you

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BobbyBiscuits · 03/02/2025 12:40

@CleoMantra well, you can't guarantee it. Is it a country in which they have ties, family etc? If you really do think they'd kidnap the child then that's a reason not to allow it. But legally I'm not sure what the position would be if you refuse.

Meggymoo777 · 03/02/2025 14:33

You've probably done the right thing OP, much bigger person than me.

I would have fought this tbh, your youngest is only 4 years old and they only spend 1 night a week with their father... how are your children going to feel being away from you for an extended period of time?

Are you even sure the grandparents are going? You say your exMIL hasn't answered your messages.

I wouldn't have given permission in this situation when the children are so small.

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CleoMantra · 03/02/2025 14:59

Meggymoo777 · 03/02/2025 14:33

You've probably done the right thing OP, much bigger person than me.

I would have fought this tbh, your youngest is only 4 years old and they only spend 1 night a week with their father... how are your children going to feel being away from you for an extended period of time?

Are you even sure the grandparents are going? You say your exMIL hasn't answered your messages.

I wouldn't have given permission in this situation when the children are so small.

My FIL responded as he paid for the children to go. I will miss them like absolute crazy and obviously my mind is thinking will they look after them in the water etc as my 4 year old isn’t a confident swimmer and my ex can be a bit…ditsy

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