Is escorting worth it?

[LastHope30Something]

Sounds extreme but considering this if I can’t get a job in a month or so because I’m so fed up of having to watch everything and feel like I get punished for treating myself. Sounds childish I know but my headspace seriously needs a boost. Obviously this won’t be my first choice but if things don’t change then choice is out of the question. Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

here’s why I’m considering it
*extra money for me and my family.
*can treat myself more to boost my mood.
*can afford the work I need done.
*help me get over this past few years.
*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
*pontentially more opportunities in life.
*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.

Mate… I’m no expert in how escorting goes down (pun intended), but I reckon you’re being naive (to say the least).

from what I understand some gfe "dates" may not involve sex, many do. The discrimination occurs at the client end, not the escorts. If you reckon you’ll advertise for a wining and dining experience (and the bloke paying for your time) without any physical intimacy, you’ll be a unicorn - and believe in fairies.

My friend did this thinking it was purely dated and very safe, she was incredibly badly sexually assaulted and ended up in hospital for weeks and has never emotionally recovered. Absolutely horrific. It's never not sex.

Is this a joke?

It's naive to think this will help your self worth. Naive to think you won't have beasts expecting sex and being scarily persistent about that expectation. And your family? They will not appreciate the fall out from this work.

If someone is financially on their knees and could feel ok short term doing it and being prepared to have sex, I understand the draw. But aside from the risks to your safety, mentally and emotionally as a female it will catch up with you.

I know someone whose DD is drop-dead gorgeous. She's a model, mostly working in Dubai. Her DM plasters pics of her on boats and thinks rich businessmen pay her tens of thousands of pounds to look pretty at their parties, as a lucrative side-hustle. Everyone knows she's a yacht (and occasionally potty) girl.
No one is paying anyone for just lunch.

Male ones, for female clients, yes perhaps. Not the other way around.

True dat. ☝️

I also have a bridge to sell you @LastHope30Something
Get real and wise up.

This is what they say. In reality they are doing full service sex work and lying about it.

I used to work as a stripper when I was younger and worked with some very very attractive girls who were escorts. They all slept with the clients. The men still didn’t want to just pay them for dates because in this day and age it’s so easy to jump on a dating app and get a date with someone in exchange for a free meal. Just being pretty isn’t enough to get paid to go on dates.

Lots of them obviously did get wined and dined and gifts, but it still ended in sex. The pay also isn’t anywhere near as good as what you think it is.

It’s not safe, you’re not protected and so much can go wrong.

So naive! No one gets paid just to eat at fancy restaurants. Otherwise everyone would do it. 'Escort' is just a fancy word for prostitute.

@LastHope30Something Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

"Girlfriend experience" is a euphemism for sex with kissing and cuddling.

Why would a man pay a woman just to go on a dinner date?

@Lara1978o It’s not safe, you’re not protected and so much can go wrong.

It would be no more dangerous than meeting someone off a dating app for a normal dinner date.

extra money for me and my family.
Would your husband be happy to spend money you've earned from having sex with strangers? If so, maybe rethink that relationship.

can treat myself more to boost my mood.
Do you really think your mood would be boosted by having sex with strangers, some of whom might frighten the life out of you?

can afford the work I need done.
That's a problem for you and your husband to sort out, not just you.

help me get over this past few years.
Seriously? You think putting yourself in a dangerous situation and having sex for money will be therapy for you?

get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
You are incredibly naive if that's what you think is involved.

if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
Things are far more likely to go downhill as a repercussion of you having sex with strange men.

potentially more opportunities in life.
What? Pretty Woman was a movie, you know, not real life.

feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.
It won't do either of those things. Quite the opposite.

Why are so many posters being vile and absolutely filthy when replying to the op?

What’s wrong with going easy on someone who’s obviously very naive and rather vulnerable?

Which posters are being vile and filthy? I'm not seeing this. You are talking about a different thread. All people are doing on here is telling the OP the truth.

You won't be paid much for that.

She won't be paid anything for that.

There are plenty of women on Tinder who'd meet up for a free dinner with a man for nothing.

That’s what “escorting” is - sex with strangers aka prostitution.

@PizzaPunk There are plenty of women on Tinder who'd meet up for a free dinner with a man for nothing.

No there isn't. Who told you that?

OP hasn’t t been back since the absurdity of this plan has been pointed out. Is it just me or are there more and more “ fantastical” threads on mumsnet these days?

Oh sweet summer child

Yes it is and it’s incredibly naive to think otherwise. There would be the expectation of sex and then potentially getting violent and not handing over money.

If you meet up with a tinder date and he makes you uncomfortable you can leave. OP won’t be able to leave if he doesn’t hand over the money and considering escorting is having sex for money the man certainly won’t be handing it over without trying for it.

When I was dating, many girls would be happy to go out for the drinks and dinner all the while skipping out on the potential sex. There isn’t an obligation for them to shag so it’s easy for them to claim no spark and move on, leaving the guy with very blue balls! 😅

In That case we’d all be doing it 😂

What other talents do you have op? Everyone is good at something. What would you like to do? You need to completely reset your thinking. You sound desperate and that's never a good place to make decisions. You sound as if you have very low self worth. You need to find some self belief and follow the path that you want to - don't sell yourself for what others want it will lead to very very low self worth. Believe in yourself you are better than this.

When I was at uni (not that long ago!) many of my friends went on tinder dates to nice places, got a free meal out of it and then blocked the guy. It’s really not uncommon.

This is why lots of men insist on 50/50 on the first date now! So many of my male friends have said they’ve paid for a tinder date and then never heard from the girl again also.

I hope you dont have children.

Which posters are being vile and filthy? I'm not seeing this. You are talking about a different thread. All people are doing on here is telling the OP the truth

If you have to ask then you must be as filthy in your choice of language as some of the posters.