Is escorting worth it?

[LastHope30Something]

Sounds extreme but considering this if I can’t get a job in a month or so because I’m so fed up of having to watch everything and feel like I get punished for treating myself. Sounds childish I know but my headspace seriously needs a boost. Obviously this won’t be my first choice but if things don’t change then choice is out of the question. Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

here’s why I’m considering it
*extra money for me and my family.
*can treat myself more to boost my mood.
*can afford the work I need done.
*help me get over this past few years.
*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
*pontentially more opportunities in life.
*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.

Heard from who? How much did they earn?

I think op, it's one thing doing something like that because you genuinely want to, but actually reading your reasoning you're doing it because you feel trapped in your current situation. So it's not a genuine want.

I think you'd be exposing yourself to a pretty grim clientele of people who feel entitled to use and abuse women for their own needs and I don't see how that could better your mental health in any way.

Are you able to access counselling? Many charities offer free sessions and discounts for people on limited budgets? Speak to your gp about how you're feeling you are NOT a burden and you deserve support to feel better in yourself.

Is your husband supportive of this? What is he doing to bring more money etc into the home?

You are not a burden.

What is your situation?

I would leave this thread, get it deleted. Put a new one in chat.

I feel you are desperately grabbing at straws with the escort idea, you have to be bolshy, know your worth and have sex with them. You’re not guaranteed to be treated nicely. Open to rape. People will find out. It’s not going to be dinner and a chat about art. Be careful.

Yes! That's the one!

I think this is her again. She really, really needs some help with her MH.

Everyone has told her this so many, many times but she's still fixated on entirely the wrong shite.

I feel so sorry for her child.

If they are very lucky. You have to stipulate that to the agency. However you will still be offered financial incentive to do more and will have far less bookings than someone who says upfront that they will be prepared to do 'extras'. You can but try and see how it goes, Make sure the agency is a good one and that they take care of you as far as possible, ie know where you are going, who you are with, msybe organise taxi, etc. Good luck.

You'd be lucky to make a fiver then.

There are plenty of absolutely stunning escorts who will have sex with clients, so I'm not sure why they'd choose one who won't.

Even if the clients are not planning to end the night that way, they might change their minds.

Who are the 7% who voted yanbu?

You seriously, seriously think that men are going to pay you just to go to dinner with them? Without any sex?

Deluded. Women call themselves "escorts" because they think it sounds more respectable than prostitute.

No. Don't do it. They will all expect sex!

No, that's not true on the whole. Yes, some escorts do offer unprotected sex but most do not. Girlfriend experience is as the name implies, pretending to be someone's girlfriend, so kissing, cuddling, intimacy as standard. However, there are some GFE escorts who don't kiss. Some insist on oral with protection, others do not. But to say girlfriend experience means escorting without condoms is utter rubbish.

Either men. Or women who have zero clue what an escort actually is!

Agreed sorry OP it's not that easy😅 I do online feet content only and only ever found 1 'pay pig, doesn't want anything more just to treat you type thing' in a whole year..and I've had many clients!

If you seriously think men will pay you money but not expect to have sex with you, you are deluded. Unless you become a specialized dominatrix, but then you would have to work on cultivating a straight face.

Tbh there is enough 20y olds ready to doll themseves up just to grab a free dinner.
No one would pay a 30y old to do the same.
20 years ago? Maybe.
Now? Nope.

Grow up

@LastHope30Something
I won’t be having sex with strangers. Just dates

Ha! You'd be a prostitute and providing sexual services for money. That's what an Escort is these days. They just try and dress it up by calling it another name. And the girlfriend experience is where you let them kiss you while having sex.

Any model, professional or not, is essentially for sale. There are warnings between models when doing events. But yes, most models end up selling themselves.

No, it isn't worth the degradation of selling yourself to entertain men.

Find it hard to believe an adult woman would actually think this is an option. Next level naive.

Yeah... No such thing.

Next you will be asking if woodland animals often help with the house work like in Disney films.

Honestly, absolutely NOTHING about this plan is going to make your headspace any better. It'll probably make it a whole lot worse.

The only people who make out this is a thing are:
Pimps
People Traffickers
Women involved in escorting who don't want to tell people the reality.
TV producers.
Men who have sex with "escorts".

There are the odd occasions where an escort doesn't do sex - they are very rare and you would need to be astonishingly good looking, and probably under 25, and you couldn't make a living out of it, such jobs are so scarce.

Most will still expect sex and if they find it is not on the cards either you won't get the booking or if you do, because they think they can win you over on the date, you won't get another.

The 'girlfriend experience' btw is sex, staying over all night, some mean it includes kissing (not all). It does not mean going out for a nice dinner and being dropped off home later.

I've had several friends do it, the deal is the agency is paid for you to escort your date to wherever/for however long - the sex is what you actually get paid for yourself and thats up to you to price/charge for. Generally speaking. So they are legal and anything else is between you and your 'date'.

You won't be paid much for that. Do you think men will pay good money not to get their end away? Men don't want ''dates'' they want sex if they are paying.
You will be at serious risk of sexual assault and rape.