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People using our drive to turn around

197 replies

Allthenameshavegone1972 · 29/01/2025 12:51

We live in a cul de sac with a primary school at the end. Occasionally we have caught people on camera using our drive to turn around, but not at school times. There is no reason to use our drive, there us plenty of road space. We've just spent a lot of money last year on having it blocked page.
This is really irritating me, it's just cheeky & lazy. Would I sound petty if I put it onto the village Facebook page?
I don't want to sound petty to the rest of the village, but if this is some parent from thd school who thinks they're entitled, I want them to stop.

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3678194b · 29/01/2025 13:08

People are bizarre in driving sometimes. Occasionally, people reverse onto our drive, there is absolutely no need they only need to keep reversing in a straight line for a couple more metres without turning into my drive instead. It doesn't happen enough to annoy me.

FallenRaingel · 29/01/2025 13:08

£30 for a driveway bollard and a bit of DIY solves the problem, if it bothers you that much.

£60 you can even get a remote control blocker about 40cm high.

Starlightstarbright4 · 29/01/2025 13:08

is this real .. I honestly don’t get the issue ..

blocking your driveway I get but turning round when your not even home .🤷‍♂️

I live at the bottom of a cul de sac … no idea if anyone uses my driveway to turn in when I am not here ..

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 29/01/2025 13:08

Consider it as doing these people a small favour. They're very unlikely to damage your driveway.

bigkidatheart · 29/01/2025 13:12

it would piss me off too, CFs.

Can you put gates up or get a sign made up to say its not to be used for turning and cctv is monitored

outdooryone · 29/01/2025 13:16

Who is actually on Facebook these days? Not me, and even before I left I was not drawn in to the endless petty posts on the local group page. So that is completely ineffective and a waste of time.
Define 'occasionally' as well - twice a day or twice a year?

Yes it is rude and entitled, but so are a lot of drivers on the road these days. Look at the parking near schools for best example of this. Other than a gate on your drive, what more can you do?

heyhopotato · 29/01/2025 13:17

FallenRaingel · 29/01/2025 13:08

£30 for a driveway bollard and a bit of DIY solves the problem, if it bothers you that much.

£60 you can even get a remote control blocker about 40cm high.

Edited

£30? Thought they were more like £100?

EmmaMaria · 29/01/2025 13:18

I'm in the "not seeing the problem" camp - they aren't blocking you, but if it bothers you so much, as others have said, you can put up bollards. Personally I have many better things to do than watch my CCTV daily to see if somebody used the drive to turn around.

OldieButBaddie · 29/01/2025 13:18

I honestly can't see why this is an issue
If the drive was that fragile you wouldn't be able to park on it yourself
I think live and let live really, don't you have more important things to worry about?

ButterCrackers · 29/01/2025 13:19

heyhopotato · 29/01/2025 13:17

£30? Thought they were more like £100?

Worth the cost compared to the dirt and damage

meercat23 · 29/01/2025 13:22

We have a neighbour that does this. Uses our long shared drive (not shared with him) to take pictures for his online car sales business then drives up to the end to turn round on our paved parking space. Several times a week. Annoys me a lot.

CautiousLurker01 · 29/01/2025 13:24

I know it seems petty, but when people do it in our driveway entrance it winds my dogs up and takes ages to settle them back down. I’d understand if the road wasn’t plenty wide enough to do a 2 or 3pt turn easily! So, it’s just laziness. And rudeness. And trespass.

Also considering a gate…

ZenNudist · 29/01/2025 13:25

Lefthanddownnumberone · 29/01/2025 12:54

Gate

Yup

ManchesterLu · 29/01/2025 13:27

This sometimes happens with ours - either that, or next door's daughter walks down and across our drive to get to their front door (we have a shared alley to the back gardens so the wall has a gap in it to allow us both access to the gate).

The only reason it pisses me off is because it sets off the doorbell. I work from home recording social media content with voiceover - and if the bell gets set off, it's picked up on the recording.

It doesn't quite happen often enough to warrant putting something there as a blocker, but I do understand how it can be annoying.

We've had someone use our drive to wait for their kid to finish school too, leaving a puddle of oil on our block paving. Now that one wound me up.

A message online wouldn't work, though. Definitely you need gates or a bollard. You can get remote control ones.

EDIT: Please never let people tell you what should or shouldn't wind you up either. People on your actual physical legal property shouldn't be there, and it's absolutely up to you whether to allow it or not.

SlugsWon · 29/01/2025 13:27

Allthenameshavegone1972 · 29/01/2025 12:57

@SlugsWon I don't know, it just does. This is why I'm asking if I'm being petty/unreasonable

To me you are, yes. So many better things to give headspace to. Posting on Facebook won't solve this. Just stop watching your CCTV footage, ignore it, and it will go away. You are unlikely to ever notice the additional wear and tear, it's a drive designed to be driven on. Just chalk it up to one of those things that comes with living amongst other people and move on

viques · 29/01/2025 13:29

Are they actually daring to venture onto your drive or are they just using the dropped kerb and the councils pedestrian footpath to make the turn?

Asking for a friend.

its2025 · 29/01/2025 13:30

I live at the end a cul de sac and honestly I couldn't get worked up about this. vehicles here use y drive a bit to turn round all the time as space is a little limited here. I mean - you only know about it because its on your door cam.... without that you wouldn't even know it'd happened?? It's not as if they are blocking any access - or damaging anything.
However if it annoys you you can solve the issue by using a bollard or plant pots as suggested above. Popping a post on local Facebook page is only likely to get you nasty and unhelpful comments.

Noshowlomo · 29/01/2025 13:31

Yeah this would piss me off. I love all the blasé “oh this kind of thing doesn’t bother me”, when what is actually happening is someone is using your garden (I’m assuming it’s all your front garden area), for their own convenience.
Bollard or gate needed

UrsulasHerbBag · 29/01/2025 13:31

this happens to my parents a lot. It never bothered them much before except the odd tut. Dad is quite elderly now suffering with Parkinson’s and possibly first stages of dementia and it really upsets him. He starts stressing who it is and mythering mum. They put up the bollards to solve it. In the grand scheme of things it is thoughtless but not a big deal but you never know who it could be effecting and how. Get the bollards.

mumda · 29/01/2025 13:33

It'll add to the wear and tear on that part of the driveway. And having seen people drive I'd not want them on my drive either.

Likewhatever · 29/01/2025 13:33

We have the same, we’re in the corner with a large paved area of our own, adjoining three neighbours with a communal paved drive. It’s an open invitation to delivery drivers who don’t want to have to drive round the block to turn around.

I’ve learned to relax about it, but I do park my car a long way forward so they aren’t tempted to encroach too far. If there was any damage done I’d put planters in the way to discourage them, but it hasn’t really been a problem.

Springflowersmakeforbetterhours · 29/01/2025 13:33

Leave the house 5 minutes earlier and line up a row of big rocks at the end of the drive.. .. Honestly I would do it for a week. I hate cheeky driving fuckers....

tropicalroses · 29/01/2025 13:34

This annoys me too, and people pulling in to text or make a phone call.

Had a woman pull in to text the other day as I was about to leave and she actually put her hand up to say "1 minute" when I tried to get out of my own driveway that she was blocking

Tessasanderson · 29/01/2025 13:34

Another reason i refuse to get a ring doorbell. I would rather not know tbh. All they do is make people angry and frustrated.

FallenRaingel · 29/01/2025 13:35

heyhopotato · 29/01/2025 13:17

£30? Thought they were more like £100?

Nope, Amazon has loads. It's just a deterrent you need and they do the job. Neighbour has two (he doesn't mind getting wet unlocking them) because people were parking on his driveway.