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Did I do anything wrong here? Driving

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Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 13:48

I drove home from rural Northumberland today. On a single track road my sat nav fell out of its holder onto the passenger side floor. There was a lorry behind me. I continued along the single track road until it widened into two lanes, then indicated left, slowed down and stopped so I could pick it back up.

The lorry behind me beeped as I stopped. Did I do anything wrong here? I indicated and slowed and waited until the road went back to two lanes and it was safe to stop. I can’t work out why he was beeping.

There was no other traffic in either direction.

YANBU - you did nothing wrong
YABU - you did something wrong (what and why??)

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HollyKnight · 27/01/2025 22:42

I can't believe you overtook a lorry doing 60mph on a 20mph speed-limit road. 😱

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 22:44

HollyKnight · 27/01/2025 22:42

I can't believe you overtook a lorry doing 60mph on a 20mph speed-limit road. 😱

Guilty as charged!

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AnotherWeekAnotherUsername · 27/01/2025 22:57

Well it’s been an entertaining thread if nothing else OP. Thanks for posting although I bet you wish you bloody hadn’t have bothered now 😆🤣😆

sandyhappypeople · 27/01/2025 23:00

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 22:15

I did not obstruct the traffic! No traffic stopped.

of course you obstructed traffic, you stopped on the road and at least one vehicle had to go around you, if there was more following, they would have had to go around too.. if a car was coming the other way anything behind you would have to stop and wait until it was clear to proceed.

There's nothing illegal about what you did, but saying you didn't obstruct traffic while forcing people to overtake you is just silly.

ProfessionalPirate · 27/01/2025 23:06

purpleblue2 · 27/01/2025 22:22

@Azzywhatty

ypu sound so silly, so you’d stop in the middle of a motorway if it was quiet to pick something up instead of coming off at the next exit finding somewhere SAFE to park and sorting your sat nav out. You don’t own the roads and you were taught I hope if you go wrong you Correct it in the safe way which you did not. Had the police come across you I’m sure they would not of been very accepting

What an idiotic thing to say. Stopping on the motorway is illegal. What the OP did was perfectly legal. The police wouldn’t be remotely interested. Honestly the amount of erroneous assertions on this thread is infuriating. Although this particular one reads like it was written by some dodgy AI bot.

sandyhappypeople · 27/01/2025 23:07

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 22:17

When did I say they were essential? More imagination.

I thought the same thing as that poster in fairness.. it was obviously essential enough that you felt you had to stop in middle of the road instead of looking for an appropriate place to pull over.

Sat Navs, while being very handy at times, tend to make people switch their brains off and blindly follow instructions, some people are literally lost without them.

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 23:10

sandyhappypeople · 27/01/2025 23:07

I thought the same thing as that poster in fairness.. it was obviously essential enough that you felt you had to stop in middle of the road instead of looking for an appropriate place to pull over.

Sat Navs, while being very handy at times, tend to make people switch their brains off and blindly follow instructions, some people are literally lost without them.

It was essential for getting home. It was not essential to drive the vehicle. But it’s no good driving the car without reaching the correct destination.

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sandyhappypeople · 27/01/2025 23:22

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 23:10

It was essential for getting home. It was not essential to drive the vehicle. But it’s no good driving the car without reaching the correct destination.

I drive all over the UK and 95% of the time I don't use a satnav. I don't think they are essential to be fair, lots of people use maps and roadsigns and work out where they need to go ahead of time, people managed for years before sat navs were invented.

I use them sometimes, more for driving to big cities as the routes can be more complicated, but I like to be able to visualise where I'm going and know my general location if I have to take a detour. Also, it helps me remember the route if I come to the area again, if I follow a sat nav I never remember where I've been, as I just follow instructions instead of learning the route.

Useful, but definitely not essential IMO.

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 23:27

sandyhappypeople · 27/01/2025 23:22

I drive all over the UK and 95% of the time I don't use a satnav. I don't think they are essential to be fair, lots of people use maps and roadsigns and work out where they need to go ahead of time, people managed for years before sat navs were invented.

I use them sometimes, more for driving to big cities as the routes can be more complicated, but I like to be able to visualise where I'm going and know my general location if I have to take a detour. Also, it helps me remember the route if I come to the area again, if I follow a sat nav I never remember where I've been, as I just follow instructions instead of learning the route.

Useful, but definitely not essential IMO.

Okay, sure. It’s completely irrelevant to the thread though.

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denhaag · 27/01/2025 23:43

So you were coming out of a single lane area to a two lane road. The lorry was probably anticipating you accelerating. You indicated when there was no turning, no stopping point or no layby. He probably assumed you'd knocked the indicator in error.

It's not uncommon for cars to indicate and pull over to a stop on a road. If the lorry driver was in any doubt about her intentions then he should slow down to give more room, not assume the indication is a mistake.

I indicated and pulled over this evening (dark B road) as I felt the car behind was too close - no street lights, and mud on the road. It wasn't an emergency, but I wanted them in front of me. Sure, they weren't expecting me to do so, but then he pulled back and then passed me.

FrankieStein403 · 28/01/2025 00:35

Azzywhatty · 27/01/2025 14:57

Right okay, great idea 😂.

So the first photo is the single lane (shared by both directions of traffic.)

I did not stop here.

The single lane then widened into the second photo.

At this point I indicated left, pulled to the side as far as safety allowed, and stopped.

Here’s what I didn’t do - I did not just turn the engine off in the middle of the lane. I did not stop suddenly on an A road or dual carriageway. I did not force the lorry into mountains of oncoming traffic. They are very straight roads with very good visibility.

For those who dont read threads - those are the images the op posted.

Yes the road will have a 60mph limit because there ain't no street lights or limit signs.
Anyone who drives these roads knows you'd have a death wish to drive anywhere near the limit - anything can jump out in front of you - a cow did that to me once! (not an issue, I was doing about 30.)

The only way op would have been in the wrong would have been if there was a solid white line{s} in the middle of the road.

FrankieStein403 · 28/01/2025 00:38

OP didn't say whether it was a short (I'm here) beep or a long(angry/frustrated) beeeeeep

Mapandthermos · 28/01/2025 00:40

FrankieStein403 · 28/01/2025 00:38

OP didn't say whether it was a short (I'm here) beep or a long(angry/frustrated) beeeeeep

She did. It was short.

BoredZelda · 28/01/2025 01:31

Google says "A passing place is a section of a single-track road where vehicles can pass each other. Single-track roads are usually found in rural areas and are only wide enough for one vehicle. "

Which is literally what I said.

BingoDingoDog · 28/01/2025 02:44

What a thread.😂😂😂😂

I'm a rural driver and what you did was perfectly ok. I think he was saying thank you or a quick careful I'm coming past.

You did nothing wrong at all.

denhaag · 28/01/2025 02:45

BoredZelda · 28/01/2025 01:31

Google says "A passing place is a section of a single-track road where vehicles can pass each other. Single-track roads are usually found in rural areas and are only wide enough for one vehicle. "

Which is literally what I said.

And OP didn't stop on a single track road therefore there would be no passing place for her to stop

QuestionableMouse · 28/01/2025 03:33

sandyhappypeople · 27/01/2025 23:22

I drive all over the UK and 95% of the time I don't use a satnav. I don't think they are essential to be fair, lots of people use maps and roadsigns and work out where they need to go ahead of time, people managed for years before sat navs were invented.

I use them sometimes, more for driving to big cities as the routes can be more complicated, but I like to be able to visualise where I'm going and know my general location if I have to take a detour. Also, it helps me remember the route if I come to the area again, if I follow a sat nav I never remember where I've been, as I just follow instructions instead of learning the route.

Useful, but definitely not essential IMO.

Would you like a gold medal?

🥇🥇🥇🥇

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 07:39

abricotine · 27/01/2025 13:57

You should really have waited for a lay-by or safer place to stop, not just stopped and blocked the road. Although people do do this on residential roads, dropping/picking passengers. It’s quite selfish but people do it - but they do use their hazards at least, then there’s no doubt.

Good grief people can't read.
She didn't block the way for the truck. She waited until there were two lanes so the truck could continue without pausing.

It was a country road. Not the M25.

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 07:45

bettbburg · 27/01/2025 14:02

@Azzywhatty you turn into a side road where you can park. Parking is safely at the side of a suitable road.

You make no sense. You are saying turn into a different road and park on the side. Why is it ok to park on an adjacent road in your mind but not in the road the OP was on.

She indicated and pulled to the side and parked.
Why are you thinking one road is ok to park on and not the other?

The road was the equivalent of a side road. It was a country lane. It wasn't the M1. People are allowed to indicate and pull to the side of a road and park unless get are blocking the road which she wasn't or it is a motorway or it has no stopping lines.

Do people see cars parked along the side of roads and think those people have done something wrong?

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 07:47

@Boskit

You don't stop on the carriageway and force the traffic behind you to overtake. If I'd been behind you, I wouldn't just have beeped, I'd have wound down my passenger window and called you a fucking idiot.
And here we have found one of the road rage perpetrators 👏.....👏......👏

So if you are driving down a road and someone in front of you wants to park up outside their house you expect them to keep driving because you are behind them and will need to drive around them? Or you will hurl abuse?
What's wrong with you

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 07:49

@Onekidnoclue

you were in the “moving” section of the road

This is close to the dumbest thing I've ever read

All roads are moving sections

I can't actually believe you wrote this

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 07:51

@Mrsttcno1

You can’t see any difference between a residential street and a dual carriageway?
It's like you've never seen a dual carriageway that is also a residential street.

abricotine · 28/01/2025 07:53

@chargeitup is this your morning routine, coming in and post aggressive comments on a thread that moved on hours ago? 😂wish you a productive day.
”you can’t read”
”what’s wrong with you”
”this is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read”
Step away from the internet….

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 07:57

@saltinesandcoffeecups
So you think no one is allowed to park along the side of a road if it means traffic needs to go over the half way line to pass

I have news for you. Open your eyes. Have you actually seen cars parked along the sides of roads?

If you haven't seen this you shouldn't be driving as there is something wrong with your eyes.

purpleblue2 · 28/01/2025 08:44

ProfessionalPirate · 27/01/2025 23:06

What an idiotic thing to say. Stopping on the motorway is illegal. What the OP did was perfectly legal. The police wouldn’t be remotely interested. Honestly the amount of erroneous assertions on this thread is infuriating. Although this particular one reads like it was written by some dodgy AI bot.

You wouldn’t be saying that if the lorry had smashed into her and caused her too loose her life and it was all over the news and as for AI bot you are a little bit silly

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