Would you like this or find it unbearably cringe?

[TheEnterainer]

We have a friend with a birthday in a few weeks.

The number one song when he was born was ‘Cinderella Rockafella.’

As you’ve possibly guessed - if this was his birthday number one - he’s still a young lad and might be a bit shy and self conscious when it comes ti things like showy displays ! 🙌

His birthday’s at the beginning of March.

What my partner and I would love to do is an impromptu dance to this song when we all visit the local social club in a few weeks to celebrate his birthday.

I’m busy learning the exact lyrics for this song already!

i personally LOVE this song although some people apparently find it a bit twee

SO -

YANBU - it’s a lovely, gesture and great to take initiative at a time when most people are busy scrolling their phones and CBA to make an effort for anyone or anything!

YABU - ‘Cinderella Rockafella’ is a novelty record sung by seasoned performers and the ‘Average Joes’ of this world can’t carry off such a performance without it looking extremely naff!

Good God, no. Just don't.

I would actually not want to be friends with you again if you did that to me.

It's not really well intentioned though, is it? I mean, it's not malicious, but she genuinely doesn't care if he's embarrassed and wants her moment in the sun, the intention is to get herself attention.

And I can't help but feel that despite her twice saying she'd "read the room" that she's planning to do it anyway. Hope I'm wrong.

Nightmare

Sadly I am of an age to remember this song...it was awful then and now it's dated and STILL awful!!
Don't do it or choose another song!!😱

Do you think he will like it - you must know him well for the two of you to perform it for him?

It's not what any of us think about it, it's whether he'll appreciate it and realise why you're singing it. Has the subject of music when you were born/were young come up in conversation?

Onlookers might think you're both bonkers but if he appreciates it that's all that matters.

I cringe enough with people singing happy birthday to me. I'd cringe myself inside out if someone sang the number one song from when I was born, to me whilst doing a dance they'd choreographed to it.

Right.

Having re-read the OPS posts, another thing I've noticed is she barely mentions the birthday "boy". She said he was shy, then said he was jovial (which may or may not be code for likes to drink a lot) she gave his age when asked and said he was young at heart, and that's it.

Nothing along the lines of "He loves/hates am dram and musicals" or he laughed at such and such a song, or he's always loved a/b/c - nothing about him really, just all about how she loves the song and thinks it'll be a cracking wheeze.

In fact, she didn't post to ask whether it was a good idea, only to find out whether the song itself was too much for an amateur to manage.

She tried hard to manipulate too with the wording if you posted YABU apparently you were saying no to "a lovely, gesture and great to take initiative at a time when most people are busy scrolling their phones and CBA to make an effort for anyone or anything!"

It doesn't seem to have occurred to her prior to this thread that it's actually an awful, silly and attention seeking notion, full stop.

There’s a good reason why “not many people can be bothered” it’s a cringe idea.

I think it's lovely that you're making an effort, but I would steer clear of doing that particular song. It's also a kind of serenade so the fact that it was a hit when he was born might be missed by everyone.

Why not take the same energy and instead do a more obvious song like Stevie Wonders "happy birthday to you". Even Edith Piaf "no regrets" might land better.

"Cinderella Rockefella" has become such a cliché, giving a name to many regional town dingy nightclubs. Sadly the song has become a bit jaded.

are all
the guests at the party learning it so it looks like a fun dance mob thing or just you and your partner? If everyone is doing it I think it’s fun, if it’s just you and your partner I think it’s a bit weird and will look strange

Unbelievablely cringe, though you sound like a good egg OP. Glad to hear that you have reconsidered.
I threw a joint party for my daughter and husband’s big birthdays. Lovely friends - who have form for this kind of thing - decided to dress up (him in drag) and sing a parody song they had written for my husband. My daughter was absolutely horrified. She was turning 30 and had her friends from school, university, work and her new home city coming together for the first time. The party was a big deal for her. She really didn’t want some 60 year old couple in drag warbling some godawful song. Fortunately my friends asked and she gently suggested they do it on another occasion - private dinner - which they did.
Everybody happy. Your friend will have spent a lot of money and time planning the party. This will feel so out baffling and of context for the friends who don’t know you. It will feel like an ambush for your friend. It will kill the vibe immediately afterwards and some guests will take the opportunity to leave. Why not host a separate birthday dinner for a few of your mutual close friends and do it then if you must?

What makes you think he would enjoy two of his friends doing a cringe dance to a song he probably doesn't even know on HIS birthday? Please don't do it. It could very well back fire & embarrass the life out of him in front of his family & other non attention seeking friends.

Agree, the amount of people getting seriously offended or embarrassed over something so light hearted is ridiculous, but then it's mumsnet, offended and insulting to every OP, its like a game, let's immediately call OP every name under the sun no matter what they say, its embarrassing. OP you sound lovely and you asked a question and got lashed by silly woman old enough to know better x

You seem to be very offended by other people who think this is a dreadful idea and that she sounds attention seeking.

Maybe don't choose to be so insulted and offended when people state opinions you disagree with :)

Just hate the way people can be so nasty over something so trivial, majority of posters are answering in a light hearted manner but the usual hard core ruin it and turn it into something else, Nd yes it does piss me off that women go on like this.

Women are 'silly' for voicing their opinions? Interesting bit of sexism to bring to a pretty light-hearted thread.
No-one is offended. No-one is embarrassed. People are just sharing with the OP that they would fucking hate this if it was their birthday, that from the little we've been told about his so would the 'young lad' and pointing out that it would be pulling all the attention into themselves, rather than the person who's birthday it is.
If you would enjoy a couple doing a dance with each other with a strange, slow duet that (using this thread as a sample) most people have never heard before, then why not ask some of your friends to do so.

This is absolutely going to confuse the fuck out of anyone under 55, you know. It's not exactly Dancing Queen, or even Shaddap Your Face, nobody is really going to know it.

Christ. People really work out their internal angst on these threads don’t they? 🙄

I voted YABU but I actually think this sounds hilarious and you should do it.

I had to Google the song but I do remember it and now I’ve told my dh he is humming it in the kitchen and no doubt we will be singing it all day now so thanks for that !

@NattyTurtle59

"You sound like something from several decades ago".

The OP is literally from several decades ago, as is the Birthday Boy, as am I and apparently many other posters.

Why would you think their opinions are irrelevant? Other than we're all old fuddy duddies who wouldn't know fun if it hit us in the face with a frying pan.

I consider embarrassing a friend so that you can gain attention for yourself at his birthday to be really quite unpleasant behaviour. It seems I am in the majority in this

You are quite entitled to disagree, but nastiness is in the eye of the beholder. I think calling people nasty for disagreeing with you actually very nasty.

Nasty to be is saying things like you're embarrassing, get over yourself, mortified for you, get a grip, that's nasty when it was just op asking for opinion, not name calling so yes nasty and no need for it.

Nasty is telling people they are nasty for holding a different opinion to you. It's 100 percent entirely subjective.

Me too 😂@AmazingBouncingFerret and @BellaCiaoBellaCiao the other old thread that springs to mind is when the wedding party all did the Thriller dance at the reception. Now that I wish I had seen 😂