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Circumcision should be banned.

634 replies

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 14:44

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/01/judge-and-parents-call-for-boys-to-be-protected-from-circumcision

Article describes an upsetting case of two doctors performing these ops without anesthesia, and with sometimes serious side effects. One boy nearly died.

The National Secular Society is running a concurrent campaign to ban all 'religious cutting' - that includes both FGM and male circumcision. I wholeheartedly agree that no baby or child should suffer in this way. More info:

https://www.secularism.org.uk/religious-surgery/

YABU - circumcision for religous reasons is fine
YANBU - circumcision should be banned (unless there is a medical reason)

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AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:30

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:20

I don't get the religious argument. Is this just custom, or in the bible does it say 'thou must cut bits of your children's genitalia'?

In the Bible, circumcision is a sign of the covenant between Abraham & God. It is still taken v seriously by Orthodox Jews especially I think? Ofc between different branches it varies.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 24/01/2025 18:31

Joystir59 · 24/01/2025 16:24

Because there is a significant difference between removing a foreskin from a penis and scraping a girls clitoris away and sewing her labia together so tightly she cannot part with menstrual fluid or enjoy sexual pleasure

Utterly shocking that you have to explain this to some people!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:32

ChessorBuckaroo · 24/01/2025 18:10

Circumcision is bloody disgusting.

Mutilating a part of a child's body, and without consent. Vile. It's abuse. If they want to scar a part of their body when they are older through their own choice, go ahead.

However not sure I'm comfortable banning it given its religious (Jewish) connotations. Same way I'm against banning the veil even though it's a form of subjugation.

As a way to navigate round this I'd ban circumcision for non religious (backward) reasons.

Is anyone actually circumcising babies in the UK for non religious reasons?

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:33

Catsnap · 24/01/2025 18:29

As a primary school TA I once went on a school trip a synagogue when the Rabbi talked to children (amongst other things) about how and why baby boys’ were circumcised. ‘Does it hurt?’ Asked one of the children. ‘No, because the foreskin has no nerve endings.’
At the same school, the class teacher insisted in a science lesson that women had fewer ribs than men- ‘because of Adam and Eve’. I’m not sure biology and religion are always a great mix.

I think Haredi & Hasidic Judaism can be quite anti science, similar to some evangelicals, it's not a good thing...

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:33

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:30

In the Bible, circumcision is a sign of the covenant between Abraham & God. It is still taken v seriously by Orthodox Jews especially I think? Ofc between different branches it varies.

please could you give more details? how did this happen?

Mrsdyna · 24/01/2025 18:34

Of course it should be banned, a newborn baby doesn't care about religion or its parent's wants, all he will feel is scared and in pain. It absolutely disgusts me that people can do this.

creamandcookies2 · 24/01/2025 18:35

spoonfulofsugar1 · 24/01/2025 15:37

My son is circumcised for religious reasons (muslim). It was done when he was a baby.
The situation was extremely complex.

However, male circumcision and FGM are not the same and its not helpful to conflate the two issues.

Complex how? Believing in some invisible being who may or not be real isn't an excuse to mutilate a baby. It's fairly black and white.

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:36

Jackiepumpkinhead · 24/01/2025 18:31

Utterly shocking that you have to explain this to some people!

You're thinking of Type 3 FGM. Types 2 and 1 are different. All are illegal.

Utterly shocking that you have to explain this to some people!

BreatheAndFocus · 24/01/2025 18:37

Catsnap · 24/01/2025 18:29

As a primary school TA I once went on a school trip a synagogue when the Rabbi talked to children (amongst other things) about how and why baby boys’ were circumcised. ‘Does it hurt?’ Asked one of the children. ‘No, because the foreskin has no nerve endings.’
At the same school, the class teacher insisted in a science lesson that women had fewer ribs than men- ‘because of Adam and Eve’. I’m not sure biology and religion are always a great mix.

There’s a most horrible video of a circumcision of a baby online. It’s a medical circumcision (not being done for religious reasons, just cultural as the baby boy is American). The way the baby is restrained is disturbing but the screams are absolutely horrific!

Nobody should be allowed to inflict this on a child.

ditalini · 24/01/2025 18:38

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:32

Is anyone actually circumcising babies in the UK for non religious reasons?

Yes.

You can pay to have it done for any reason. Apparently it's common amongst the aristo class, and obviously expats from countries where it's more common so that baby boys can grow up looking like daddy.

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:39

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:32

Is anyone actually circumcising babies in the UK for non religious reasons?

Americans routinely do it because they think it's "cleaner". Foreskins on adult males are routinely greeted with an, "ewww!"

It's learned social behaviour not dissimilar to reactions to "uncut" females in parts of the world where FGM is routinely practiced, though most Americans would baulk at the comparison.

DGPP · 24/01/2025 18:45

100% agree, it’s a horrendous practice

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:45

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:39

Americans routinely do it because they think it's "cleaner". Foreskins on adult males are routinely greeted with an, "ewww!"

It's learned social behaviour not dissimilar to reactions to "uncut" females in parts of the world where FGM is routinely practiced, though most Americans would baulk at the comparison.

Yes but is anyone doing it in the UK? Presumably we are talking about banning it in the UK. I'm not sure whether there would be any point in banning it for non religious reasons only in the UK.

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:48

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:45

Yes but is anyone doing it in the UK? Presumably we are talking about banning it in the UK. I'm not sure whether there would be any point in banning it for non religious reasons only in the UK.

Apologies, I meant to refer to Americans in the UK but wasn't explicit. Yes, you'd need to do it for both.

Any legislation would probably phrase it as a geberal ban with an exception made for medical need rather than picking out reasons it wasn't allowed in any event.

Unrelated38 · 24/01/2025 18:50

It should be illegal to mutilate any child, or non-consenting adults, genitals. No matter how much of the genitals you're removing, or what conditions it's done under. It should never be OK to remove or alter parts of a child's genitals for aesthetics. Fuck we made it illegal to Dock dogs tails but not baby boys foreskins.

Obviously medical necessity, which is very uncommon, is exempt, just like you'd amputate a limb if it was causing harm.

shuggles · 24/01/2025 18:51

@AliasGrace47 Similarly, I wouldn't expect gay men to know about female anatomy, unless they were involved in an issue like maternity care, dangers of vaginally surgery etc.

Well no, healthcare issues are a big topic in the media, and I would expect the general public to have an awareness of those issues because that in turn ensures that the issues receive the attention they deserve, which then leads to increased funding. Endometriosis has been a big thing in recent years, so I would expect gay men to have an awareness of it and the general structure of a woman's body. Same logic applies to lesbians- I would expect a lesbian to know that the entire head of the penis can be completely exposed without a surgical intervention.

This doesn't apply to me, but some gay & lesbian people find fundamentally unpleasant to think about the opposite sex's genitals.

Those people that you know need to grow up.

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

Mrsdyna · 24/01/2025 18:55

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

Makes no sense does it, God creates the eye with all its intricacies but somehow messes up the penis. As per usual, it's for humans to correct "God's mistake."
Couldn't make it up, circumcision actually sounds blasphemous.

shuggles · 24/01/2025 18:57

@Cunningfungus Are you having a laugh! FGM is a complete mutilation of a girl’s genital area involving removal of her clitoris and often resulting in fistulae. Sometimes the girl’s vagina will be stitched over, only to be ripped open again forcefully during sex. Other effects include infection, scarring, chronic long term genital infections, obstetric problems, urination problems and even death from sepsis. Obstruction of the vaginal opening may lead to painful menstruation (dysmenorrhea), irregular periods and difficulty in passing menstrual blood. The girl is unlikely to ever go on and have a pleasant sexual experience following FGM.

Everything you said is correct, but what you have described is a specific, and very severe, form of FGM, which is not the most common. The term "FGM" embodies a very diverse and wide range of different forms of cutting (indeed, there are many different ways of cutting the penis too).

The least severe form of FGM is "pricking" (FGM Class IV) which is unquestionably far less severe than circumcision in infant boys.

However, such arguments are a distraction and are completely missing the point. It's not a competition of "this thing is worse than that thing." It's the principle that's the important point. Common sense should say that invasive and unnecessary surgery, without anaesthesia, should not be performed on infants who can't consent.

namechangeGOT · 24/01/2025 18:59

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

Please please religious people - answer this.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 19:00

DeepFatFried · 24/01/2025 18:07

In the WHO classification of types of FGM the least extreme is described thus:
“This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the external and visible part of the clitoris, which is a sensitive part of the female genitals), and/or the prepuce/clitoral hood (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoral glans).”

Removal of clitoris.

Horrific and extreme. IMO.

I am totally against circumcision for non medical reasons. To me it is ethically and morally wrong to cut bits off kids bodies without their consent.

We don’t need to make circumcision of boys comparative to FGM to decide whether or not it is wrong. It either is or isn’t, on its own terms.

As it happens I think the misogyny and the fear of women’s sexual pleasure as a threat to patriarchy and men’s power is a different dynamic to male circumcision, which seems to be about offering a covenant to your god and making your son a valuable powerful male member of your tribe.

But, irrespective of all this, cutting bits off babies or non/consenting (under the gf if consent ) children is wrong.

Another study I posted talked about pricking genitals with a needle in a symbolic gesture.

Of course, this is also awful, wrong, and unnecessary, but it is I would say comparable in terms of potential side effects/complications etc to castration.

Anyway, the issue I think is that people are deliberately harming and mutilating children based on a religious motivation. That's what makes them similar.

I can see both sides, for what it's worth.

Practically speaking, I think a very clear, very strong line of 'no hurting babies for religious reasons' might make the whole issue easier to address? No getting lost in the thickets of whether infibulation or circumcision are worse etc, just a very straightforward banning of any and all mutilation of children.

Jesus, I can hardly believe anyone would try to justify it.

Don't hurt kids! That's it!

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 19:00

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:48

Apologies, I meant to refer to Americans in the UK but wasn't explicit. Yes, you'd need to do it for both.

Any legislation would probably phrase it as a geberal ban with an exception made for medical need rather than picking out reasons it wasn't allowed in any event.

I think expecting it to be banned in the US is a non starter. They're so backwards about circumcision.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 19:02

shuggles · 24/01/2025 18:57

@Cunningfungus Are you having a laugh! FGM is a complete mutilation of a girl’s genital area involving removal of her clitoris and often resulting in fistulae. Sometimes the girl’s vagina will be stitched over, only to be ripped open again forcefully during sex. Other effects include infection, scarring, chronic long term genital infections, obstetric problems, urination problems and even death from sepsis. Obstruction of the vaginal opening may lead to painful menstruation (dysmenorrhea), irregular periods and difficulty in passing menstrual blood. The girl is unlikely to ever go on and have a pleasant sexual experience following FGM.

Everything you said is correct, but what you have described is a specific, and very severe, form of FGM, which is not the most common. The term "FGM" embodies a very diverse and wide range of different forms of cutting (indeed, there are many different ways of cutting the penis too).

The least severe form of FGM is "pricking" (FGM Class IV) which is unquestionably far less severe than circumcision in infant boys.

However, such arguments are a distraction and are completely missing the point. It's not a competition of "this thing is worse than that thing." It's the principle that's the important point. Common sense should say that invasive and unnecessary surgery, without anaesthesia, should not be performed on infants who can't consent.

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ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 19:04

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:45

Yes but is anyone doing it in the UK? Presumably we are talking about banning it in the UK. I'm not sure whether there would be any point in banning it for non religious reasons only in the UK.

20% of males in the UK are circumcised. The NHS says it's very rarely done for medical reasons.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/circumcision-in-boys/

nhs.uk

Circumcision in boys

Read about circumcision in boys, including why it's carried out, medical reasons for circumcision, what the procedure involves, recovery and risks.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/circumcision-in-boys

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LadyTable · 24/01/2025 19:04

spoonfulofsugar1 · 24/01/2025 15:37

My son is circumcised for religious reasons (muslim). It was done when he was a baby.
The situation was extremely complex.

However, male circumcision and FGM are not the same and its not helpful to conflate the two issues.

It's not complex at all.

A woman chooses to grow a baby inside her.

The baby is born with all its perfect body parts intact.

The mother and father then choose to permanently remove some of their perfect baby's body, due to a religion they (not the baby) choose to follow.

It couldn't be any more simple.

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