To think that DH should buy more milk when it gets low or not drink it?

[Wintersoltice]

The milk was low tonight, but DH has gone and poured himself a glass anyway so now there is only enough for ~1 breakfast in the morning. Usually DS, DD and myself have cereal or porridge for breakfast so I guess he's expecting that two of us will have something else. This seems to happen regularly and I find it annoying. DH doesn't have milk for breakfast but he will drink it as a kind of snack. I sympathise as he is a bit limited on snack options with being T1 diabetic, but still I think he could consider the rest of us and either not drink it when its low or replace it afterwards. I assume he was expecting that I would go out and replace it tomorrow as I'm WFH, which is something I'm finding I'm having to do more and more lately. He was a bit annoyed tonight as I suggested he should go out and buy more for the morning, AIBU?

Milk freezes well, keep a spare in the freezer.

It was already low before he did that though so surely either of you could have replaced today ? Would a glass of milk have been enough to cover two breakfasts ?

That’s so selfish of him

He could argue since he's restricted in what he can drink he should get priority and you could have something else.

Maybe buy more or as pp said keep some in the freezer

Unless it's a specific snack he has when his sugars are low (I don't know, maybe he knows the exact composition of milk, and the soluble sugars are quick to digest or something?!) then this is really selfish.

Keep the fridge stocked a little better!

I think regular usage trumps random chugging. His kids are going to wake up in the morning, and only one of them can have the breakfast they were expecting.

But yes, maybe he should keep a stash in the freezer in future so that he doesn't have to make a late night dash to the corner shop.

I agree he should definitely go and buy some! I would probably go and get it myself if he refused as I would hate to not have enough milk for hot drink and breakfast in the morning. But I would be really annoyed.

Why doesn't he go to get more milk now?

Yes I probably should have noticed, but we go through so much that it goes down really quickly and I'm constantly having to buy more. On Tuesday we got 2x 4 pints delivered and now we're almost out.

Is your DH 4 years old? If not, then yes of couse he should consider the rest of the family when he comsumes things. Is this part of a wider issue though? That he assumes you should do stuff when you're wfh? That he pleases himself and disregards you?

He did in the end but only because I asked him to and he was a annoyed about it. He was saying there was enough left for 2x breakfasts for the DC, but I would say 1.5 at best.

So increase the delivery?

Buy 2 bottles at a time and when the 2 nd one is opened, buy a new one?

I keep UHT in the cupboard for emergencies so we also have back up milk.

Clearly it’s not your job to monitor an d ensure milk stock OP, however, given you apparently order it, why not just order extra? It’s often got a really long date and you can under-order on later ships if needed. I don’t think it’s reasonable to think your breakfast usage is more important tgan his snack usage, especially if he’s T1. You should all have milk.

It’s gross though, let’s be honest?

I think if you're getting through close to 4 pints a day then you ultimately need to either commit to 2 supermarket deliveries a week and buy 12 pints a time or accept someone needs to buy milk daily.

We used to buy 24 pints a week at one point and just accepted we half an entire fridge shelf devoted to milk.

I'd keep an emergency carton hidden somewhere in the garden. It's cold enough outside to keep it fresh.

I think it's rude to finish something you know your kids are going to have for breakfast

Maybe you should buy some uht for emergencies

Get the filtered milk and the use by date on it is a lot longer, usually about a month’s shelf life, so if the fridge space allows you can buy more in the weekly shop and not worry about it going bad before you use it. But as for who gets last dibs on the milk- I would think that a T1 diabetic with limited snack options takes precedence. Also, if a glass has managed to make tomorrow’s breakfast plans go to shit then it sounds like it was running low, or at least running low for your household, before he even got to it.

Or...hear me out...

He could take some responsibility too. If he knows its one of the things he can have then why doesn't he also be mindful of when it's getting low. Honestly men can do things around the home you know. I have a restricted diet for medical reasons and one of the things I can have DS and DH also have regularly; i make sure there's plenty so I can have it when I want it and it's there for others.

Well that escalated.

I never for a minute said he wasn't capable of getting more in. I never suggested hes not equally capable. All I'm saying is they all have reasons for wanting the milk one doesn't necessarily trump the other but whoever sees it's running low should be topping it up at the first opportunity. Whether it's the OP or her husband.

I thought I was ordering extra, I might be able to get one extra bottle maybe, but there's a limit to how much I can keep in the fridge. Depends whether it's the beginning or the end of the week.

Yeah I guess it was running low anyway, but the point is that he made it worse instead of resolving that!