To think that DH should buy more milk when it gets low or not drink it?

[Wintersoltice]

The milk was low tonight, but DH has gone and poured himself a glass anyway so now there is only enough for ~1 breakfast in the morning. Usually DS, DD and myself have cereal or porridge for breakfast so I guess he's expecting that two of us will have something else. This seems to happen regularly and I find it annoying. DH doesn't have milk for breakfast but he will drink it as a kind of snack. I sympathise as he is a bit limited on snack options with being T1 diabetic, but still I think he could consider the rest of us and either not drink it when its low or replace it afterwards. I assume he was expecting that I would go out and replace it tomorrow as I'm WFH, which is something I'm finding I'm having to do more and more lately. He was a bit annoyed tonight as I suggested he should go out and buy more for the morning, AIBU?

exactly. My 9yo gets it too.

The problem appears to be the fact that he always finishes it but never replaces it

Sorry, he's food restricted and the rest of you aren't? He gets it. He should have asked out of politeness first - and I reckon if he had you'd have said that's fine.

I bet you're generally pissed with him about a whole range of things (being generally inconsiderate/unaware of the kids' needs) and that's why this small thing has got to you.

Can't you just keep several bottles of milk in your freezer and keep topping those up so that you never have less four pints in there, plus a couple of pints of Longlife milk?

Yh it's pretty damn selfish. The kids come first, especially for breakfast before a day at school.
I'd make a joke out of it, but so he knows, because anyone can be a bit thoughtless with things on their mind, plus men dont always have the same sense of responsibility as women do. Just so he doesn't do it again, if you happen to run low.
And yes freeze some too, just to keep stocked up .

We have a rule that enough milk needs to be left for breakfast time.

YANBU @Wintersoltice.

The blue uht milk out of Tesco is ok. I used to really dislike uht but kids are happy to drink that one/ have it on cereal. Makes a passable cup of tea. I think it’s the higher fat content.

I'm a single mum who works full-time. I never find myself without milk. I replace it before it has run out. It's really not that hard to do

I have a rule that there has to be enough left for tea and coffee in the morning, no glasses of milk or cereal if we are running low.
If this happens regularly I would get a milk lock (I only just learned of this marvellous invention). He is an adult and can either go and buy more milk or have something else.

My DH will do this randomly, and uses at least half a litre to have a late night cereal bowl, so hard to plan for and two bottles can mean one goes off before it's drunk.

DD has it at breakfast. He's drained it a couple of times & I've had to give DD my milk I use for my coffee machine (friend better). DH has now learnt if it's low, to drink the long life milk in in the pantry & get more on his way home the next day.

He's welcome to use the milk, of course, but has to consider others. Since I'm not a grocery delivery service he can replace a product if he drains it (happens with bread, too). It's not my job to monitor & replace his usage.

He's not food restricted. He can eat and drink whatever he wants.

No, it means there are other breakfast options.

Totally not the point but I'm amazed at how much milk people drink! Can't be good for you guzzling all that.

There are 2 fully capable adults in the house, between you buy more milk. Stop blaming each other and ignoring the fact you need more milk than you are currently buying !

4 pints of milk is only around 2 litres so not very much. We go through 2 litres per day.

@LoveSeptember "Milk freezes well, keep a spare in the freezer"

Yes-that is exactly what the DP should do. Good idea.

Surely you and DC can have something else for breakfast occasionally?

I'm not sure his desire to have a glass of milk trumps your preference for porridge and cereal over some toast or yoghurt, tbh.

You both sound disorganised and you both seem to feel entitled to the little milk that is left. If this is a regular occurrence (I assume it is otherwise you wouldn't be making a big deal of it) then you need to sit down together and find a solution. I agree with you that it is thoughtless of him not to check in with you about the remaining milk, and that he could and perhaps should have discussed it with you before drinking it. But I don't agree that had you both discussed it the automatic outcome should have been that he goes out to replace it - there were a possible range of other outcomes such as you go out to get the milk, he doesn't drink any, you and the kids have a different breakfast and so on. The problem is that he never raised it so you couldn't discuss it, and you have a fixed way of seeing the problem. In the first instance I would ask your dh to be more considerate and to raise things like this with you before he drinks it. Then in the ensuing conversation you should try to be flexible and so should he.

I'd buy extra milk. I buy 2 large milks a week. You can freeze milk, if you don't have room in your fridge.

My other half is like this. Totally unpredictable milk consumption in our house because of it. Used to drive me mad. Now I have decided that like my hero Miss Marple I am a noticing person and she isn't. And that I benefit from this ability.
So I just buy a massive milk on Monday on way home from work. Luckily milk now has a much longer life.

It’s selfish and I’d tell him so, but uht milk - if chilled - tastes no different to fresh these days, esp on cereal. Just have some in the cupboard. And buy more milk before you get to the last carton, As PPs say, that is something you can both do.

Always? Or on this one occasion?

Massive non-problem. Milk drunk, milk replaced. Move on with life or start a thread on MN to moan.

Oh, I see he did do it previously. I stand by the rest though, not really a battle worth having. Here, I would simply say to my husband to make sure there was enough for breakfast and leave it at that.

If a household is constantly running out of a particular item, then more of that item needs to be purchased in the first place.