To think that DH should buy more milk when it gets low or not drink it?

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The milk was low tonight, but DH has gone and poured himself a glass anyway so now there is only enough for ~1 breakfast in the morning. Usually DS, DD and myself have cereal or porridge for breakfast so I guess he's expecting that two of us will have something else. This seems to happen regularly and I find it annoying. DH doesn't have milk for breakfast but he will drink it as a kind of snack. I sympathise as he is a bit limited on snack options with being T1 diabetic, but still I think he could consider the rest of us and either not drink it when its low or replace it afterwards. I assume he was expecting that I would go out and replace it tomorrow as I'm WFH, which is something I'm finding I'm having to do more and more lately. He was a bit annoyed tonight as I suggested he should go out and buy more for the morning, AIBU?

Yes, the milk is usually necessary for breakfast and tea/ coffee so you only drink it when there's a ready supply. We were taught that growing up.

^ this. And keep some UHT in, it’s fine for porridge etc. Any household I’ve lived in runs low on milk now and then… a pint in the freezer and /or couple of cartons of UHT is an easy solve

Or is there a different dedicated snack your DH could have (yogurt, cheese?) to solve this?

I find it annoying when my OH finishes things I regularly eat (nuts in this case) but one of us is not more important than the other …

Yes he can, and does, eat yogurt, cheese and nuts as snacks. Those are his other main options, along with berries and grapefruit.

Was he out during the day and could have stopped for milk on the way home? Could he have known you were running low before leaving for work, or could you have called him to ask him to pick some up?

I hate coming home from work, having driven past loads of shops, only to find my family has used up something I thought we had enough of. We keep boxes of UHT in the pantry for emergencies and check in after work before coming home in case someone needs to stop for milk/bread etc. It works much better than someone having to leave again to go to a shop.

I don't think your breakfast needs trump his snack needs. There should be enough for everyone, and a system to avoid running out.

Blimey even my 9yr old understood that you can't guzzle the last 2 pints of milk unless it's breakfast and if you open the last bottle in the fridge you let mum know that shopping is required. Now he's a bit older he often offers to go to the shop himself!

You and the kids could have something else for breakfast occasionally, like toast for example. Why does it HAVE to be cereal or porridge?

Why do you feel that your breakfast milk (not the kids) take precedent over his glass of milk, especially as his snack options are limited?

This is a bit of a non issue really. Just increase the quantity you order or freeze a pint or two for emergencies!

Yogurt, cheese, nuts & berries also sounds like a great breakfast… if your household had gone through more than 6 pints since Tues I don’t think 1 glass is a massive dent

Are you annoyed about something bigger- like the mental load of shopping, having to nip out, your husband prioritising himself? Because the milk issue has such an easy solve I would think this is about something bigger

I can have something else, which I think is what he was expecting me to do, though I would prefer not to. I don't mind if DC have something else for breakfast either, but they probably would - they never have toast.

It's an issue because it happens all the time and I'm constantly having to go out to get milk. This didn't used to happen but I think his milk consumption must have gone up a lot.

Fair enough, if he's always the one running the milk low and you aren't due a delivery, it's fair to ask him to replace it sometimes so you can both eat/drink the things you enjoy. Come to ours, I'm always throwing milk away 😆

Slightly beside the point of the thread, I know, but T1 diabetics aren't restricted in what they have for snacks - and definitely not in what they drink - they just need to know how to cover it with insulin.

Milk is a good choice, as are your DH"s other choices, but that doesn't let him off the hook for being thoughtless.

If the average family consumption is one 4 pint bottle a day, then whichever adult is near the shop needs to pick up a new bottle

He should go and buy milk without complaint. Why should the OP be milk monitor? Typical selfish, entitled male behaviour.

You're obviously not ordering enough milk for the demand, order more.

Why can't he drink the last of the milk? Someone's going to.

Have something else for breakfast. Buy a carton and freeze it. Make or buy some plant milk. Whoever passes nearer the store buys some more.

buy in bulk and freeze it! A 1L bottle will thaw overnight

It's an unwritten rule that you don't consume the last of something until new stock is supplied.
Is he going to go out to replace it before morning? 🤨

Never let it get lower than half full for a big family (and whoever notices should get it)

If you’re getting it low after breakfast why wouldn’t you pick some up in the day? And you keep saying it’s happening a lot, I don’t understand why he can’t have a glass of milk but you must have enough for your breakfast. It sounds like he left enough for the kids So why wouldn’t he go out at night to buy some?

And you say you can eat other stuff but don’t want to buy that argument works both ways.

Day time is the easiest to pop to the shops and you are the one aware it is low after breakfast, you top it up. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think you just need to buy more milk. There's only two of us and we get through about 12 - 16 pints a week.

One glassful would never have dive your breakfast anyway.

We buy 4x4 pints and keep one in freezer.

If you don't have fridge space to buy enough fords whole week, then buy enough for half a week then you know you or DH will need to pop to shop in whatever day is halfway through your shopping week, and you can then pick up another half week's worth.

Or find another system. Your current system of hoping 8 pints will get you through a week when it's blatantly not enough, then getting frustrated at numerous shopping trips and annoyed with people when it runs out is not working for you! 😉

Just buy more milk and this issue goes away? It sounds like you are regularly underestimating consumption

Dh and I always make sure there's enough for breakfast if we are running low. It's common courtesy

He is a grown man and should be considerate of the children's breakfast, morning cuppa etc and pick up more milk if he is suddenly guzzling it all.

This! Am T1 and whilst I usually avoid snacks if I have one I have whatever I want, and I wouldn't be wasting an extra jab on a glass of milk 😂 (assuming he's not snacking to prevent a low)

Kids breakfast takes priority here. So if expect him to either not have it or go get more.

If this is a consistent issue,then can't whoever is doing the shopping just buy more milk? We are the same that it used to be used for just breakfast and coffee, and now our children started to drink it all the time and I ran out a couple of times. So I just buy more, and if I'm popping to the shop for something else I just grab more milk because I know it will get used. I also sometimes buy a long life one to pop in cupboard in case of emergency - works ok for breakfast and coffee but noone in my house would drink it on its own

Does he mean he’s decided you don’t need breakfast ?