To think that DH should buy more milk when it gets low or not drink it?

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The milk was low tonight, but DH has gone and poured himself a glass anyway so now there is only enough for ~1 breakfast in the morning. Usually DS, DD and myself have cereal or porridge for breakfast so I guess he's expecting that two of us will have something else. This seems to happen regularly and I find it annoying. DH doesn't have milk for breakfast but he will drink it as a kind of snack. I sympathise as he is a bit limited on snack options with being T1 diabetic, but still I think he could consider the rest of us and either not drink it when its low or replace it afterwards. I assume he was expecting that I would go out and replace it tomorrow as I'm WFH, which is something I'm finding I'm having to do more and more lately. He was a bit annoyed tonight as I suggested he should go out and buy more for the morning, AIBU?

We always have a backup of uht milk in the cupboard. It's exactly the same as fresh milk and keep us going in between groceries shopping.

I do think breakfast milk, especially for the kids, is most important, second only to “first thing in the morning cup of tea” milk. My DH or I would both go out and get some if we wanted enough in the evening that would leave us short.

But, if it’s happening more and more you both just need to have more in the fridge more regularly. If it’s the individual bottles you can’t fit more of, buy additional 2 pinters in plastic that you can lie flat at the back of the fridge. Squeeze it in somewhere.

Or, oat milk or almond milk doesn’t have to stay in the fridge if unopened and that’s nice, compared to uht which is still foul (though less foul than it used to be).

In a similar situation I went for malicious compliance. So I would ensure at any one time there is more milk than you could feasibly need. Get a daily milk delivery if it's difficult to pick up. If there are any complaints from DH about waste or cost, instigate a milk lock to make sure you and your DCs have enough for breakfast, which obviously trumps evening snack use.

I disagree with others - previously frozen milk and UHT milk both taste different from fresh.

Bad idea, ever tried defrosting the damn stuff?

And in our house, whoever starts using the last pint of milk is responsible for buying more or asking the other if they can't get it on time.

Yes, this is an unwritten rule.

Morning milk needs trump evening use. Everyone knows this.

I'd be annoyed too, OP!

The answer is sort of in the middle, he should definitely leave it for the kid’s breakfast but I don’t think you wanting cereal necessarily trumps him having a snack in the evening.

We buy milk every other day and both check the fridge and know to pick some up after work - only having one glass left was bad but I do agree he shouldn’t have taken it. He’s only thinking of himself.

Only someone who drinks a lot of UHT thinks it’s “exactly the same as fresh milk”. It’s not at all.
Your tastebuds have been ruined.

I dont see why people are saying h le is selfish. Why is it selfish for him to have the milk but not selfish of his wife to have it?

Children won't famish through there not being cereal for breakfast 1 morning when there are other options.

I agree with many other posts. Keep a spare in the freezer or some UHT around.

I buy cravendale - it is delicious and you get a few weeks on the date. Could you try that?

Nah, just get it out and leave in the kitchen sink to defrost overnight. I don’t have milk but DH has it in tea and cereal/ porridge so I buy 3x 2pint cartons each week, stick two in the freezer and sorted.

So now in addition to being milk monitor, OP is required to have a nutritious alternative breakfast option for her DCs at all times?

A planned meal trumps a snack, particularly if it's for DCs.

One is a meal. It’s not unlike it’s not selfish to eat your sausage dinner but it is selfish to cook yourself a couple of the dinner sausages the evening before and gobble them up.

Of course it's his responsibility to replace it if he uses what should be for breakfast. Is this another 'man thing' which we're excusing? Can't men be expected to anticipate anything, anytime?

I was fuming when my husband cancelled the milkman deliveries as they were almost twice the cost of supermarket milk (in his opinion). (But has wine deliveries. ) So now he is solely responsible for buying milk.

He thinks nothing of drinking a pint of milk at a time whenever he pleases (no dietary restrictions). He never ever takes others into consideration. I have my grandchildren here for breakfast at least three times a week and they're now used to having to change their breakfast preferences because of the hit and miss availability of milk.

It's a good job I can drink tea and coffee without milk.

I wish I wasn't so stubborn.

If this is a regular thing just get more in. The maths also doesn't work here - he had just a glass of it but that was 2 people's breakfast?

Anyway - simple solution is to get more milk and not have to argue about something like this. We are up to 9 pints a week, sometimes with a top up if the kids have hot chocolates or we make macaroni cheese or whatever. If you're down to the last pint, whoever is going out that day gets more in.

The last bit should be left for the kids breakfasts. Whoever does the grocery shop should check.

As a grown adult with diabetes he should take responsibility to keep his necessary snacks stocked up.

If there are 2 people using milk every day for breakfast and one person drinking it then you’re going to need a lot of milk! I think you’re going to run out sometimes tbh. Maybe you need back up breakfast options.

Its stuff like this that reminds me how lucky we are to have a small shop 5 minutes walk away. If short of milk or bread etc... we just go to the shop. No fuss.

Its a shame corner shops became unviable businesses in a lot of places.

How much milk does he drink? It's ok in moderation but there are carbs in milk and he is T1 diabetic

I would just buy double, or ask him to pick some up on the way home from work

I buy 2 x 4 pinters a day and we get through that, there are 5 of us

I haven't read all the replies, so please do forgive me if I'm repeating someone. Use the milkman. Worth paying those few extra pounds per week if it means milk for your coffee in the morning.

If a glass of milk means there isn't enough for breakfast for the children there isn't enough in stock for a family anyway I would say, and if we'd been that low and I knew it was an issue ,I'd say don't have any more milk tonight please or go out and get some more or ask him to. Especially if this has been happening a lot. You'd hope he'd notice and make provision for extra milk, something for you just to talk about and decide how best to ensure a back up or what you need as a family.

Why is your husband drinking a glass of milk OP? Is he five years old?

OP, the line that stood out from your first post was “This seems to happen regularly”. I’m feeling that, as a matter of course, you should be buying more milk. If you got 2 x 4 pints delivered on Tuesday and it’s not enough, then clearly you need to get. 3 x 4 pints. I know we go through quite a bit of milk, and it’s only DH and me most of the time. At Christmas when the DC and DGC were here, we went through crazy amounts - you can squeeze the 4 pint bottles in amongst other things on its side on a fridge shelf as well as in the door.

So can OP and the children presumably. It’s not as if they’re being denied food because they can’t have cereal.