The brainlessness of an English Tutor. Fuming

[crazymomma93]

Long time lurker, please bear with me.
My DD12 has been having some issues with her reading book. It has been making her feel uncomfortable, from the Genre and style of writing. So I have looked into it, got a jist of the book, she has pointed out some bits that made her uneasy and I looked up the age rating which was 14+. Now typically if you knew me, you would know I am not "that Mom" but I emailed her Form Tutor to ask if there was an alternative. Tutor emailed back after talking to English dept and DD dosn't need to read the book any longer, she can bring in her own. No problem. My DD has just told me she spoke with her own English Tutor, the day before I sent the email to tell her Form Tutor. After listening to DD, English Tutor responds "it's just words"
ITS JUST WORDS? Sorry is that not pretty much the Tutors whole career, teaching English?
I need calming because I am close to emailing said teacher calling her a c**t, because, you know "it's just words". See how her feelings are when she reads something that makes her uncomfortable.
My DD turned to her to ask because the book was making her uneasy and that is the response. What about children who get verbally bullied? Where is this Womans morals. AIBU?

What book is it?

Yeah what's the book?

Now typically if you knew me, you would know I am not "that Mom"

Said every Mum who IS that Mum. Your username isn't helping your case

You need to take a big deep breath because you do sound like 'that mom'.

You really need to calm down.

Was it a book the whole class is studying? Or one your DD had picked up in the library or something?

What was the book?

I'm afraid that your post really does scream "That Mom". From the caps to the abusive language.

Did you hear the entire conversation? It doesn’t sound like it was a good one if the biggest thing your dd took from it was ‘it’s just words’ but it’s never helpful to try and judge a teachers actions based on one sentence relayed by a child.

On the surface, of course that seems like a bizarre thing for the teacher to say, but without hearing the conversation and knowing the book, there’s no need to start teacher bashing.

What's the book though.....my burning question

Part of the point of literature is that it exposes us to uncomfortable truths. I think the tutor is right to stand by their discipline.

Is it Of Mice and Men?

YANBU that 'it's just words' is a completely bizarre thing for an English teacher to say. Isn't the whole point of the subject teaching that they're so much more than just words?! Shakespeare is no different to the estate agent leaflet that came through my door today if that's the case...

Obviously you'd be U to call her a cunt, but you know that.

What's the book?

Just joining to find out what the book is.

Also nosey to find out book

I also need to know which book!

You’re being mental. Absolutely fine to ask to change the book (although I may revise my position on this if it turns out you have issues with it because you’re a massive homophobe or whatever), but wanting to contact someone and call them a cunt for making an inoffensive comment you don’t agree with is absurd. You need to get your emotions under control and stop being so ridiculous.

What was making her feel uneasy?

I actually agree with you it's a flippant comment that would make me wonder what she actually meant by it.

But then posters saying "you are that mum" doesn't really help, just using words to be mean for no reason.

I currently have a graphics a level tutor telling the kids to use canva...which is boiling my piss! But nobody else will care.

Didn’t Realise any books in this country had an age limit

You are op, you're acting like a nut

Can you elaborate on what it was about the book that made your DD "uncomfortable"?

And yes, what book was it?

It matters what book it is. You also have to recognise that your DD is now in secondary school, so English isn't going to be all about the cute kittens and baa-lambs. Literature gets tough at times. That's the whole point.

What book was it? Wasn't Boris Johnson's autobiography was it?

What's so bad about reading a book you don't love or agree with? That's as useful for learning as reading books you are really comfortable with.

You are seriously overreacting.

Books don't have age ratings.