To be annoyed at the lack of bathrooms

[Applecharm25]

I have my period. I can feel that i need to change my tampon.

I'm out walking round my city. There are no public bathrooms anywhere near me.

I see a sign for a bathroom in a small shopping centre near me. I walk in. The bathroom is actually in a shop. I'm told that the bathroom is only available for paying customers.

So now I have to get in a long queue and wait further and buy something while I really need to change my tampon.

Surely there should be better toilet services available.

No you didnt. You said

Sorry your life is obviously shite and you need verification for your sad interpretation of a normal life.

This thread is a bullying pile on now

There used to be a fair few in my city. Sadly most have closed due to vandalism and drug users hanging out in them. They used to get in a terrible state but now they've completely given up and closed them down.

@OooPourUsACupLove @FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly

Honestly ladies, I'd give up! It's clear people are now being deliberately obtuse!
It's quite clear to me what you're saying!
Must be lovely to have nice clean periods that don't require sometimes having to clean up a murder scene! Just to bob into a little bare changing room, pull one out, pop one in, all stood up and no need to wash your hands! Fantastic! 🙄

Exactly. The OP could have conceded long ago that OK she says 'bathroom' but most people don't as evidenced on here. Also that she doesn't need to pee while changing a tampon but most women do as evidenced on here. But no she is fighting her corner and every post she makes just makes her sound more batshit and now, I think, most of us following the thread are here for entertainment.

FWIW I voted YANBU because we do need more public toilets but the rest is nonsense.

I agree. The OP has an ‘interesting’ interpersonal style to say the least.

I'm really surprised that anyone finds it necessary to point out the lack of public toilets. As if they are 'shocked' they don't exist.

This is something that's been in the media (local and national) for years. It's not a new thing.

The reason is that councils say they can't afford to fund them.
That simple. It's not just the cost of cleaning but repairing them through misuse.

Some of the best I've used are in towns where there is a 20p charge and someone is employed to be on the premises.

My small town used to have 3 blocks of public loos across the town. There is now one block which was refurbished a few years ago.

The difference between then and now is that my town is full of cafes and there are two supermarkets that have toilets.

I don't understand why the OP was so shocked but also unable to plan around this, because it's all about needing to change, when she has a period.

Most women know how long they can go without needing to change, so manage their trips around that. Or they use san protection if they aren't quite sure if their period will come that day.

If there are no loos, they double up with a pad, or period pants. Or work out where there is a loo they can access, like in a cafe, library, shop, museum (it is a city she says she's in) etc.

Coming back time and time to complain over something most adult women just plan for and find an answer to is strange.

And when I first read the title about 'bathrooms' I imagined someone was staying with a friend, or in a hotel, where there weren't enough bathrooms- literally- BATHROOMS.

I'm really surprised that anyone finds it necessary to point out the lack of public toilets. As if they are 'shocked' they don't exist.
This is something that's been in the media (local and national) for years. It's not a new thing.

By a strange coincidence it was an item on R1's "Newsbeat" yesterday although that was to do with a young woman with a bowel condition.

It's been an issue for a very long time. Many support groups for people with bowel and bladder conditions are on the case, but it's an uphill battle as councils won't prioritise.

But there are often ways around it if you do a bit of research before a trip somewhere new. And as someone said, you can get a radar key or sometimes get a Can't Wait card from various charities.

I only read the first few pages, so this may have been said already.

A lot of women find it more comfortable to sit down to remove/insert a tampon, hence the need for a toilet. A lot of women leak blood when they change their tampon (if period is exceptionally heavy), hence the need for a toilet. Even if they're not urinating, a toilet is often more practical than a bare room with a sanpro bin for changing, as a washbasin will also be necessary to clean hands afterwards.

I also can't believe you couldn't find anywhere in a city (not just a town) with a usable toilet. You seem to have a lot of excuses (it was closed, you had to pay, it was being cleaned). There are generally several places in a city. You just seem to have been the unluckiest person to not have found somewhere suitable. Or maybe you just wanted to come on here and keep saying "tampon" to wind people up.

For fuck sake.

I am in the fucking UK.

Do you want me to take a photo.

I am a fucking woman. Do you want me yo take a photo.

As a poster said on this page, this thread has become a disgusting bullying pile on of me.

Some of you should be absolutely ashamed of yourselves.

I've reported you for yet again bullying me

Is it not a bit early in the day to be bullying people. Have you nothing better to do?

I agree.

The bullying on here is really disgusting at this stage.

I have nothing much to do this morning so quite pleased that this thread is still going, as confrontational as ever, to dip in and out of.

You're quite pleased that I'm getting bullied and abused into the ground? Why is that?

It's strange that you enjoy other people being abused.

Other posters on this page have pointed out how disgusting the bullying is.

I have said that I say bathroom and some other people don't.

Who fucking cares.

What do you want to do.

Do you want to shoot me cause I say the word bathroom??

I haven't seen any bullying only your belligerent posting style and refusal to accept anyone else's experience.

21ziggy posted on this page.

"This page is a bullying pile on now".

She sees it.

What's your thoughts to other posters saying that I'm getting a bullying pile on then.

Are yous saying they are wrong?

And that's a total lie.

Show me one post where I "refused to accept anyone else's experience".

I said "we can have toilets for women who need toilets and we could have other options for women who want other options"

You appear to be attention seeking .
Don't you work ?
No need to swear so much, surely.

The bottom line is your posts read like this -

" mature woman (not a girl whose periods have just started) lives in a city but is shocked that she can't find a public toilet to change her san pro.

She's unable to plan her visit into the city and work out how she can access a toilet if she has to. Although as it's her' city' it's unclear how the lack of public toilets is something that's escaped her knowledge."

Cities are full of shops, usually a dept store, Caffe Nero, Costa, M&S, pubs, McDonalds, etc.

All of those will have a toilet she can use.

I disagree with the OP on a couple of points, but I too see the bullying pile-on. So she says bathroom. Most of us don't. That's her choice. And our choice. Get over it! No one is saying everyone has to say bathroom. Live and let live. The bullying of the OP is very shameful for a feminine hygiene issue that affects women, affects us all.

It's not about using 'bathroom' it's about the lack of initiative to plan for needing a toilet and thinking of other options not just a 'public ' toilet.

And her intransigence when asked why she didn't think ahead or at the time.

What have either of those things got to do with the bullying pile on?

There is no need to bully anyone.

Oh OP. Step away from the thread, calm down and perhaps try some meditation in your bathroom.

And you can't always plan.

You don't know how long you will be out and about.

For example I've often experienced train delays.

So I might think that I will get somewhere in 1 hour. Then you get to the train station and find that the train has been delayed for 30 mins. Then the ladies bathroom in the train station could be closed for cleaning etc etc