How much input do you have in your partners wardrobe/appearance

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AIBU to wonder how much input you have in how your partner dresses and presents themselves?

Do you have none at all? Down to not even expressing preferences (yes/no stubble, nice shirt, where are those shoes?) do you compliment what you like, ignore what you don't. Do you even notice? Like if they totally let themselves go at what point would you say something or they maybe went in some weird direction...

Or are you quite active in encouraging them to wear what they like, assuming they do too. Are they quite happy to accept suggestions, do you buy them clothes, do you buy ALL their clothes?!

And vice versa I suppose!

We don't tell each other what to wear but he is more fashionable than me and has probably chosen the majority of our clothes just because he tends to buy them.
He is better than me at picking jeans, it's great.
We do talk with each other before doing anything drastric, but not asking permission.

Quite little

he rarely buys his own clothing including underwear/socks but will comment when he want new. Or while doing laundry I’ll notice he needs new.
when it comes to trousers/shorts and shirts, I get him to try them on and agree or disagree.
decades ago he bought trousers that looked ridiculous on him, horrendous fit. I’m not willing to take that chance. He also doesn’t believe in brand sizing and refuses to understand how Levi’s sizing 33x34 isn’t universal.

He hates clothes shopping and always asks for clothes for xmas/birthdays so I have quite a lot of input 🤣
He doesn’t have any say in what I wear but will offer the occasional opinion knowing I’ll ignore him

Lots of input both ways. We trust each other’s judgement about what looks good as mirrors can be deceiving. He has great taste in clothes and always looks great, but still asks me what I think when buying.

No input as such although I do usually buy him nice clothes as Christmas presents. This year I bought him a pair of Celtic & Co leather boots which were slightly different from his usual Timberlands. But I know his style pretty well and I always choose for him in line with that. I would never try to change how he looks. I realise that resolution might be sorely tested if he looked a fright. But he doesn’t!

No input on what he's wearing. If asked I might offer opinion if he's deciding on what to buy in a shop.

Between my husband’s birthday and Christmas, our parents get him a lot of long sleeves for gifts. He buys his own t-shirts based on movies or games he likes. Trousers, he’ll wear until they’re absolutely falling apart. He doesn’t wear suits because he works from home. I occasionally buy him socks or underwear.

0 input but we do compliment (and critique!) what the other is wearing

We compliment each other when we look really nice (doesnt have to be smart, just a well put together outfit). Other than that very little - I have bought him jumpers for xmas before when Ive seen something that was very much his style, but only occassionally, and I wouldnt buy something that I like but know he wouldnt be fussed by

If he asks which shoes go with his outfit etc I’ll offer an opinion and I often buy him clothing as gifts. The only time I’ve ever felt compelled to speak up was when he started wearing a luminous yellow beanie hat for some reason. It was really awful and soon turned into a joke and started appearing in all kinds of places for me to find.

He's quite stylish and always makes an effort to wear tidy clothes that properly fit and suit him. We do regularly ask each others' opinions but don't necessarily take them on board.

I wouldn't tell DH what to wear, but he likes to ask my opinion on clothes anyway and if I compliment something he's wearing he will be more likely to choose similar items in future. I don't really need to have much input tbh as he takes care of himself and dresses well.

DH lives in jeans and hoodies. Dd and I nick his hoodies.
If he dresses up I complement him and tell him he looks fabulous.

He has a beard. I encourage a goatee occasionally, but it's not my face. Or my time shaving.
He encourages me to buy clothes, and sometimes pays if we're shopping together. I'm bad at buying nice clothes for me.

We're not too bothered about what things look like. We prefer substance over style.

I leave mine to it. He hates buying clothes and will even wear work clothes on his days off. I say nothing, but I always appreciate a stylish looking person.

Yeah I veto most of his choices, he'd dress like a fucking clown otherwise. I failed when it came to the shiny, green, puffer style jacket from Lidl though.

Zero input. But lucky for me he looks good in a casual way and I don't hate his choice. He's also incredibly low maintenance, he still wears the same trousers he's got 8 years ago. He made more effort when we just started dating for sure, twenty years ago.

Zero (probably sadly has he has terrible taste :)"

What? My husband is a grown adult so he can choose his outfits all by himself. I wouldn't accept being told what to wear, or coerced to look a certain way so I wouldn't dream of doing it to someone else.

The only exception I make is if I'm dressed and he comes down in something similar like we're both wearing an orange jumper or a checked shirt or something. I'll ask him to put something else on because I'd feel like a right twat going out all coordinated with him.

About 5%? Dp has good though limited taste imo and that's fine. I have bought him a shirt in the past and have been Eve tempting him to get a made to measure suit when he's father of the bride. He does have two garments I would love him to get rid of but I don't say it.

Fundamentally I love the way he looks. He has a good eye for colour and is the first partner I've ever had who gets rid of really tatty clothes.

I have a lot of input, simply because he would go out looking like Worzel Gummidge if I didn't.

If it wasn't for me, he would get out of the shower and forget to flatten his hair, he wouldn't trim his beard until he was resembling Hagrid, and I dread to think what outfit combos he'd wear.

As far as he's concerned, if it's clean it's fair game - he has no idea or interest in what might go with what.

None, other than when he very occasionally asks me to confirm what colour something is or if a given colour combination works (he is colour blind). I compliment him when something particularly suits him and vice versa. We are both perfectly competent, grown adults, with good personal hygiene and very little interest in how other people choose to dress.

Oh, loads. I buy all his clothes and generally point out when he ought to get a haircut or trim the beard (but not cut it off… never cut it off 🤣). He just doesn’t really give a fuck and I have more time than him to sort it and better taste so I do. He generally asks what he should wear before we go out too! He’d never look bad, of course he’s gorgeous 😇, and if he wanted to choose all his own clothes etc then he’s more than welcome to, it’s just what works for us.

Not very much influence. He’s always been been a casual dresser, whereas I don’t really do casual - I really struggle with it and dislike most casual clothing. As a result I think we usually look like total opposites together!

I have tried to influence him by buying him smarter casual clothes - he’ll wear some of them and likes them, but he won’t wear a suit for example unless it’s for work or a function - he’d never wear one to go out for a meal in, or even suit type trousers, smart shoes and a smart shirt. It’s just not him.