Financial abuse?

[Clmt]

Long story short, my sons dad told me he wont be paying for him anymore and will not be having him overnight one night every weekend, because I simply asked him to have him on the weekend he was due to have him? (He said I misunderstood, although I have texts that show we both understood the schedule).

He has been on a 'career break' for 7 months, since I filed for CMS (our son is 8 months old) and has got money (I worked in HR at our company so I know exactly how much money he took home each month. Before the left he took home £75k in one month in commission).

I filed for court because he can't stick to a schedule and financially abuses me.

What do you make of these messages and what do you suggest I do?

My maternity pay ends next month and benefits won't cover me. I'm looking for work but as of yet haven't had any luck.

It doesn't look like you can afford not to go back to work OP.

You simply cannot force him to have regular contact with your bairn. You can't. You need to take a breath, let him wash over you and hopefully you'll both settle down in time for the bairns sake.

It says right there in the OP:

He has been on a 'career break' for 7 months, since I filed for CMS (our son is 8 months old)

Yes, I went to CMS the week before he quit, which was the same month I went on maternity

So they awarded me that amount on paper, but in the end I never got it. They amended it the week after

Is he in a relationship with her atm? or anyone?

Personally, I'd stop engaging with him about anything other than his child. Your messages are too long and too anger. You need to take all the emotion out of them. He is loving how upset/ angry he is making you. It gives him joy and power. Have you considered a coparenting communication app?

You can't force him to work or to see his child. The court could award him set days but that doesn't mean he needs to use them or be reliable. He's a wanker. Unfortunately, he doesn't have his child's best interests at heart.

On the plus side, I imagine that he's used to living a certain lifestyle and £75k won't keep him going for long. He'll have to get a job eventually unless he set up his own business and then you'll really he fucked.

@Clmt Please get this hidden op, didn't blot or all info

U have my sympathy having to deal with him. He doesn't seem to get how maintenance works or what it is for. It's as though he feels he is paying for ur lifestyle or something. He shld be more concerned about his child and grow up.

So he gave up his well paid job to avoid u getting maintenance through cms. Sounds like £1,350 wld be drop on the ocean to him, that's pretty sad. Cut his nose to spite his face 🙄

Why are you not returning to the employment you left to go on maternity leave?

Sorry ... just read earlier explanation.i would have gone back ... you made it too easy for her.