To have a 4pm wedding?

[B2B25]

So looking to get married in October this year (quite short notice I know) our venue is available on the date we want but they only have 12pm or 4pm, WIBU to opt for the 4pm?

I'm thinking if we do 4pm we can then feed people at a typical tea time? It won't be a fancy wedding breakfast or anything like that, think hog roast/buffet.

Does this sound OK or will people be annoyed at having to wait around all day!?

Only issue may be photos, if you wanted photos outside?

They can be done before the wedding. It means that the guests won't be having to wait around for ages.

I’ve recently been to a 3pm wedding and it was great - something to eat at a reasonable time, and not too tired to enjoy the evening part.

I did say it further up, but we had our photos outside in the dark and they were brilliant. So atmospheric and lovely. Our photographer loved the challenge and brought loads of extra lighting with him so in the photos we're lit brilliantly, then with the lights from the venue or the moon in the background. We also did several inside with just the two of us there were also brilliant, and the low light really adds to them - helps that the venue was quite old, lots of wood panelling, sweeping staircases and chandelliers. Again, we had a great photographer (and assistant) who ensured the lighting was just right.
We did all our group photos inside - ours was at Christmas though so we had them all done in front of a massive fireplace and Christmas tree!

We did photos before our afternoon wedding, it worked really well. We weren't fussed about the whole not seeing each other before tho. We got ready separately then met for the photos outside the venue

Perfect time.

A friend of ours had a 4 pm wedding. We had an afternoon tea style wedding breakfast and then around 7-8 pm once evening guests arrived, they put on a hog roast BBQ for everyone. It was a really lovely day! It was June though, rather than October.

Late afternoon is perfect! Gives everyone time to travel, get ready, have a couple of drinks first etc so more relaxed. Also just the one food element to provide. I'm sure your guests will be grateful, as am I with these times. X

Sounds perfect! I got married at the most awkward time ever at 1.30 so had to spend money on 2 lots of catering for everyone!

We went to a wedding at 1.30 and there was no food until 6.00pm. Meanest bridal couple ever.

12pm would be awful. 4pm is ok but maybe check out some more venues just in case you find a better option?

I have found this is not unusual. In our case it was eight hours. My dh had to go out for sandwiches in the end, and we then discreetly ate them in the car. It was not exactly dignified for the guests in full wedding attire, having picnics in their cars. As a result people got horribly drunk on the watered down Pimm’s and grew very weary and tired before the evening had even started.

Many couples are not willing to sacrifice the size of their weddings, so they make cutbacks elsewhere. It’s not on.

Eight hours! Unreal.

Wow! We got married at 4pm, I think the guests were eating canapés by 5.30 at the latest!

We did this in January worked a treat. Think it was 3pm, we met photographer beforehand to do photos so people weren't sat around. Dinner was at 6pm I think. Really easy, we did do bacon sarnies at 10pm but in hindsight they probably weren't needed although some people have very fond memories of them! 🤣

Honestly we're on a budget and can't justify thousands on a venue. This is a nice room in the local reg office we are lucky the reg office is grade 2 listed building with tons of character.

Go for it. Sounds great.

Too many people get themselves into really tricky spots financially for weddings. It can get so out of hand.
Your wedding honestly sounds perfect to me.

YES do it @B2B25 I have been to two 12 hour marathon weddings at a special venue in 2 years (both weddings cost £20K+.) And both of them were such a fucking ordeal. This is pretty much how they both went...

We had to be at the venue (20 and 25 miles away) for midday, so had to leave at 11am, the 15 minute ceremony was 1pm, and the one and a half hour reception/wedding breakfast was at 3-pm, then the 'night do' started at 7.30pm!

So first of all, we had a gap of nearly 2 hours between the end of the ceremony and the reception, (the bride and groom were away nearly an hour having photos taken, and then they came back and lots of family/group photos were taken.) And then after the reception (3pm to 4.30pm,) we had THREE HOURS between the end of the reception, and the night do.'

So, (including the travel time,) we had a 12 to 12 and a half hour marathon by the time we got home at 11.30pm. We were bored shitless, and tired, and weary, (because of spending so much of the bloody day hanging around!) and just felt so fatigued by the time we left! There were plenty of seats around, and a bar open, but it was still soooooo tedious!

(We had to be there an hour before the ceremony for pre-wedding photos, and to be seated ...)

I went to a 4.30pm wedding in mid December, and OMG it was soooooooooo much better! Pre wedding photos, (half hour,) ceremony, (half hour,) bride and groom went for photos alone for 40 minutes, then they came back, and we all went straight into the reception. It lasted an hour, and then it was the night do at 7pm! Amazing! This 4.30pm wedding cost less than £5K too.

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Sounds fantastic - go for it!