To have a 4pm wedding?

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So looking to get married in October this year (quite short notice I know) our venue is available on the date we want but they only have 12pm or 4pm, WIBU to opt for the 4pm?

I'm thinking if we do 4pm we can then feed people at a typical tea time? It won't be a fancy wedding breakfast or anything like that, think hog roast/buffet.

Does this sound OK or will people be annoyed at having to wait around all day!?

I have never been to a 12pm wedding. 3.30 / 4 is the norm and works really well

We had a 5pm wedding (due to the venue being open to the public until 4pm) and it was great! Not too long of a reception, people could travel on the day and no feeling like we'd been "on" for hours on end! Go for it

It's bizarre not to get married at a certain time of day due to 'stats'. My marriage didn't fail because it was booked in haste or at 4pm, it failed because I married a cheating twat. Outcome would have been the same if we got married at any other time of day or never got married at all - he would have still got the heave ho for not being able to be faithful.

I also got married at 4pm. It was great. Service, rolled straight into champagne and nibbles for a few hours, followed by meal, followed by disco! Meant everyone had enough energy to party properly - if we'd started earlier I think we would have all been exhausted by 9pm!

I had a 3.30pm wedding with the same thought. Why not?

Yeah I'm not fussed about the stats for divorce for 4pm weddings!

Definitely not rushed we've been engaged for 11 years

Great time of day. Also wonderful autumn foliage sprinkled with fairy lights in a dusky light can make magical photos.

Great for a black tie dress code.

People can travel at leisure and do other things then ceremony, pre- dinner drinks and dinner, bit of a party, job done.

Bridal party has the opportunity for a nice brunch before getting ready.

For the protection of guests there should be some unwritten rule that if you have a 12.30pm wedding or before your guests should leave at 6pm latest, and if you want to party into the evening you organise a 3.30/4pm start or later. One should follow with lunch. The other should be dinner. Then everyone would look forward to weddings again.

Definitely. Everyone will have plenty of time to get ready, get merry, meet the others in the group if the wish, then an evening meal. I think that sounds great.

We had a 4pm wedding in October, many years ago. It worked perfectly, loads of time to get ready, out of town guests didn’t need to stay the night before and there wasn’t any waiting around in between different aspects of the day. Someone mentioned running out of daylight for photos - that’s not a problem we had, we were taking photos outside for ages.

It sounds brilliant! If I was to redo my wedding I would do an evening one and spend the day with my fiancé having a nice lie in and breakfast. And then have a relaxed time getting ready.
only thing to consider is daylight hours- you won’t have much/ any daylight left at 4pm at that time of year so consider that if you want outdoors photos

100% agreed!!

I read with interest people saying they wanted to get their money’s worth but do the B&G even enjoy a 16 hour day?? And is it really getting value for money when you are having to provide so much catering for such a long day and hopefully entertainment? Stretching both people’s goodwill and energy levels so thinly.

I wonder as a society whether people will even continue to accept invites given the costs and resources involved, if MN is anything to go by when it comes to no is a full sentence 😂

Sounds great to me !

4pm weddings actually have higher divorce rates but as long as you go into it aware!

90% of internet "facts" are utter rubbish.

Who claims this?
How did they establish it - as your wedding certificate has only date, not time

All of our photos were taken indoors. It's much easier for everyone.

Weddings are far to long a day so 4pm sounds good to me! The only thing to think about would be how long you needed for posed photos (if you are doing them) after the ceremony and before the meal. Could make timings tight.

Perfect time. I'm getting married at 5pm. For me everything flows better, ceremony, straight on to reception/dinner/dancing. No large gaps to fill and no rush for guests or B&G to get ready

As a guest, 4:00pm wedding would definitely be better.

I got married at 4pm but it was abroad. We had a nice breakfast, but of chill by the pool time, lunch then got ready.

For a UK wedding I think it would work well. It's still a long do compared to a normal night out but should avoid the everyone ratarsed at the end when drinking commences at 1pm!

Just check because the ceremony may take longer than you think and you will want time for photos so hopefully still eating at a nice time and can do soeeches/cake then dancing.

Enjoy.

4pm sounds amazing! As pp have said no getting up at the crack of dawn and then it's nice food straight after the ceremony instead of everyone standing around getting hammered!
October weather can be hit and miss ive been to one where it was roasting but yes it will be dark earlier.
Is it child free or child friendly?

I am amazed at all of these reasonable responses! Not a singer bridezilla as yet popped up to tell us we should all be grateful to be graced with a 14 - 16 hour day most of which would be stood watching various poses and photos and starving half to death.

Sounds perfect to me. Loads of time to travel, get ready, have a decent lunch, ceremony at 4pm, reception with drinks/ snacks and then dinner at 7-ish. Far, far better than those all-day weddings, when you have to travel the night before and be present at the church or venue from 10.30 or so, then all afternoon hanging around making chitchat before the big evening do. Go for it, OP.

Sounds like heaven for a guest. It cuts out all the waiting around.

Do it! I would absolutely love to attend a 4pm wedding. So much less waiting around, time to have lunch beforehand, dinner not at a weird mid-afternoon time. What's not to love?