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MarieAntoinetteQueenOfFrance · 12/01/2025 10:51

Don't you have servants to do those tedious tasks?
I usually, buy new dresses, play cards and eat cake.

TotHappy · 12/01/2025 14:45

BingoLarge · 12/01/2025 08:58

I love cooking and driving and do basic “clean as I go”-type cleaning. But I don’t iron or do proper cleaning- I pay my cleaner to come in twice a week for that.

I don’t really understand the question about contribution. I don’t feel I need to justify my existence on earth or place in the family I have created by pointing to a pile of ironing and saying “I did that”. And while at the moment I make a huge practical contribution through the money I earn, running the house, etc, there may come a time when I can’t do these things, and I don’t feel at that point I’d be failing to contribute. I contribute myself.

There is an oddly puritan strain on MN sometimes- a sort of assumption that we’re all somehow in debt to the world and have to prove our right to be here through endless drudgery and moaning about drudgery. Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin.

Yes, this is it. This is so true.

Caswallonthefox · 12/01/2025 14:46

ThoroughlyModernNotMillie · 12/01/2025 05:01

To posters who don't iron at all( and don't pay someone to do the ironing) do you wear all manmade fibres? Because cotton and linen clothes need ironing otherwise they look like a wrinkled mess. Same with cotton duvet covers and pillowcases. Do you ever use a tablecloth because unironed ones look awful. What about if you wash cotton or linen cushion covers, they need ironing or they look a mess?

In the winter everything goes in a dryer and is taken out and folded not underwear, I'm not that sad. My bedding included.
In the summer it's all hung on an indoor rotary line and folded when dry.
If I don't bother with t-shirts and bedding during the winter, nobody cares cuz it's just me and my cat and coat covers it if I'm outside.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/01/2025 14:50

I'm assuming you don't mewlan people who outsource all of their domestic tasks, but rather women who do less housework than you consider acceptable, OP?

dcsp · 12/01/2025 14:52

NoNoNona · 11/01/2025 23:03

You do not cook, clean, tidy, drive or iron.
There seem to be a load of people on this site that do none of these things (and I am not advocating that they are the only people in a family to shoulder the burden).
So what, exactly, is your contribution?

Ironing is a pointless activity that there's really no need to do. No-one in our family has done it for at least 6.5 years (as that's when we moved into current house - the iron is still in a box in the garage).

Driving is something that you may not need to do, depending where you live, where you work, etc.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/01/2025 14:54

Anyway, sounds a bit goady. Anyway, I've spotted a possible flaw in your logic - are you assuming that the non-driving posters on the threads about driving are the same people as the non-ironing posters on the threads about ironing etc? MN has rather a lot of members,and they aren't a hive mind.

MarkingBad · 12/01/2025 15:36

ThoroughlyModernNotMillie · 12/01/2025 05:01

To posters who don't iron at all( and don't pay someone to do the ironing) do you wear all manmade fibres? Because cotton and linen clothes need ironing otherwise they look like a wrinkled mess. Same with cotton duvet covers and pillowcases. Do you ever use a tablecloth because unironed ones look awful. What about if you wash cotton or linen cushion covers, they need ironing or they look a mess?

As a slider I have to wear mostly natural fibre clothing inc cotton otherwise I attract static electric like a golfer in a thunderstorm

I don't have a tumbledryer, I add white vinegar to the wash which helps smooth wrinkles, remove laundry straight away, fluff/shake, fold and hang to dry right away. I smooth out any area where wrinkling may occur and hang to dry naturally, no peg marks and already got the hanger in place for putting away, bed linen gets hung straight on the line and pulled into shape, haven't needed to iron in years.