To have told a friend DH was home watching Gossip Girls

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I admit I was laughing about it with a friend as she told me her DH was home playing PlayStation Fifa or something. Problem is she teased him about it this evening and he went really mad at me saying I should not talk about his private life. Ffs. When I teased him about it earlier saying I don't think many 50 year old men watching that he went all defensive saying it was funny with a lot of romantic stories involved so not really a woman thing. I said no, rather teen girls thing because I know I couldn't stand to watch it. So yes, I was making fun of him but at the same token was it such a private matter ? I mean he clearly felt it was perfectly normal to watch Gossip Girls so why doesn't he own it? He went out fuming and I just think he overreacts. I told him we were laughing about her 50 year old husband playing PlayStation so it wasn't as he was the only one targeted. Was I out of line? Was it a too private thing to have shared?

You seem weird.

Why?

I did because I apologies to him and he did the same and all is good. He even jokes about it himself now.

He said both when I asked him. He's a sucker for romantic comedies so I believe him.

That's the thing though, we usually poke fun at each other. He's fine with me poking fun at him, what I shouldn't have done was tell our friend and I regret that.

I thought it was because another friend's teen girl was obsessed with the show. I admit I haven't watched it until a couple of days ago when my DH asked me to join him. I lasted 10 minutes but atleast I tried. I think Motherland is more my thing but each to their own.

You are saying the OP's husband seems weird for watching a show. Why are making such a judgement? Why does it matter if he watches a harmless show? I think your judgment is weird and unnecessary.

Yes, that’s the mistake you made, in a way you betrayed him, but anyway, all seems to have been forgiven now

There's an internet meme with the the caption 'Ssh. Just let people enjoy things.' I think that applies here. Sometimes, we just want to enjoy something easy and fun for its own sake without having to justify it or have the piss taken or be told it's silly or not for us or whatever, and I suspect that was the case with your DH here. Most of us have comfort viewing, comfort eating, comfort reading etc, and most of us don't really like having the joy sucked out of that by someone taking the piss or passing judgement. Plus, it's one thing to tease each other (my DP and I tease each other all the time) but it's quite another thing to involve a friend in that. There are many things that I'd tease my DP about that I'd certainly never mention to a friend.

This.
Live at let live! Who cares if someone wants to watch a harmless show.

If my husband was watching Gossip Girl, I'd take the piss and my husband would just laugh.

He said he didn't care that she knew (her and her DH are friends of ours and we meet up regularly) it's the fact that she started teasing him about it that he didn't appreciate. I wasn't there but apparantly her DH stepped in and told her off. I know I wouldn't have teased her DH for his PlayStation addiction, it's a bit tonedeaf but the onus is on me because I was the one to open my mouth..

Yes, she could t have teased him if she didn’t know about it in the first place

I don't know why you are getting so worked up about my comment.
As I said I'd never even heard of Gossip Girls. But I looked it up.
It sounds mind numbingly boring. And I see the target audience is women aged 18 to 24, or 34. I'm way past that age range anyway but nothing would have induced me to watch it even if I were in that demographic.
So i would think that it is pretty weird a 50 year old married man watching it. I actually find it even weirder that he watches it but wants to be secretive about watching it .
But. He is perfectly entitled to watch it.
I'm perfectly entitled to post my opinion on this thread. And I dont think my opinion falls into " weird" territory at all.

But isn’t that the point of ‘guilty pleasure’ tv watching? It’s supposed to be something a bit out of your usual watching that you don’t necessarily want broadcast to all and sundry (that doesn’t mean it’s something completely unsavoury). It wouldn't be a guilty pleasure if it were a 50 yr old man watching the football or a 50 year old woman watching Vera would it?

I'm sorry but I've never really heard of " guilty pleasure " tv watching.

Tbh I've never been a great fan of tv - I much prefer listening to radio, or music, or audio books. So I don't watch a great deal of tv and I have a very low boredom threshold so I only watch what I really want to watch. I don't think I watch anything I wouldn't readily admit to.

Wow, some people have no sense of humour OP. I don't see what you've done wrong at all. It was a joke, which you've now realised he doesn't appreciate. You weren't doing it to be mean. Just apologise and hopefully, yall can move on.

Your friend shouldn't have said anything. It was a private joke between you and her. Why did she think your DH would appreciate it coming from her? Smh. I think you should slightly tell her off so that she knows not to repeat the same mistake next time

Gossip girls actually is quite addictive and got a lot of story lines to it, me and my OH have watched it a few times.

I can see why he doesn't want to be ridiculed about it, because people are judgey

A guilty pleasure could be something like an outwardly serious, high flying person secretly liking Real Housewives or At Home with the Kardashians etc. There have been threads on MN in the past about it (can be anything, not just tv but hopefully something fairly wholesome).

I understand what you mean. But I'm a sort of straightforward person. If I wanted to watch something I would just watch it and openly admit it.
The feeling guilty about watching stuff or being secretive about it seems really tied up with image doesn't it? Not wanting to loose face. I suppose I don't really have an image that's worth anything to start with so I wouldn't lose face.