To have told a friend DH was home watching Gossip Girls

[arcticpandas]

I admit I was laughing about it with a friend as she told me her DH was home playing PlayStation Fifa or something. Problem is she teased him about it this evening and he went really mad at me saying I should not talk about his private life. Ffs. When I teased him about it earlier saying I don't think many 50 year old men watching that he went all defensive saying it was funny with a lot of romantic stories involved so not really a woman thing. I said no, rather teen girls thing because I know I couldn't stand to watch it. So yes, I was making fun of him but at the same token was it such a private matter ? I mean he clearly felt it was perfectly normal to watch Gossip Girls so why doesn't he own it? He went out fuming and I just think he overreacts. I told him we were laughing about her 50 year old husband playing PlayStation so it wasn't as he was the only one targeted. Was I out of line? Was it a too private thing to have shared?

Agree, I think some women like humiliating and ridiculing their husbands, I see my mother doing it to my father, it’s quite nasty

You knew a grown man wouldn’t want you telling your female friends about this, can he not watch what he wants in his own home without fear of women gossiping about it

OK.. Luckily others do. But thanks anyway.

It's called Gossip Girl not Gossip Girls and it's a bloody masterpiece.

I still want to be Blair Waldorf when I grow up and I'm 47.

It’s only funny op if your husband is in on the joke.

otherwise it’s just mean spirited

You sound very mean.

My husband enjoyed watching gossip girl with me. I think you and your friend were both mean.

I suspect he was enjoying the actresses rather than the narrative.

Yes this. Do you not know the difference? What you were doing is mocking him to someone else and that’s not on. We all have our (innocent) guilty pleasure, something we don’t necessarily want broadcast. Your friend should know better too.

It’s not that difficult. It’s about a tv programme called Gossip Girl.

He feels ridiculed so I get why he’s upset. Your friend was out of order disclosing that you’d told her too. I’d be annoyed at her.

He stormed out because you were laughing at him. That’s really unkind to do to your partner. I agree I wouldn’t expect many men to watch Gossip Girl, but that’s not a reason to be mean. Do you go around poking fun at everyone who does something different or unexpected? What a dull world it would be if everyone did the same thing. I hope you don’t have an unusual hobby!

Mean Girls gossiping about Gossip Girls equals Mad Men.

Agreed. It was released in 2007 and is still one of the most streamed shows. I was in my early 20s and loved it!

@arcticpandas lol. No, you’re fine. In a normal healthy relationship you can have a laugh at and with each other. That can extend to your friend group sharing that. I’m quite sure your husband just over reacted. It is a funny thing to do. I’d take the mick out of mine to friends if he did that and to be fair, he’d understand it’s deserved and laugh along. It’s not emotionally cruel, it’s humour. There is a difference and that’s mocking and belittling. That doesn’t sound like your aim. Just apologise and let him know no malice intended and move on.

A) why is it "funny" that a man watches gossip girls?
B) why is it funny that a 50 year old plays playstation games?
My dad is 72 and has a Xbox, Nintendo switch and a playstation.
I'm 43 and I still play computer games and watch TV that people would probably ridicule me for.

You weren't laughing with him you were laughing at him and ensuring your friend laughed at him. That's bordering on mental abuse!

You did embarrass him .
he can watch what he likes and it was in private.

You disapprove of his viewing and shared your ridicule with your friends.
that is pretty bitchy.
you invited others to ridicule him.

if he’d been watching something you consider more suitable you probably would have said he was at home watching tv.

instead you named the show in a way that makes fun of him.

gossip girl
what’s the harm.
there are twists
there are good interiors and fashion .
it’s relaxing viewing.

Bordering on mental abuse? Luckily my DH and I are used to making fun of each other in a lighthearted way and his overreaction was due to stress at work. But if he needs therapy I will offer to cover the bill.

What I didn’t like was you telling him it was a programme for teenage girls. Why box people in like that?

I agree that couples should be able to tease each other (to an extent) but in all honestly if I had a ‘guilty pleasure’ tv show and my partner and his mate mocked/teased me I’m not sure I’d laugh along.

Your friend is nasty for bringing it up to your husband!

I don’t think his over reaction was due to stress, you knew that you were publicly humiliating him when you were doing it.

You were well aware that the majority of men would not want people ( gossipy bunch of women) knowing they watched Gossip Girl, and you and your mates probably had a good laugh about it

@BunnyLake i guess it depends on knowing your husband and knowing your relationship. I do think a giggle about TV watching isnt abusive or nasty but understand that’s not how others may find it. I would expect them to have that knowledge within their own relationship of each others boundaries. I do wonder what mirthless humans can’t laugh at themselves along with family and friends though over TV. Fair enough if he was doing something private or it was about his physical appearance or personality. But TV? I’m so glad we laugh a lot in this house, and that extends to what may appear the slightly ridiculous.

I have always been a big believer in not taking yourself too seriously (massive turn off for me) but there have been times when someone close has ‘teased’ me about something I have liked and, I don't know why but for whatever reason it hasn’t made me laugh or feel ok about it (although I probably didn’t say anything).

it feels like you are not taking people’s remarks seriously and refuse to see that you were being mean. For you this was a joke, but for him it clearly wasn’t. I think it’s time for some reflection about your behaviour and an apology to your husband for gossiping and making fun of his hobby.

Making fun of each other to each other is fine.

To your friend that was being nasty. You both sound like those mean girls from school.

I wouldn't be putting your husband reaction down to stress to be honest. I think he was rightly cross with you.