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To have told a friend DH was home watching Gossip Girls

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arcticpandas · 11/01/2025 21:53

I admit I was laughing about it with a friend as she told me her DH was home playing PlayStation Fifa or something. Problem is she teased him about it this evening and he went really mad at me saying I should not talk about his private life. Ffs. When I teased him about it earlier saying I don't think many 50 year old men watching that he went all defensive saying it was funny with a lot of romantic stories involved so not really a woman thing. I said no, rather teen girls thing because I know I couldn't stand to watch it. So yes, I was making fun of him but at the same token was it such a private matter ? I mean he clearly felt it was perfectly normal to watch Gossip Girls so why doesn't he own it? He went out fuming and I just think he overreacts. I told him we were laughing about her 50 year old husband playing PlayStation so it wasn't as he was the only one targeted. Was I out of line? Was it a too private thing to have shared?

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InWalksBarberalla · 12/01/2025 02:56

It's not much of a defence that you were both also laughing about your friend's husband.

poemsandwine · 12/01/2025 02:59

Why do you find it funny to ridicule your husband to your friends? What do you get out of it? Nasty.

Disturbia81 · 12/01/2025 11:52

Nothing wrong with playing playstation or watching whatever at any age. So the teasing is too much.

Though on a personal note some of the men I know (if they did watch those shows) would be to perv on the teenagers so that would give me the ick.

IlooklikeNigella · 12/01/2025 11:55

This is the sort of stuff I'd tease DH about and he'd roar laughing because he'd known I was saying it affectionately.... EXCEPT during periods of his life when he's not feeling good about himself (for example when he lost his job), then he reacts like your DH and gets angry about being the butt of everyone's jokes.

rwalker · 12/01/2025 12:16

So basically you told him that you and your friend sit talking about him laughing and poking fun at him

I don’t think anyone would appreciate that
also going forward I would be incredibly guarded wonder if anything I did would be relayed back to your friends for a cheap laugh and to entertain them

you’ve fucked up massively

poemsandwine · 12/01/2025 12:21

I don’t think anyone would appreciate that
also going forward I would be incredibly guarded wonder if anything I did would be relayed back to your friends for a cheap laugh and to entertain them

Same. I wouldn't want to share much with someone who took the piss out of me with their friends.

SoapySponge · 12/01/2025 12:22

SheridansPortSalut · 11/01/2025 22:08

Stop ridiculing him.

You're laughing at him, not with him, which is pretty unpleasant.

This. I am 100% with your DH.
Apologise.

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arcticpandas · 12/01/2025 12:23

IlooklikeNigella · 12/01/2025 11:55

This is the sort of stuff I'd tease DH about and he'd roar laughing because he'd known I was saying it affectionately.... EXCEPT during periods of his life when he's not feeling good about himself (for example when he lost his job), then he reacts like your DH and gets angry about being the butt of everyone's jokes.

I think you might be onto something.. We do like to tease each other. He makes fun of me cause I'm such an "old lady " with my heating blankets and need to go to bed early..
Him being stressed now is probably why he lashed out. He did apologise for his overreaction and I said sorry as well so it's dealt with. My friend is his friend as well, we often hang out with her and her DH and he does stuff with her DH and our children are friends so we are all close. I guess that's why my friend felt confortable to tease him while I admit that I wouldn't have said anything about her DH being on Play all day so as to not make him embarrassed...

Thank you all for your input. Well thanks to those who have been polite. You can say you don't agree with someone without calling names and be rude which thankfully the majority of posters did.

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SofaSurfer1993 · 12/01/2025 12:24

My husband likes Mean Girls 😂 Sounds like he and your husband would get on pretty well. I’d sad your friend was being a bit of an arsehole.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 12/01/2025 12:27

My DH likes gossip girl 🤣 I'd say it's obviously a guilty secret though and he felt embarrassed for whatever reason. You've apologised, he's apologised, all good.

Spondoolies · 12/01/2025 12:52

I think I would be a little bit suspect with it being a show based around teenage girls sex lives

notontime · 12/01/2025 13:27

I dont have a husband im single but i love bl dramas sad i know but i like them so dose my son and my 2 close friends.
we would never take the piss out of anyone of what they watch but we do joke to each other about it.
I dont think you was laughing at your husband in an ill way maybe he just dont want anyone to know tbh he has nothing to be ashamed of its just a show.

Foxgloverr · 12/01/2025 18:19

Spondoolies · 12/01/2025 12:52

I think I would be a little bit suspect with it being a show based around teenage girls sex lives

It's about teenage boys' sex lives too. Does that make the women who watch it "suspicious"?

HappyPanda613 · 12/01/2025 18:23

Me and my friend make fun of her husband because he likes to paint little toy soldiers and play pretend war with them in the basement. He paints them really nice and all but it’s just funny to me.

Suffernsocotash · 12/01/2025 18:36

My 50 year old DH loves Gossip Girl. I think he’s watched it three or four times now. He wouldn’t give a shit what his friends thought about it.

NavyTurtle · 16/01/2025 21:13

arcticpandas · 11/01/2025 21:53

I admit I was laughing about it with a friend as she told me her DH was home playing PlayStation Fifa or something. Problem is she teased him about it this evening and he went really mad at me saying I should not talk about his private life. Ffs. When I teased him about it earlier saying I don't think many 50 year old men watching that he went all defensive saying it was funny with a lot of romantic stories involved so not really a woman thing. I said no, rather teen girls thing because I know I couldn't stand to watch it. So yes, I was making fun of him but at the same token was it such a private matter ? I mean he clearly felt it was perfectly normal to watch Gossip Girls so why doesn't he own it? He went out fuming and I just think he overreacts. I told him we were laughing about her 50 year old husband playing PlayStation so it wasn't as he was the only one targeted. Was I out of line? Was it a too private thing to have shared?

I do not have a clue what you are talking about.

VoodooRajin · 16/01/2025 21:20

I think your friend was in thecl wrong really, but maybe your dh needs to be a bit more chuck bass

XWKD · 16/01/2025 21:23

You're ridiculing him for watching "girl's stuff"?

Toxic masculinity right there, and the perpetrators are women.

Peachy2005 · 16/01/2025 21:39

My DH (51) watches Eastenders, which I think is embarrassing. I don’t usually mention it to anyone outside the family because if I slagged him off to someone else, they might assume it’s fine to slag him off directly - and I think he would be upset about that. We all have our guilty viewing/musical pleasures that we wouldn’t like a partner/spouse’s friend to make fun of us over. It’s just basic family loyalty I think.

dayslikethese1 · 16/01/2025 21:45

What's wrong with watching Gossip Girl, it's no more dumb than a lot of the other stuff on TV. I watch TV to rest my brain after work so im with your DH😆

JustJoinedRightNow · 16/01/2025 21:48

NavyTurtle · 16/01/2025 21:13

I do not have a clue what you are talking about.

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BrushedSuede · 16/01/2025 21:59

I once overheard my DF telling my DM he thought I was weird because I enjoyed watching the Golden Girls and Thirty Something. I was 13. I remember being really upset and confused.

Noglitterallowed · 16/01/2025 22:00

Never mind gossip girl you sound more mean girls. Why the hell can’t people watch what they want to watch without being ridiculed? Is it because it’s “girly” ? Would it be so funny if you were saying watching a war film or a superhero film because that’s a “man thing”??

I think laughing at him like that is awful so yeah I’d be pissed aswel if I was him

Globusmedia · 16/01/2025 22:03

I mean, noone likes people laughing at them.

FarmGirl78 · 16/01/2025 23:05

I think it's very gracious of him to apologise for his reaction.

However there's still a marked difference between laughing WITH him about something when it's a teasing joke between you, and laughing AT him with friends, and then friend laughing AT him to his face. While you obviously have a good relationship and banter along it's worth keeping in mind, because next time you might hurt him moreso.